Top places exH sulked - can anyone top these! (semi-lighthearted!)

[heliosoftroy]

Currently going through a divorce from my super sulker ex, and often find myself thinking, with incredulity, at some of the sulks soon-to-be-exH pulled in the most inopportune moments! Top sulk moments -

• On a beach in the Florida Keys. Also a beach in Miami (separate occasion)
• Sitting in the 3rd row of the stalls at Hamilton on Broadway
• At my birthday dinner out in a fancy restaurant
• All the way on a 3hr train journey to a romantic weekend away I planned for his birthday
• The first Christmas I went to stay with his family
• At Peppa Pig World in the very long queue for a ride
• DC's birthday party
• On a cruise in the middle of the Caribbean
• Looking round wedding venues...

I'm sure there are more, but anyone got any crackers from sulking partners to make me feel better?!

Oh and! He once had a sulk because his mum didn't have a kitchen bin in her property that he didn't live in, AND because she cooked eggs a different way than he cooked eggs (in her own kitchen).

My father was a champion sulker, for no good reason and his favourite game was to take to his bed and ignore everyone. We never knew what would set him off and this is probably why I stopped speaking to him when I was 16, a decision that I have never regretted.

I remember him complaining about my mother's cooking, she was a excellent cook and told her that he did not want to eat that muck and a couple of poached eggs and mashed potatoes would suffice... a week later, he had to apologise as that is what my mother served to him for every meal, the only time I ever knew my mother to rebel!

My husband sulked for 7 days in Morocco because I caught a cold from our toddler and "passed it on" to him. It is actually my favourite of all the sulks because he spent the week shotting Lemsip powder directly from the sachet and then complaining that they weren't working.

The reason he was drinking dry powder? Well, because he's "not going on fucking holiday to Morocco to sit there drinking hot drinks"

Of course.

He had at least 3 coffees every morning. I counted.

@Southern68 im sorry I know this is serious and an awful example of his behaviour, but that properly made me laugh. I can just imagine the look of utter contempt on the paramedics faces 😂 what a bellend

And if you DO need help it means you are useless and weak because if you were jut BETTER you would be able to manage on your own.
Yep, another one here

I’m picturing you doing the grand tour of the house including the Harry Potter tribute area 🤣

My Ex-H wasn't really a sulker, but I do recall one bizarre time when he (for no reason I can remember) cut his nose off to spite his face.

We were renting a cottage for a week in N Yorkshire with another couple who were close friends of ours. The couple and I wanted to go and visit Eden Camp for the day, but my ex-H just wanted to do (yet another) big walk.

The three of us went off and had a fantastic time at Eden Camp (Ex-H was a historian - he would have loved it) and stopped at a pub that did amazing food for an early dinner on the way back.

Ex-H had stayed at the cottage all day on his own and had eaten half a bag of mini-kievs for his dinner...

My ex was very sulky when my mother died because he felt my family weren't paying him enough attention. It culminated with him throwing an epic tantrum on the morning of her burial.
I broke up with him shortly after that. He had turned into a legendary sulker and shouter as well as having a drinking problem.
He's now being sulking with me for over a year as he thinks I never put his needs first. I won't be able to get a divorce without an expensive solicitor.

@WinkyTinky

Don't worry though, he is a stbxh.

Glad to hear it.

He's a bit WankyWanker isn't he? You and your children will be better off not having him in close quarters every day. When he leaves I hope he takes his sofa with him or you can dispose of it as soon as you can afford to. I'm sure there are better ones in the shops or Facebook Marketplace. 🌹

can sulking be just staring straight at you, not answering or responding at all,
where does the sulking line end and the bloody minded stonewalling ignoring begin?

this is a great thread, some of these examples are truly absurd, some describe male madness which later, they will deny ever happened ha ha

Pretty much every holiday, including New York, Goa, Finland, Barcelona (where he got irate that I said his views on feminism weren’t really as well informed as mine, given that he had never read any feminist literature or cared to learn even the basics of feminism, has lived his entire life as a man with brothers, surrounded by pompous male role models and had absolutely no understanding of feminist issues etc. He insisted his views were just as valid as mine and didn’t speak to me for the rest of the day 🙄).

New York he spotted a hair on my face, went to brush it away and realised - to my horror as much as his - that it was attached. Ignored me for the rest of the day. What a cunt.

I haven't time to read the whole thread now, but I'm saving it to enjoy later.

What I've got from it so far is THANK GOD I eventually dumped the pathetic, sulking man-child I dated most of the way through and after university.

His sulks were epic, it's so long ago I can't remember what any of them were about, but he'd refuse to speak to me for three or four days at a time while being happy as Larry with everyone else around us. And I actually put up with this childish behaviour for FIVE YEARS!

(Sorry about the shouty capitals, I just can't believe I tolerated it for so long)

Anyway, I eventually dumped him when I met DH, who I'm delighted to say hasn't ever sulked in all the 36 years I've known him, not even once. It's just not in his nature.

my BIL tends to be a sulker. SIL has learned to deal with it by ignoring him and doing her own thing regardless so he has gradually improved.

He reached peak sulkiness one year when they were on a family holiday. He is used to business travel and first class/5 star all the way. He was a bit put out when they arrived at the first hotel she had chosen because it was what they could afford so not the luxury he was used to. He was pissed off because they were using local transport to get around rather than going down to the lobby to meet his private driver. He reached peak sulkiness when they reached Amsterdam and toured Anne Franks house. As they left he complained that he didn't know what all the fuss was about - loads of people grow up in small apartments! This phrase has entered into family folklore and I think the fact that everyone found it so ridiculous helped him realise what an absolute tit he was being.

DH sulked on a break I won for us in a lovely hotel in the Forest of Dean - too many trees!

Ex-H sulked on a Christmas steam train ride because I asked if the free mince pies were veggie (said I was being fussy and causing a scene).

At Walt Disney World because I didnt want a bite of his disgusting looking pretzel.

Would talk to me for a week because I pointed out he had put or DD's DOB wrong on a form he was filling in.

But my favourite of all is when he had a massive flounce because I wore my hair curly to a family birthday dinner and he said I had done it to show off. For context I have naturally curly hair and it is thick and there is a lot of it. I often wear it straight but that day I decided to do it properly and diffused it. He had a massive strop and said that I had done it for attention and that I 'only wore it like that because I wanted everyone to look at me', which isnt the case. The children were all perplexed by him and his Mum (whose compliment about my hair set the whole thing off) told him to stop being silly. He got up and left the restaurant and stood outside for ages, waiting for someone to come out and get him. I can remember his little face pressed up against the window. He came back in when the puddings arrived and sulked even more because we hadnt ordered him one. That wasnt long before I decided that enough was enough and that I wanted quiet life and not just because he wasnt talking to me.

Why is this happening though?
Is it really because boys aren't brought up able to use their words?
If the feel offended, hurt, exasperated, disappointed, angry, whatever it may be - why don't they just say so?

I know I can laugh about it now, I think they were stunned at his ridiculous behaviour tbh. It was like living with a petulant teenager stuck in the 80's.

Sulked as our eldest had open heart surgery because it was 'taking too long'.

Sulked because the nurses and doctors kept her in too long after the procedure and he had to drive over and back every day to look after the others while I stayed in hospital with her.

Sulked about meeting me for our 'big' scan on our first baby.

Wow that's a 💡 moment for me. Mine managed to throw a tantrum this morning because I needed a lift to the dentist was having work done under sedation.

He shouted that I was running late, that I was always late then berates me because his dental procedure was half the price. It wasn't because I'd seen the quotes.

When he came to collect me told me that the dentist had spoken to him, telling him that the procedure would probably fail because my bone wasn't strong enough so I had wasted my money.

Now husband has form for lying about things like this. But I'm bloody furious because at the scan a month ago I was told my bone density was great.

I'm also going to have strong words with the dentist about discussing my dental care with my husband.

You’ll find a lot of the time it’s learned behaviour from a parent too

like my father as my brother is a sulker we’re NC now because of it as he was damn nasty with it too.

I was married to a sulker cos I thought it was normal because of my father and then realise nope it wasn’t normal. It took years to realise that and many boyfriends and one husband later.

I’ll bet the dentist didn’t say a thing to him and he is in fact lying through his teeth

Let us not forget that sulking is used generally as a way of punishing the other party. That is not a reasonable mature way to behave. Pi**ing all over any event and using it be abusive is never never acceptable.

The "didn't ask if he was hungry" while giving birth is kind of special.

ex live in boyfriend.....decades back.....my best friend's mom sent me an invite to a 21st birthday party for my friend. And my ex BF looked very puzzled and asked why his name wasn't on it too. So I rang up best friend's mom and asked if she'd made a mistake. No. Just friends invited, people that she and my best friend had actually met - and they'd never met my boyfriend. Ex said I shouldn't go as it was a personal insult. I said I was going. He said he knew I'd be drinking so he was going to call the cops (his sister worked at the local cop shop) and have them waiting to breathalise everyone who came out of the party. I told him he could do as he liked and went off and had a great time. There were no cops outside as his sister thought it was being a major tosser.

Took me a while to realise it but this is what he was like all the time. Everything had to be about him, involve him else it didn't have the right to exist. Eventually I told him I was leaving to head off on a post uni trip of a life time with my best friend. He stalked me for a while but eventually gave up. A few years later my best friend was my maid of honour at my wedding to a lovely (def less sulky) bloke.

Ran into ex a decade later - still single, can't imagine why. And bizarrely still wearing the "we're very serious" ring I gave him.

@HelloTreacle9 I think you should ask yourself, can you afford NOT to chuck him out. He's abusing your kids as well as you.