Top places exH sulked - can anyone top these! (semi-lighthearted!)

[heliosoftroy]

Currently going through a divorce from my super sulker ex, and often find myself thinking, with incredulity, at some of the sulks soon-to-be-exH pulled in the most inopportune moments! Top sulk moments -

• On a beach in the Florida Keys. Also a beach in Miami (separate occasion)
• Sitting in the 3rd row of the stalls at Hamilton on Broadway
• At my birthday dinner out in a fancy restaurant
• All the way on a 3hr train journey to a romantic weekend away I planned for his birthday
• The first Christmas I went to stay with his family
• At Peppa Pig World in the very long queue for a ride
• DC's birthday party
• On a cruise in the middle of the Caribbean
• Looking round wedding venues...

I'm sure there are more, but anyone got any crackers from sulking partners to make me feel better?!

Really? All I see is her organising trips. No input from him at all. If he complains (sulks) he is in the wrong. Sounds like a one sided relationship. They are both best away from each other.

I've come across many 'sulkers' too in my line of work both male and female where partners have got them into horrendous debt.

An interesting theory. Let me give it some thought…
Erhm. No.

My ex sulked on every lovely holiday I paid for. During days out I paid for. Trips in the car that I paid for and maintained. And in the lovely home I was funding.

Also, a well functioning, emotionally aware and mature person does not punish others with silence, have them guessing for days what may possibly be the case of the stormy face and the bad mood. They communicate their needs, are interested and care for the needs of others and able to meet them in the middle, or even, imagine this, prioritise someone else’s needs in the moment.

(for example- their partner who is in the middle of labour, as seen in a previous post)

In London, every attraction we came to that had a queue, he huffed over, at the third place I was pretty cross, he stormed off and left me, later telling me what a great time he’d had seeing the Houses of Parliament.

He used to refuse to go the cinema, as we were about to leave, and various other places
Refused to visit my family, when expected for parties.

My ex refused to accompany me to a Christening we were invited too.
so embarrassing

I’m sorry you had such a terrible time, and so pleased you left.
my ex could sulk and not speak to me for days, whilst being lovely tonother people, it’s all control, and crushing to the victim

I feel this post. I also married a moper. It took me a couple of years to recognise that he sabotaged anything I might experience as joyful. Glad you’ve escaped too.

Most memorable sulk was our first holiday, a week in Mallorca. It was paradise and he still had a face on. The worst part being when he stormed out of a restaurant because I ordered a “fish platter” as he’d been saying he wanted one for weeks in the build up. I’d researched the best place to go for fresh fish nearby. Food came and he stormed out because he actually wanted shellfish. I just had to pay the bemused staff and leave as I’m vegetarian.

Another memorable sulk was at a photo shoot I took our two very you g daughters together. The photographer was so fun and they played and looked cute. He didn’t even crack a smile and chuntered about the cost. I was paying myself as I did most thing because he was also a miser.

Why did we marry these toddlers that we enable into adult/toddler hood?!

Every. Single. Holiday. We've. Ever. F-ing. Been. On.

My husband in our house. We were separated.

On my return from my holiday, with our DC’s, he asked if he could move back home.

He sulked when I asked “when was the last time you slept with your girlfriend(OW)?”

He responded with a very sulky “oh, why do you always bring that up”….

🤔😳🤔

Narcissistic traits at play here, special occasions, holidays, Christmas, anniversary etc, you name it and they'll spoil it for you. Mothers day was a real low, well rid of him.

These are so so funny, thank you!

Another: ex sulked for a whole day as our two year old dc wanted help going down a very tall slide in a park. He spent the whole park trip walking around berating me and DC about how feckless we both were and then sulked as dc wasn’t ‘man’ enough. Our child was two.
Absolutely nothing to do with money and everything to do with integrity and heart.

I think the common denominator of a lot more of the examples here, and I know is true for my ex at least, is not cost, but attention. When he wasn’t the centre of attention that was his trigger. He absolutely hated not being in the limelight and having to watch someone else being the focus, even his own children.

So stop making excuses for people who behave like that.

You seem to be suggesting that there’s always a reasonable reason to be sulking.

in many of the examples on this thread the ‘reason’ is that the sulker is a controlling (some examples outright abusive) arsehole.

Some posts sound like they’re referring to a sulking child because some of the folks in the posts are referring to someone behaving like a sulky child

IMO the only understandable sulk so far on this thread is the one in the Peppa Pig World queue!

Yep every opportunity to ruin a nice day. Now thankfully with the most loveliest man, now Dh i could ever meet

Speak don't sulk sensible John 😀😀

my mother every time some body expressed a different opinions made a decision or did something nice I have left her to it the silent treatment has now been
going on for 2 years

Mine got in the mother of all sulks because I'd told him beforehand the appointment that we couldn't give notice at the registry office without his divorce papers from his first marriage.

Got to the registry and the registrar confirmed that we couldn't give notice without the papers 🙄 Apparently this was all my fault, and he threatened to call off the wedding. Had I not been 3 months pregnant at the time, I would have left him that day. Having finally left him 6 years and another DC down the line, I wish I had^^ left him that day, pregnant or not.

Not a sulk, but a tantrum. I realised he had spilt the best part of a cup of coffee over a pile of newly ironed laundry, and when I pointed it out (naively thinking that between us we might manage to rescue some of the less badly affected flood victims), he threw the lot on the floor and did a little dance on them.

Is it a coincidence that a lot of these sulkers seem to have female partners who:

• earn more than them
• are cleverer than them
• have close, extended families
• have a strong friendship group

It seems that a lot of this sulking boils down to jealously/self-centredness/unable to manage their emotions.

He is sulking again. Football didn’t go his way. I’m off to lose some more of his socks and dream of running away.

Ex-H

Walked out on two family parties and didn't tell me he was leaving. Why? Because I was having too much fun and no one was paying him any attention. Well yes, because in my family if you sit with cat's bum face, we ignore you.

My fav though was when he refused to 'do Xmas' one year (on a religious basis) to the point where I was not allowed to put up decs and announcing to all that he would not accept any gifts nor would 'we' be giving any. I told my family that I would certainly be doing gifts, from me. Come Xmas Day he came to the family party (I guess 'religious basis' didn't extend to delicious food) and absolutely sulked like a toddler because no one bought him any gifts.

There was not a 'next year'. I kicked him out the following Autumn. Not sure now why it took me so long.

As Disneyland Paris, packed his bags and “walked” to the train station. Got pissed off when I didn’t follow him 🤣 unfortunately came back to the hotel room

An ex boyfriend was an appalling sulker. He would get into arguments with bar staff / bouncers so we would have to leave (if I was having fun).

I was 18 and due to go to university and he sulked like fuck about that.

He moved up to my university and we lived together. Then he would sulk because he had moved (his decision - he got made redundant at his old job).

If we were out on a night / day out and he had decided to sulk, he would walk reeeeraaaalllly slowly (to the point of being uncomfortable) and shuffle his feet about.

He would ring me at university and, if someone else picked up, would just sit there, sulking and not say anything. He stopped when I told him we were getting some creepy silent calls and one of the girls had spoken to the police (I had no idea it was him at the time).

I had a few thousand and he had a business idea. He sulked because I didn’t just hand it over to him to start the business and said that he had to get advice / a business plan.

He did a masters after he got made redundant from the next job. I leant him some money to do the masters (I know, ridiculous). I then said he should think about applying to some jobs and he sulked because he’d passed the deadline for a few and I’d applied months ago.

In the end, I had some professional exams for my first graduate job out of university. He didn’t like that so he broke up with me a week before the first one. He then tried to get back together with me the night before my last one and was SHOCKED that I said no.

The funny thing is, the next girlfriend he had basically dumped him for being a sulker. Good for her, I should have.