Top places exH sulked - can anyone top these! (semi-lighthearted!)

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Currently going through a divorce from my super sulker ex, and often find myself thinking, with incredulity, at some of the sulks soon-to-be-exH pulled in the most inopportune moments! Top sulk moments -

• On a beach in the Florida Keys. Also a beach in Miami (separate occasion)
• Sitting in the 3rd row of the stalls at Hamilton on Broadway
• At my birthday dinner out in a fancy restaurant
• All the way on a 3hr train journey to a romantic weekend away I planned for his birthday
• The first Christmas I went to stay with his family
• At Peppa Pig World in the very long queue for a ride
• DC's birthday party
• On a cruise in the middle of the Caribbean
• Looking round wedding venues...

I'm sure there are more, but anyone got any crackers from sulking partners to make me feel better?!

Ex was an epic sulker. Never really was a reason other than they tended to correspond with an event or outing that was special or important to me - so family celebrations, a work event you could almost set your watch by him.

Another ex sulked his way through my brothers destination wedding. He was travelling with my parents and younger siblings and sulked the whole journey. I had gone ahead to help out and he was pissed off that I had dared to have a nice few days before he got there. I dumped him not long after we got back.

DH tried sulking once early on in our relationship. I acted like I didn't notice a thing because I'm far more stubborn than him and I'd be damned if I were to indulge his childishness by acknowledging his sulk, so he swiftly copped on when he realised he was looking like a dipshit.

Waited years to get tickets in the ballot for Wimbledon. Finally got tickets but day was ruined by ex who sulked the whole time then faked a migraine so we had to leave early. He was fine once we got home as he had achieved what he set out to do..ruin my day.

I've heard of a number of men who've sulked while their wives are in labour - and immediately after - because they were hungry/no one took their concerns into account / they were ignored. Such a massive red flag.

exBIL was (is) a sulker. I remember a young relative, staying with them, coming over to ours for dinner one night and regaling us with the craziness of the fact that if SIL didn't greet exBIL enthusiastically enough, he'd then go upstairs and sulk for the rest of the evening. Even at 18, this young man couldn't get over it.

same exBIL - probably did sulk in labour, I don't know (SIL barely noticed it by then I think) but I do remember him taking it badly when he had pontificated at me for about 15 minutes about how an epidural was bad for the baby and he felt strongly that SIL should aim for a natural birth no matter what. I had made some restrained (biting my tongue) comment that obviously it was up to her and if she needed one, she needed one, and he had given me another whinge about "it's my baby too so I think I get a say". I remember very carefully NOT arguing with him but I did say something like, "well, it's her body so I'm sre you would want her to be safe and coping".

He definitely sulked at our house for the rest of the afternoon and I suspect continued his sulk for hours/days after. Wanker.

That would have been the shortest marriage on record if that was me...

Oh wow I am transported back to my early 20's and married to a sulker.

He was a really good darts player and played for county teams etc BUT a terrible looser and champion sulker. Once I went to a tournament, all his family were there, he was loosing the first match, throw the darts like an idiot. He looked over at me - which I thought was for encouragement, I gave him an encouraging nod and a kind smile. He proceeded (IN FRONT OF EVERYONE maybe a 100 people) to shout at me Why Dont you just Fuck Off! and he then chucked is cap at me and hurled his darts across the table narrowly missing his mother.

His friends were appalled - unfortunately his parents and I were not surprised his mum tried to tell me it would be fine and her son was just a bit upset. Needless to say we got divorced.... the whole divorce was a sulking mess.

Other major sulks:

• Family Wedding because a warning light came on his car on the way there
• Screwfix car park because a receipt blew away in the wind - this lasted days because he wanted to return the item (apparently)
• We stayed away for a friends birthday but refused to go down to have breakfast because too many people were wearing suits and he felt underdressed and was annoyed I booked such a corporate hotel.....
• I beat him at darts by total accident in Ibiza - didnt speak to me for 2 days

etc etc.....

There's a common thread here, isn't there? These men all sulk through special occasions where they are not the star of the show. Dickheads!

Sad that this is the kind of post I can jump in on...
Sulked and walked ahead of me the whole way to the cinema with his parents. And worst than that, had an ACTUAL tantrum in a tesco aisle in which he threw the shopping basket on the floor. No memory of what that tantrum was about but I still think of it and chuckle. Happy to say we parted ways eventually, boy am I grateful!

Oh and how can I forget?? Paid for super expensive beyonce tickets, happened to fall on a time in the year where we were 'on a break', agreed to go anyway and just enjoy each other's presence. On the way there he subtly reminded me we still aren't back together right now (great timing!), I obviously was quite upset at this sudden and painful comment, so of course he sulked about me being upset... all the way through the concert. I did have a great time when I realised he was just a dick, but somehow told myself I could've changed the outcome.

Oh it sounds magical! 😃

Much of the time, at home, but also:

In Paris (too hot and busy)

In Greece (too many wasps)

In Bulgaria (too much litter)

At Alton Towers with the kids (too 'childish')

At my friend's wedding where I was bridesmaid (poor food)

At my other friend's wedding where I was bridesmaid (poor music)

In Dublin (too much walking)

In London (too busy)

In the Peaks (too much walking)

In Mexico on our honeymoon (too hot)

Ffs. Why did I stay so long?!

I had a sulker too — female, not male. Memorable sulks included:

Granada, Spain: we couldn't get into the Alhambra on our first day in Granada and she spent the entire lovely day in a strop so bad I ended up having to book a separate hotel room because I couldn't bear it. Apparently it was all my fault for not booking in advance. Also my fault that she couldn't find anything she wanted to eat in the cafe we stopped at.

Wanaka in New Zealand: I had a sore back after all the driving and didn't want to go on a kayaking expedition. She could have gone kayaking with a group without me. Stood in Wanaka's main street, by the lake, with packed pavement cafes and restaurants, and had a tantrum a 3-year-old would have approved of, then didn't speak to me for two days.

Last time we met it was because I came to the rescue when her car broke down. The AA took her to a dealership where it turned out to need a major repair, leaving her stuck for getting home. I was the last person of about 20 she called and the only one in a position to help out. It was a 90 minute drive to pick her up and I got a bit lost and was half an hour later than expected. She had a shout at me then sulked all the way home, got out of the car, slammed the door and didn't even thank me.

In the wimpy after watching the sixth sense at the cinema, because he should have worked out the ending as he is very intelligent.

because our daughter said mama first

on a family day out at a local music festival because he’d forgotten to put sugar in his thermos of coffee, and then refused to buy a drink from a vendor the whole day because he already had one and didn’t want to waste a pound.(he wouldn’t drink the unsugared coffee either)

My H isn't so
Much a sulker as an epic melt down person when life goes a bit wrong for him - and not always 'huge' issues either -

The list is too large for here but it is very wearing and has got worse over the years - it's sometimes like living with Jekyll and Hyde

And whenever he feels anyone is better or more clever than him. He likes to be the King Prick in the room.

Are you still with him @Plantmother71 🌹

I am married to one of these. He will shout at inanimate objects because he wants them to 'behave' - like not being able to open a jar. Think Basil Fawlty and the car. Gets cross because things aren't 'to hand'. I have started to deliberately lose his socks (he hates odd socks) because he doesn't like the way I do the laundry but won't do it himself.
It would be almost amusing if I wasn't married to him. It exhausts me.

Every single one of his birthdays, he had some kind of complex about it because on his 30th not all his friends came (in July!). I cried every year.

Why I didn't leave him after the first, or at least second time...

Was he expecting you to run after him and apologise? What a twat! 🌹

What an utter bastard! He must really have disliked you intensely to do this. I hope he now has regular, prolonged migraines - and nobody to care for him when he does. 🌹

Thankfully these are all my ex and not my DH, I chose better with DH thankfully.

All the way around Paris while sightseeing

At the hospital when I was having DC1. He wasn't even in the room.

At a restaurant when we were out for our anniversary. He pulled faces at the lobster I was eating and then we were home again in less than an hour (probably closer to half an hour). DM who was babysitting was surprised to see us.

Any time we went to his work (a supermarket) together (probably because he had told some people we weren't together any more and he was trying to pull other women there).

At DC's birthday. We had multiple people over to the house as a gathering. He grumpily said hi to them at the door and disappeared upstairs again.

Even after we split up I know he was sulking when he was planning on getting married the same day as my brother and I told him DC would be with me an hour away that weekend and if he wanted them he could pick them up. He then asked DB to change his wedding date despite everything being booked and people travelling in from many countries for it etc, when he just wanted to do a registry office and meal out after for his. He never did get married and his fiancée finally saw sense and split up with him too.

At our wedding reception, because he didn't like the way his mother had arranged the tables. It was so fucking embarrassing...sat next to me with a face like a smacked arse, our guests were looking at him and frowning. I whispered in his ear 'ffs this is our wedding day, try and look happy!

This was about 30 minutes after we'd got married and I already knew I'd made a huge mistake, when we left the registry office together, we'd both stopped outside to talk to the guests as they came out, and when I looked around, he'd walked off down the road with a bunch of his mates to where the reception hotel was. I stayed there like an idiot for 10 minutes to see if he'd realise he'd forgotten something - namely his brand-new bride - and come back and get me. He didn't. I walked into our wedding reception on my own. As I walked up the road I was thinking 'this was a big mistake'....I was right, but like an idiot gave it another decade before I finally left.

He was also prone to sulking on holidays if I dared to do something that he didn't approve of, like turning the air-con on or looking in a shop window. Tedious beyond belief!

@Bekindmyarse oh yes-

in my case it's stuff like can't find something- goes round banging stuff , then goes on to blame me for moving it or throwing it away- before finding it 30 minutes later , not saying a word and never apologising.

I think the most epic was leaving his phone in a taxi from Palma airport to hotel- realising at reception, and then saying 'why are you just standing there staring and looking at me as if I'm an idiot smartarse' - (hotel called it and cab driver answered and brought it back 20 minutes later (gave a big tip plus the cab journey) - - yep that started the holiday in a great mood - he did apologise on that one- but I was fuming

On our wedding day because I wasn't enthusiastic enough about getting back to the hotel and having sex after an exhausting day after I had arranged the whole thing on my own without any input from him.
On a lovely holiday in Cornwall that I really needed because we didn't have sex that morning before we went out.
Our first xmas because he had to go out and find me a gift and he didn't want to.
Because I was ill with flu and too ill to have sex.
Because I'd invited people over for dinner.
For various other reasons because I couldn't guess what he was sulking about because I'm not a mind reader and he is unable to communicate, but mostly about sex.
Thank God that marriage is over.

@Bekindmyarse

I hope that, some day,you'll be free of this utter idiot. 🌹

@Tarkan I think you win

Mine threw a paddy everytime there was a special occasion that I was looking forward too. Everyone of my birthdays, if I got a promotion, passed my driving test etc. he would flounce about slamming doors or just give me the silent treatment. Everytime we had an event to go to he would purposely make us late, usually by going for an hour long poo just as we were supposed to be heaving the house.

But his best sulk of all was when my waters broke and I had to get to hospital as the Grand Prix was on and he'd have to miss it. I went alone.

I divorced that grand prick lol