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Top places exH sulked - can anyone top these! (semi-lighthearted!)

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heliosoftroy · 09/05/2024 12:00

Currently going through a divorce from my super sulker ex, and often find myself thinking, with incredulity, at some of the sulks soon-to-be-exH pulled in the most inopportune moments! Top sulk moments -

  • On a beach in the Florida Keys. Also a beach in Miami (separate occasion)
  • Sitting in the 3rd row of the stalls at Hamilton on Broadway
  • At my birthday dinner out in a fancy restaurant
  • All the way on a 3hr train journey to a romantic weekend away I planned for his birthday
  • The first Christmas I went to stay with his family
  • At Peppa Pig World in the very long queue for a ride
  • DC's birthday party
  • On a cruise in the middle of the Caribbean
  • Looking round wedding venues...

I'm sure there are more, but anyone got any crackers from sulking partners to make me feel better?!

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IncompleteSenten · 09/05/2024 19:38

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You should have put a heavy piece of furniture in front of the cupboard door and left him there.

IncompleteSenten · 09/05/2024 19:38

Just for a while. Not forever. Sulking is ridiculous but not worthy of murder.

Whattodo112222 · 09/05/2024 19:41

Every Christmas
Every birthday that wasn't his
Birth of our child after I was struggling to breastfeed
Both holidays to long haul exotic destination
All my family events
Any occasion I met my friends.

Omg I'm so glad not to have that toxicity in my life on a full time basis.

CharlotteStreetW1 · 09/05/2024 19:42

abbey44 · 09/05/2024 12:57

My ex was a world-class sulker. His crowning glory was on a special holiday (my 40th) when we flew to the Caribbean for a stay on a private island - we were flying to Barbados on Concorde, then on to the island by small plane (oh, those were the days…😁). It was a true once-in-a-lifetime trip, and I was absolutely beside myself with the thrill of everything. My ex, hmm, not so much. He sulked in the Concorde lounge at Heathrow, he sulked on the flight, he sulked on the private island…. On the morning of my birthday he prodded my (size 10) stomach and said “you ever considered surgery on that?” before leaving me on my own for the day to go scuba diving. And then sulked over dinner because I wasn’t as happy as I should have been. I look back now and can’t believe it took another five years before I finally left him.

(He still sulks for England, twenty five years later..)

My DH has just asked me why my jaw is hanging open.

CypressSunflower · 09/05/2024 19:44

My DH stopped the car on a verge, got out, slammed the door and sulked cross legged on somebody’s lawn. Cross legged on the floor is his MO. It’s not very attractive.

CypressSunflower · 09/05/2024 19:46

Oh, but never when anyone else is around. Not once. Hmmm.

OvalLemon · 09/05/2024 19:47

Frith2013 · 09/05/2024 12:32

Our wedding

Ultrasound of our second child (he refused to look at the screen)

Every Christmas

Why would you put up with this!! They are such special moments

XMissPlacedX · 09/05/2024 19:47

Ex fiancé, was 14 years older than me and I was only 21 at the time. He got in a sulk because his nephew (who had literally only taken his first steps a few days earlier) came to me instead of him when we went to visit his sister.

He sat there staring at me for a whole hour silent before his sister ( who was lovely ) walked in from the kitchen with a bottle and asked my ex fiancé ' does the sulky toddler want a bot bot' shaking the bottle at her brother.

We all fell about laughing and ex fiancé got up, told us all to Fuck off and walked out. I stayed for an hour afterwards and she told me all about how sulky and childish he is and that I could definitely do better. I sent him a txt when I got home dumping him, his response was ' I was going to dump you anyway' lol

Bollindger · 09/05/2024 19:51

On a bank holiday weekend , we broke up.
He thought he had a lift back to airport the next day , if he missed the plane, he would have been AWOL .
I made him pay me £50 To drive him to the airport...

Southern68 · 09/05/2024 19:51

mlkypch · 09/05/2024 19:21

Noooo sulking cause the paramedics didn't want to hear his little song?!?! That is hilarious 😆😆Imagine having an ego that insane.

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Exactly, they weren't surprised when they said is husband coming with you and I said NOO lol

Civilservant · 09/05/2024 19:51

I know a sulky woman whose H proposed to her when she was mid sulk, about cold and mud on a country walk he’d planned to pop the question on. Guess he knew and chose her!

Bigredpants · 09/05/2024 20:00

Because he had to go to work while I got to stay home and fanny about doing housework and looking after our children and having an easy life. Also. Because I had to go to work and leave him to cope with the children while I fannied about doing my easy job ‘sending emails all day’. (we worked for the same company but I was far more senior and the higher earner).
Because he was doing a job I had bought a specific tool for so I cheerfully reminded him I had bought a specific tool so it might be useful to use the specific tool. He aggressively continued managing without the specific tool and sulked for days.
Because I had shouted while he was driving that we were about to miss our exit. We did. He told me to never shout while he was driving and to shut up and stay out of it. I went quiet for the next hour and a half it took to turn around after we crossed the bridge into the different country (abroad). He seethed and sulked for hours.
How can middle aged people be so immature? I am never risking a man again.

Southern68 · 09/05/2024 20:00

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 09/05/2024 19:35

These are all jaw-dropping, but this one takes the biscuit for sheer ridiculousness!

My 2nd ex husband threw a massive sulk because while I was waiting to be taken to hospital with a suspected stomach ulcer and in a lot of pain, he wanted to play some music on his keyboard for the paramedics and they said no, they were busy concentrating on me.

The paramedics must have thought he was an absolute loon!

Their faces were a picture, it gets better, when they were sorting me out with some pain relief, he then said welcome to my world ( he suffered from alcoholic pancreatitis every few months, totally his own fault I might add), now you know how much pain I have to suffer with. In the ambulance the paramedics ( both men) said I deserved a medal.

Sharontheodopolodous · 09/05/2024 20:15

I used to be a single parent and money was very tight

I saved and saved to take us away on a cheap caravan holiday

He sulked because I couldn't afford to take him with us (he refused to put his hand in his own pocket,i wouldnt do that now)-,sulked again when I scraped together another £80 to put him on the booking,sulked again when I packed mine and the kids bags (I refused to do his) so he ended up stomping out and sent text after text to say he wasn't going

I took him at his word and we went anyway

He sulked the whole week we where away and sulked again once we came back

He actually told me I 'should have tried harder to make him go'

I just dumped his sorry arse instead-so he got his mum to ring me and have a go at me!

Jom222 · 09/05/2024 20:21

Luckily I married a non-sulker but did have a boyfriend briefly who threw a massive tantrum when the Genesis concert we were supposed to go to was cancelled due to Phil Collins being ill I think. We were really looking forward to it and he was pretty excited.

The last I saw of him he was in his parents garage screaming and things were flying around in the air, my friend and I left smoke trails as we got the hell out of there. I remember looking back as we sped off and seeing something through the garage window mid-air that he had thrown across the empty garage.

He had the nerve to call me and try to patch things up!

Blackfluffycats · 09/05/2024 20:26

Not my DH but my dad every fucking Christmas for no reason. He will eat dinner without talking to anyone and then disappear for the rest of the day.

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 09/05/2024 20:29

Southern68 · 09/05/2024 20:00

Their faces were a picture, it gets better, when they were sorting me out with some pain relief, he then said welcome to my world ( he suffered from alcoholic pancreatitis every few months, totally his own fault I might add), now you know how much pain I have to suffer with. In the ambulance the paramedics ( both men) said I deserved a medal.

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Shock You are well rid...

Atethehalloweenchocs · 09/05/2024 20:36

My step dad once sulked for 3 months because I had plans already when he voluteered me to pick up my cousin from the train station when she had arranged to come and visit him at short notice (she never called me directly because she knew perfectly well that there were a plethora of buses or taxis she could take and is capable of travelling all over the world by herself). As far as DSD was concerned, the only option was for me to give up my evening to take her to the station. I said no. This apparently embarrassed him and would not speak to me from November to February - would not open presents from me or my sister at Christmas (we are still not sure why she got included). Would not even look at me if I went to visit mum. In the end I gave mum an ultimatum (she always took his side) and he called to see if we 'could not make things right'. I told him I had no idea why he had been in such a sulk in the first place, I did not feel I had done anything to make right, and this reaction had been totally ridiculous.

After mum died he pulled a mini sulk on me one day and I walked out. He has never done it again but I am his sole caregiver now, so he has to be on best behaviour.

BirthdayRainbow · 09/05/2024 20:42

Every one of you who is still with a sulker, read the posts of those that have successfully put a stop to such stupid behaviour and enact what they did.

Then leave if it doesn't stop. Don't waste your life on a fucking idiot.

fiftypercentoff · 09/05/2024 20:52

every Christmas
Holidays when the kids were little
everytime we had to queue at a theme park
Stuck in traffic on a bank hol

Thanks OP this thread has been theraputic

ARichtGoodDram · 09/05/2024 20:53

My ex was a king sulker.

The most memorable was when he sulked his way through his friends wedding - actually sat with a face like fizz all day - because he always thought he’d be the one that ended up with the bride. And he actually wondered why I left.

The stories of sulking have actually brought me back a funny and nice memory of my Nana, out her face on painkillers after breaking her hip properly sulking in the ambulance. As in folded arms, facing the wall and saying “I’m not talking to you” in a proper huffy voice to the paramedic, and repeating it all every time the poor medic looked at her or asked her anything 😂

Please those still with the sulky pricks that ruin things - escape them so that when you think of sulky you think of funny or nice things!

duende · 09/05/2024 21:02

EverybodyLTB · 09/05/2024 13:53

Danioyellow you cope with it by eventually getting divorced 😂

But what I think happens, is that they do it when you have not much choice to ditch them (in my case I was actually in labour, and many more) or you’re on a plane going to somewhere lovely, or at granny’s 70th. You have to grin and bear it as you can’t cause a scene or escape. Then they go back to normal and then you feel all jumbled up psychologically, the whiplash really messes with your perception. You know it’s awful, but they’re being nice now, what actually happened there again…. It really screws with your reality. For me a lot of my letting go of ridiculous sulks, was to skim over things for my kids, like I’m not going to get into a row with my sulking EXH at Disneyland! Then maybe at dinner he might start cheering up, after I’ve done all day being cheery for the kids and doing everything. I don’t know, you just get so worn down it’s exhausting, you’re just mentally clinging onto the non sulking moments.

I certainly couldn’t do it forever, though. You have your limits. The one too many times couldn’t be glossed over any more, and attempts to discuss and give ultimatums and requesting change amounted to nothing. I got divorced before no fault divorces were a thing. The list was longgggg!

You summed it up beautifully.

I’d put up with it, actually more- do all I could to cheer him up, so as not to ruin the holiday for everyone (which I found, organised and paid for), Christmas for the whole family, a flight for other passengers, a day out for the kids.

But eventually, you reach a point where you decide you won’t deal with another sulk. Ever.

I reached that point last Christmas and have been separated since January.

this thread is brilliant.

Bekindmyarse · 09/05/2024 21:09

When his football team loses. Every. Fucking. Time.
I have a daughter I don’t want to put up with what I do and a son who I don’t want to be him.

Thecatthatgotthesouredmilk · 09/05/2024 21:10

Hoppinggreen · 09/05/2024 14:02

DH isnt a sulker thank God, mainly because it would involve not speaking!!
My father was an epic sulker though, he completely ruined my graduation by announcing as we were getting ready to set off (2 hour drive) that he wasnt coming and my Mum couldnt take the car. She basically told him to get lost and he "agreed to come" but we were in a rush by that point and he kicked off again when we refused to stop to get him a Mars Bar on the way - I said there would be food there but he wanted a Mars Bar. He slept all the way there and had to be persuaded to get out of the car and then complained about wanting to leave the whole time because he was tired.
Utter wanker and I went NC with him as soon as I could.

@Hoppinggreen I'm scarlet for him 😳

FragileWookiee · 09/05/2024 21:14

My first boyfriend when I was just 17, fell out with me because I was upset and crying over a friend who died in a car accident. The friend was male and the boyfriend was jealous.
Safe to say I dumped him. This thread has just reminded me of that absolute arsehole and how gobsmacked I was. Clearly had a few screws loose.

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