Top places exH sulked - can anyone top these! (semi-lighthearted!)

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Currently going through a divorce from my super sulker ex, and often find myself thinking, with incredulity, at some of the sulks soon-to-be-exH pulled in the most inopportune moments! Top sulk moments -

• On a beach in the Florida Keys. Also a beach in Miami (separate occasion)
• Sitting in the 3rd row of the stalls at Hamilton on Broadway
• At my birthday dinner out in a fancy restaurant
• All the way on a 3hr train journey to a romantic weekend away I planned for his birthday
• The first Christmas I went to stay with his family
• At Peppa Pig World in the very long queue for a ride
• DC's birthday party
• On a cruise in the middle of the Caribbean
• Looking round wedding venues...

I'm sure there are more, but anyone got any crackers from sulking partners to make me feel better?!

My late father was a huge sulker. Would spend years, not days, refusing to talk to us at times. By my early 20’s, parents had been divorced for a few years but the co-dependence was still in full force. So, we went on holiday. Those two, myself and 1 of my siblings. Something wasn’t to his liking so he did his usual thing. Sit looking into thin air and ignore everyone.

What he didn’t take into account though was that myself and my sister were adults. So we left him to stew and had a lovely week sightseeing 🤣

In a lovely restaurant in Lanzarote, when everyone had to wear masks because of covid. DP walked in without his on, threw a strop when asked to wear it, shouted at the waitress and then just walked out leaving me sitting there on my own.

Finally came back half hour later, sat down without apologising so I finished my drink, told him I was leaving and got up and left to go back to the apartment. He appeared about 2 hours later after he'd been for a meal on his own and didn't talk to me for the rest of the night and the next day, because I'd ruined his evening. Didn't give a shit that he'd embarrassed and upset me though

That's vile

Wow what a thread!

I've sadly enjoyed it because it resonates to my experiences with my ex-h who was a champion sulker on birthdays, holidays, in hotels, at parties, with me, my children, my family etc. We had a lovely life and did many great things but if they weren't about him, of specific interest to him or we (especially the children) werent behaving as he expected then he would sulk. Can't believe I put up with it so long but finally escaped and have not looked back!

There are so many that I'm going to stop remembering now as they make me anxious! Lots of love to all who have put up with this behavior and got out and those who are still experiencing it but who will find the strength to escape.

@vidflex

But his best sulk of all was when my waters broke and I had to get to hospital as the Grand Prix was on and he'd have to miss it. I went alone.

Oh. My. God!!!! I'm glad you divorced him! I bet he was "surprised"! 🌹

An ex was a horrible sulker. Once he sulked because my Mum’s kitchen table had collapsed (he said it was “all hectic”).

DH arranged a day with his parents to tell them the good news that I was pregnant. The plan was a lovely morning out, then tell them the news over lunch, then a few hours back at their place for them to get all excited and talk about baby things (DH is an only child so this would be their first grandchild so we knew MIL would be incredibly excited). All requested and planned by DH. I was really tired and slightly nauseous most of the time but agreed because I thought it would be a lovely thing to do.

For no apparent reason, he went in to a sulk just before we arrived to collect his parents. He communicated to me, with head and hand gestures, that I should knock on the door to get his parents but after that made no attempt to communicate or even look at any of us all morning. He even ignored me when I asked for help a heavy bag out of the car. PIL attempted to get him to speak but when it was obvious that he was in a sulk they just acted like nothing was happening. Then at lunch time he grunted his order and sat looking at his phone. The when the food arrived he took my hand, and with a big smile announced our news as if the sulking had not happened. He seemed genuinely shocked when I told him, and his parents, that was not willing to just smile and pretend he had not sulked for several hours, that he should be aware that causing me stress was bad for the baby and that instead of going back to PIL for the afternoon we needed to go home for a serious conversation about whether we could continue to be together.
Up until that point I had put up with his sulky behaviour. But that on that day I felt I had a snapshot of my future with him and I did not like it at all. If I had not been pregnant I think I would just have walked.

I am pleased to say that was the last time he sulked (around me anyway) and the baby in question is now an adult. I later found out that his Dad was a big sulker and DH had been brought up to think that it was perfectly normal and better than ever arguing/vocalising a disagreement. I never did find out what made him sulk that day.

An ex of mine had a massive sulk because I dropped something on the floor in the bathroom so he burst in like a lunatic wanting to know what it was.

I was about to sit down on the loo so I was a bit shocked and kind of went ‘what? What?’. Apparently, I should have realised he was just worried. I came out the bathroom and he was sitting in a corner with his bottom lip stuck out like a toddler. He didn’t speak to me for about a week.

That wasn’t the only time but it was one of the most memorable.

I was wondering why she even let him in. I’d have left him on the doorstep

Name change, just in case

My adult daughter's parents-in-law were at my daughter's & son in law's house. As was I
FIL wanted chips from the nearby chippy
Said chippy was closed
Other chippies were open and nearby.

God he sulked.
Refused all offers to get chips from elsewhere.
He pouted
He wanted chips from the closed chippy
Not chips from anywhere else

He actually got up, left the lounge and went outside into the front garden to sulk there, and pout presumably, with a lot of sighing

My daughter has since divorced and thankfully we have nothing to do with them now

My exP sulked all the time. Highlights include...

My sister's wedding, because I was in the bridal party and he wasn't

A week long ski trip to Saas-Fee with our friends, because he wasn't the best skier in the group (not the worst either, but he needed to be the best)

When I completed my MSc and went out to celebrate, because I was just showing off

When he dragged me to his work christmas party and I got along well with his colleagues, because I was interfering with his work

Whenever I opened a bottle of wine on Sunday evening because Sundays were school nights and it was forbidden to drink on school nights. Unless he went out with his friends, then it was ok for him to drink on school nights.
I used to make risotto or ragu nearly every Sunday just so I could open a bottle of wine and be a little bit in control of my own decisions.

I think I married my now DH because he never sulks about anything, which was very attractive after putting up with a sulker for so long. And we quite like a glass of wine on Sundays still!

Not ex husband but my ex boy friend would sulk all time on the phone to his sister and mother.
Ive been single ever since 8 years and loving it.

On the dance floor at a friend's wedding because I wouldn't do the dance he wanted to do.

The day before going to Hong Kong on a business trip. He failed to communicate what he wanted done for a promo and then didn't like the result. He threw a paddy, said he wasn't going to go and went into a massive sulk. I said I was going regardless and then stayed up all night redoing the promo. He did come with me after all, but was still sulking when we landed.

So happy I'm divorced. Never doing that again.

My ex husband was in the middle of one of his regular 4 day sulks. When he eventually realised I'd had enough, he certainly got quite chatty trying to convince me to stay. It was too late by then.

Huffs, silent treatment, sulking all wear a person down.
The fool thought he could just keep doing it, and I'd stay. Awful. Stupid man.

God. I. Hate. Sulking

largely because I’m too lazy to bother sulking myself

I don't think I have anyone like this in my life... cue me wondering whether I am the sulker!

exBIL was a massive sulker - how SIL put up with it, I'll never know. He once sulked all evening while I was there (they'd had an argument before I arrived) and then, much to my surprise, when SIL went to check on their DC, tried to tell me he couldn't help it - he "wears his heart on his sleeve" and basically that it was her fault. He'd been rude all evening, to ME, but he still wanted ME to blame HER.

Similarly, they had a big fight and he sulked for weeks because we planned a baby shower for her because it was HIS baby too and he wanted to be part of it. SIL eventually was brow beaten came round to his way of thinking. Anyone, on the day, he was working so arrived half way through. In retrospect, I realise that he was cross that she hadn't rescheduled it to work with his work schedule, but at the time, we were all bemused as he stomped into the house, ignored all of us and went upstairs. He didn't reappear until hours later, long after all our partners/children had turned up.

@Newestname002 not for much longer. When our daughter has finished her exams we have a family holiday planned and then I am dropping the bombshell.

On our honeymoon, at someone else's wedding reception, and on a weekend away with friends, making for much awkwardness all round.

These are hilarious and at the same time rather heartbreaking. The ones who sulk at their own wedding or the birth of their own child… you have to wonder what goes on in their minds to do that on such occasions. Narcism? Or just plain childishness?

Wow these are jaw-dropping. Before I read this thread I thought I was a sulker. Now I realise I am a mere dabbler, a feeble dilettante wandering in the foothills of the mighty mountain of Mansulke.

On a 4 day surprise trip to Paris that I'd organised for his 40th. I was a SAHM at the time and had saved for months and months to pay for it - he was disappointed it was 'just' Paris. He was monosyllabic and spent the entire time walking yards ahead of me wherever we went. For my 40th two years later he bought me a multipack of pyjamas.

Lol great game! I too got rid of a super sulker a few years ago.

In Hong Kong harbour, right after we got off the star ferry. He also stomped off with the bag that had the money/phones in for good measure! (he is from HK I am not) and left pregnant me and two toddlers stranded there.

In las ramblas Barcelona, the Picasso museum and a restaurant in the beach. That was a record two hours of sighing, eye rolling sulking and refusing to speak to staff.

At every trip to Disney ever.

In both my hospital rooms after giving birth because the attention wasn’t on him.

Every birthday that’s not his ever, including the kids.

Every Christmas ever.

At the shelter when adopting our cat.

In mothercare when choosing the pram.

At my graduation (another record hours not speaking a word to me)

At my grandmas funeral.

At his bosses wedding.

And last but not least, and my personal favourite. When I came round from emergency surgery and it became apparent I’d ruined his golf trip 💀 the nurses vilified him. It was most amusing.

My daughter is married to a sulker, i wish she would leave him.

Did he stay there until the Party ended?