Met a girl with Bipolar, gone bad

[Jules981120]

met a girl from bumble and we went on 3 dates. Everything was going well, we had long talks about what we wanted from a partner in a relationship and what we think we did wrong in our past relationships.

I texted her yesterday asking if she'd ever pick me up and drive me in her car on days when I'm tired since I drive all day for work. After I said that I said "Cuz trauma lmfaooo" in which I was referring to me driving my brother all around and being the "3rd parent". She took that as me referring to me being my ex girlfriends Uber and she then went off on me about how I compare her, and am "testing" her.

She went to sleep and texted me in the moring that she didn't want me to think she was giving me the silent treatment, since I told her I don't like it when my ex did that to me.

And basically she went to therapy today, came out of it, and told me she didn't wanna see me anymore and that she didn't like the way I made her feel by being super blunt whenever she talks to me. She had also said she used to be very blunt and she realizes she is sorry for being blunt to her friends because she says she doesn't like how it feels.

I feel this got blown out of proportion when I wasn't even referring to my ex gf originally, but my brother, and she took that and went off in 10 different directions.

She said she was also mad that I didn't know why she was mad, and that I couldn't see her Pov even though she explained it 5 times to me.

I asked her if she was this upset because of the bipolar because I had no other idea what it could have been, which of course, led to her calling me a A-hole.

I am planning to return her her jacket to her driveway and leave it there with a note and her favorite flowers. But I don't want to break any boundaries, and thats why I'm thinking of leaving it on the driveway and not the front door. Her ex boyfriend egged her house, so I guess me giving her jacket back isn't too bad?

I had also asked her why would she have sex with me, ask me out, all on the first date, if by date #3 she was gonna blow up over such a tiny thing? It's like super hot and cold and idk if she was having a bad day or something but she took it so personally which I didn't mean to do.

Was I wrong? She really was cool and we did like each other, she sent me back her money from our dates without me even asking about it, and told me to throw out her sweater she left in my car.

We are blocked everywhere since I had asked her to block me, when I get attached to someone, id rather them block me so I know I can't see them or even know they exist. Knowing that person is there, but I can't have them, hurts more then not seeing them at all.

Today was supposed to be our fourth date

"It still think it exploded from nothing"

This^. This is a quote from your last post. This is not completely owning it. This shows you're saying sorry but not understanding why you're saying it. Because you still don't understand her perspective and where she's coming from.

I'm starting to wonder if you're being deliberately obtuse now since you've had a whole host of women explain this to you multiple times and you're still widely missing the point.

Oh ok, I see what you're saying. I'm not trying to be

You've both fallen on your own swords here by inappropriate oversharing and over-analysing of past relationships - nobody does that by date 3. It would be a red flag to have to sit and listen to someone analysing what went wrong in their past. It would certainly give me the ick if done on first date, there would not be a second. Mind you, I'd only shag on a first date if that was what I was after at the time, rather than a relationship (I have never had sex on a first OLD, that's plain dangerously unsafe ).
Who knows, you may well have met her during a mania phase, which would explain the reckless keen sex on a first date with you. You are still trying too hard to smooth things over so she changes her mind. If you get attached so quickly that you have trouble letting go, I'd advise taking more time over imtimacy in future.
Just drop the jacket off, without the flowers, no need for a note, it's been 3 dates, let it go.

The flowers and note I was thinking of doing because she said she wanted those things from a potential partner

when she is having a bad day, and when it's actually just her and not a mental health episode

That isn't owning it. You were still looking for something in her to pin the outcome on, not accepting it sprang from what you said. And you're still wanting to give flowers etc to influence and outcome, not because you are genuinely sorry and understand your role? Leave her alone.

@Opentooffers he had sex on a first date too. Does that mean he also was in a manic phase and recklessly keen?

But you are not a potential partner though. You screwed that up by basically calling her mental. You are now in the Ex category and will never get out of that. You might slide into the crazy stalker Ex with a police caution category if you continue to ignore what she is saying to you.

She's explained multiple times and you didn't understand. So you came here and multiple people have explained multiple times and you still don't understand. Which leads me to some very uncomfortable conclusions. Most of them point to you needing therapy with an experienced professional.