Top places exH sulked - can anyone top these! (semi-lighthearted!)

[heliosoftroy]

Currently going through a divorce from my super sulker ex, and often find myself thinking, with incredulity, at some of the sulks soon-to-be-exH pulled in the most inopportune moments! Top sulk moments -

• On a beach in the Florida Keys. Also a beach in Miami (separate occasion)
• Sitting in the 3rd row of the stalls at Hamilton on Broadway
• At my birthday dinner out in a fancy restaurant
• All the way on a 3hr train journey to a romantic weekend away I planned for his birthday
• The first Christmas I went to stay with his family
• At Peppa Pig World in the very long queue for a ride
• DC's birthday party
• On a cruise in the middle of the Caribbean
• Looking round wedding venues...

I'm sure there are more, but anyone got any crackers from sulking partners to make me feel better?!

A friend of mine was visiting and I had arranged for us to take her to a nice Nepalese restaurant.
He sulked because he wanted to go to KFC as it's cheaper. (I was paying for everyone because it was my treat.)

Another time, he threw a tantrum because I sent a letter recorded delivery instead of normal first class, thus "wasting money." My letter, my money, nothing to do with him.

Another time because I bought a chest of drawers for my bedroom- we didn't live together- and he didn't like it. That was a week-long sulk with silent treatment.

Some cunts just like making people miserable.

Shit! Have finally realised that this is the reason I refuse to go away with dh unless he books a separate room. I can't deal with his nonsense when we are away.

This 👆
we’ve been together 35 years and neither of us have sulked at like this. I’d just tell him to fuck off if he tried that shit

Sulking is an awful attribute.

In the maternity ward
As I didn't want to talk to his sister (or any fucker else) on the phone whilst I was in labour

A week and half after giving birth (with stitches etc ) and a few days after my mother died , because I wanted to sleep when the baby had finally gone down rather than have sex with him. But he was 'sad and it was my job to make him happy '

And many more

OP here. And what?! First of all it wasnt a 3 hour queue (yes that would be extreme), and the train journey was up to a lovely spa hotel where i had booked him a massage and nice meal for his birthday because even as a 30something man every birthday had to be super special. I also took him to Venice once. He had never taken me anywhere for mine... except an escape room which is an activity i don't enjoy! And i guess the reason i didnt give further context about his childish, abusive behaviours which led to the divorce, because it's more fun at this point to lol about how pathetic some sulkers can be, constantly shooting themselves in the foot and pushing their partners away, as this thread has shown! And for the record, on both thoe occasions you mention as well as several others, the 'reason' was DC being too excited, or doing something 'wrong', or me having an opinion.

Have you asked yourself why you're content to deal with it when you're at home? Or at all?

Not being snippy. It's a serious question.

People don't sulk for no reason.

@Johnthesensible

In my experience, oh they absolutely do. I grew up with a parent who behaved like this, and subsequently experienced similar with my EXDP.

It's usually about controlling their partner into doing what they want them to do, and turning attention onto themselves, no matter what the situation, or how inappropriate it is.

@AcrossthePond55 I have a good lifestyle and I'm not going to uproot and unsettle the kids for a sulk. We've just adapted how we do things. Sometimes we leave him at home and go have fun without him. (Thank you for adding the bit about not being snippy. Much appreciated)

My, now ex DH, was a nasty sulker. This is only 1 example of many. Before we married my then employer, a bank, had booked Royal Naval College, Greenwich for a staff summer party. Partners invited very generously. Men in smart suits or blacktie; women in summer wear. Ex Turned up in a very casual attire, no suit, unshaven, hadnt cleaned teeth, refused to talk to work colleagues, sulked when I had a 2nd or possible 3rd glass bubbly. God I needed the fucking bottle! I married him - there was sulking before the wedding and it continued after. Often combined with possessive traits - just ghastly. If I get tempted I may post more examples!

This has given me the giggles!

IMHO there's nothing wrong with staying for lifestyle or the kids as long as you're able to 'modify' things to work around sulks and the kids aren't impacted. Sounds like you've got the bases covered there and more power to you for it.

My only suggestion is that you have a care for your own financial future. Some day the kids will be gone and he will retire and be around 24/7. There may come a time when the lifestyle by itself isn't worth it.

Ooh can I join in (although I’m sadly not quite in the position to leave yet so not an ex.)

Just after we got together we went to a party at his friends house where the tradition was to have a massive founders game. I got to pick people for my team and not wanting to be that ‘I can only pick my boyfriend’ girl, I picked a mutual friend instead. He didn’t speak to me for about 3 hours and was in a sulk the rest of the party. Kicking myself I didn’t spot the red flags sooner!

I had a bf when I was 18 to 20 who was a massive sulker, and just generally pathetic.

He came away with me and my extended family (who he had met many times) to visit a relative of mine who lived in Spain. We stayed in a hotel for 3 or 4 nights and were going to spend the days in my relative's garden having BBQs and drinking a lot.

On the afternoon of the first day I realised I hadn't seen him for a while so went to check inside the house. Not there. Checked the bathrooms, not there. Asked if anyone had seen him, and everyone was concerned that we couldn't find him. I phoned him and it rang once then went to VM. Called again, same thing happened so I text him to ask where he was. He replied "oh, you've finally noticed then!"

He had gone stomping off to the hotel, got there and realised he didn't have a key, then got lost on the way back to the house. It took me ages to find the idiot because all the roads were set out in grids and everything looked the same and he refused to tell me which specific bench he was sitting on. He refused to go back so we spent the rest of that day sitting in a dark hotel room in silence. He ruined that trip and many many other events during the 2 and a bit years I was with him.

Edit to say: he did this because I wasn't talking to him enough and was spending too much time chatting to the relative I hadn't seen for nearly 2 years.

old men at a bar abroad are the BEST night out, glad they were there to give you the 21st you deserved.

What the?? Sounds like he was having some kind of fit??

I am part of a group for a spoting activity. We are a reasonably high standard, not the best of the best but pretty good and have had some players go on to bigger things in the sport. There is a guy who comes who also attends other groups who's standard isnt so good. Because he can win matches with the other groups regularly he really thinks that he is the dogs bollocks at it, but consistently does badly at our group. He throws massive tantrums and sulks. I have seen him sit in sullen silence for up to 2 hours after being beaten. It would be like the top player at a local tennis club going up against Andy Murray and sulking when they lose!

Its absolutely pathetic, and it all comes down to the fact that in his head he is top flight and cannot cope when reality shows otherwise month after month. Ironically, if he had a more humble attitude his ability would improve no end because going up against people who test him would help him learn , I have got so much betterby watching and taking advice from the others, but no, he knows everything and we all just "get lucky".

I feel sorry for his wife as I get the feeling he is like this about absolutely everything that doesnt go his way.

Haha. Tell me you are a sulked without telling me.

Being unhappy about overspending should lead to a conversation and not the silent treatment for a week.

Sulked (silent treatment) on Honeymoon. He burned his feet (as he refused to apply suncream to them - in Malta). My fault as 'he'd wanted to go to New York'.
Not long after we got home 9/11 happened. This may be outing as I've told a few friends but he then SULKED FOR ENGLAND as 'NY will never be the same for me now'. Absolutley no care for those who died, just his future holiday ruined.

I had two children with him (IVF - much sulking!) . Christ alive ...
Divorcing this summer. He's still sulking !

Jeez there are some awful big kids out there!

@HoobleDooble
At least you had the sense not to marry yours! I am shocked how many women went on to marry them!

Omg all of these are giving me flashbacks to my sulky ex! He had so many sulks but a few I remember were him on holiday having a strop because of how hot it was (turkey). He was also completely embarrassed by his job (he had no need to be it was a perfectly fine job but in his sexest head he deemed it women's work). I was at a party with him and the person I spoke to said what she was doing and I said 'oh that's what x does!' thinking it would help get him involved in the conversation, but obviously he had a massive strop that I'd embaressed him by saying what his job was.

Oh get to fuck. My examples are ex 1 NOT wanting me to have a job? He convinced me to move to the one place with no bus route to my job, promised me he’d give me lifts there and back. The day after we’d moved and my name was on the tenancy he told me I couldn’t possibly expect him to drive me to work and back every day so I had to quit. There were very few jobs I could get to but I wasn’t allowed to do any of them. I wasn’t allowed a bar job I was offered as he didn’t want me working with bar men as he ‘knew what they were like’. Wasn’t allowed to take a job in the canteen on a power plant site as he didn’t want me working amongst men. I left him the week after he wouldn’t allow me to take a job in a jeweller’s working with one man in his 60’s (I was barely 20).
Ex 2 didn’t speak to me for 3 weeks, as after he cheated on me and gave me an STD whilst I was breastfeeding dd1 and pregnant with dd2, I committed the heinous crime of telling people what he’d done to me. What do you think of those reasons??!!

Thanks goodness my other half isn't like this

In Canada, on a family visit with our nine month old.

Oh, my biological father tried, but you don’t get with that shit in a family run by my gran.

After he’d ruined every single holiday and even just most weekends with a combination of emotional abuse and the sulks, we reached Mother’s Day when I was five. My gran picked the restaurant and he was angry because, I still can’t believe this, it wasn’t where he wanted to go, so he walked home for a long distance. But gran had had fucking ENOUGH. 1. I came to live with them. No more ruined holidays. No more ruined weekends. And 2. We never ever, ever celebrated Mother’s Day again. He’d call and ask every once in a while, and tell her she was being ridiculous, and she’d just say, “We don’t celebrate Mother’s Day. You know why.” And hang up. You may think this is a story about lack of forgiveness, but no.

Because my father was never truly sorry for anything in his life. Not the sulks that ruined every holiday, not the abuse that ruined every Saturday, nothing.

That said, if we add up everyone’s timelines (“we divorced 23 years ago,” “I got rid of him 20 years ago,” “I made him an ex 18 years ago”) we would discover there are only about five guys on the All-England Male Sulking Team, and unfortunately, they get around.