Top places exH sulked - can anyone top these! (semi-lighthearted!)

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Currently going through a divorce from my super sulker ex, and often find myself thinking, with incredulity, at some of the sulks soon-to-be-exH pulled in the most inopportune moments! Top sulk moments -

• On a beach in the Florida Keys. Also a beach in Miami (separate occasion)
• Sitting in the 3rd row of the stalls at Hamilton on Broadway
• At my birthday dinner out in a fancy restaurant
• All the way on a 3hr train journey to a romantic weekend away I planned for his birthday
• The first Christmas I went to stay with his family
• At Peppa Pig World in the very long queue for a ride
• DC's birthday party
• On a cruise in the middle of the Caribbean
• Looking round wedding venues...

I'm sure there are more, but anyone got any crackers from sulking partners to make me feel better?!

I have many faults but I am not a sulker and I have never had a relationship with a sulker. Some of these are just jaw dropping, the average 3 year old has more emotional regulation and empathy than some of the men described. I am laughing at a lot of the tales of pet lips and huffy fits but in a shocked and horrified way

My dad was like that, he used to tell watch my step or otherwise I would be "back in the ice box". behind closed doors and then we'd be out in public and he would be Mr Charm.

That's hilarious 😂

I have just dumped my sulker. Yesterday. He went off on one as we were out on our tandem bike and I told him not to ring the bike bell at a horse, that we were approaching and to slow down too.
He has form for sulking, and said ‘right we are going back to yours. no bike ride for you’ (I have 4 bikes plus the tandem, I can ride whenever I want). He stropped around my home. I decided to get all his stuff and bag it up, put it outside and lock the door. He drove off in a right strop. I’ve blocked him. 7 years I have been with this twit and have had enough. Time to move on.

He once sulked and did the silent treatment as I didn’t eat his home made ravioli. It had beef in it and I am a veggie. He knew this. He sulked during lockdown as I wasn’t furloughed as I was on a strategic project, so I couldn’t hang out with him. Unsure he quite got lockdown.
He sulked and turned back to home on a day trip as I was ‘ignoring him’. I was looking out of the passenger window at the view.
He sulked when I had a conversation with some chap or other about a particular brand of bike that we both had. Hand built frames so not often seen.
He has recently sulked because I refused to completely strip the grass from my garden, level it and pay for re-turfing AND (horror of horrors) I let my dogs play in the garden. He also gave me the silent treatment for a week because I planted a lovely plum tree.

We travelled through the dessert for hours to get to an oasis for sand boarding, that he really wanted to go to. When we got there, it didn’t look as nice as he thought it would and refused to go sand boarding 😂. He’s not much of a sulker, but when I see it coming on, I remind him of that incident and he snaps out of it…..most of the time. I also had an ex who got in a strop because he didn’t like the restaurant I had chosen to go to for my birthday. It was one of my favorites, and planted the first seed of doubt in my mind about that relationship.

Oh God, I feel so bad for laughing at that as ii is such hideous behavior but I had such a wonderful mental image of him tearing his paper hat from his head, flinging it into the air and it fluttering in a useless pathetic way to the floor in a sort of warped poetic moment! Hope you and your little one went on to have a great life without the hat flinging fool

Sounds like a date with Basil Fawlty ! Great descriptive language, I could visualise the whole thing and had a real giggle

Or Johnthesulker?…

DH used to have the odd sulk. The biggest one I can recall was when I got all my letters out on a round of scrabble and it was a triple score as well. Now normally I'm absolute rubbish but the scrabble gods were smiling on me that day.

Well, that was it. I've never seen a sulk like it, or since. For many years now though he hasn't sulked, and he looks back and realises what a dick he was being.

Sometimes though if things are going a bit pants at work for example he'll sit in his office for a bit on his own, but that's just his style. I wouldn't class it as sulking. He likes some quiet reflection time. I just do a big sweary rant and feel better when it's all out!

Were his friends not allowed?

Haha we’ve found the man 😂 my ex was a controlling prick. He sulked to make my life miserable. The entire day was about me walking on eggshells while he tried to find fault with literally anything so he could ‘punish’ me. He had this weird thing about controlling time. For eg he would ask what time I’d be home from work and I’d say I finish at 5 so should be home around 20 past. If he knew there was heavy traffic or something that would delay me, he’d make dinner and make sure it was on the table at 20 past 5 SHARP. That way when I was late he could throw it in the bin and not talk to me for 2 days for ruining his dinner. I remember the day I stopped caring. He sent me to the sandwich shop for a ham and cheese roll and I deliberately bought him a ham and cheese baguette just to see his reaction. Not only did he refuse to eat it, he literally starved himself for the entire day to make me feel sorry for him. We were both lying awake in bed that night because his stomach was literally growling with hunger, he was still in a sulk assuming I was feeling guilty and I was lying in the dark with a smile on my face 😂

I doubt he had any

The same man I mentioned up thread (chest of drawers sulker, Nepalese restaurant sulker) also told everyone who would listen that he had written Hello, the song by Lionel Richie, and that Lionel Richie had stolen the notebook he'd put it in.
He had a very big sulk when I said I didn't think Lionel Richie had spent much time in Croydon.

There it is, been waiting for this for ages.

All my ex thankfully - DH not a sulker!

• On a 5 star holiday to the Maldives, paid for by me.
• Outside San Siro stadium in Milan while waiting for a match he wanted to see. Stormed off with hotel room key leaving me crying.
• On a holiday to Gran Canaria - lay in the hotel room watching his iPad for four days refusing to go out and do anything.
• The night I was in a hospice saying goodbye to a much loved Grandparent.
• His own brothers funeral.

It took a decade to see the self centred, narcissistic light! My DH is a breath of fresh air in comparison!

My ex made me cry in Walt Disney World. I remember thinking, ‘this is meant to be the happiest place on earth and I’m in tears!!’.

One of the things he complained about was that I needed the toilet an hour after he’d been, why couldn’t I have gone when he did? Ehhh because I didn’t need then??

Left my abuser sulker about a month ago. Couldn’t resist adding to this thread;

When pregnant with DD (which was unplanned and stressful initially) I had some bleeding early on, I was really emotional over it because we weren’t sure whether to go ahead with the unplanned pregnancy so when we decided to and then I started bleeding I didn’t know how to feel and felt like I’d brought it on myself.

The only day I could get an appointment at EPAC was the day we’d booked off to go to a Christmas market, and he was disappointed to miss out on his day out and had a proper sulk over it. We were shown DD on the ultrasound, which was at the time a blob with a wibbly bit we were told was her heartbeat. Afterwards he said he couldn’t make anything out on the screen and was hoping they were going to tell us there was nothing there.

Nice guy 🙄 I have no idea why I wasted so much time on him.

Some of these guys sound really spoilt and indulged - maybe used to high class lifestyle but without the high class attitude and manners to go with it. Some of these experiences - luxury holidays, bucket list concerts, nice meals out, big sporting events sound amazing once in a lifetime experiences (well would be for me at least) which many of us would give an arm and a leg for. And the guys being so self centred during pregnancy scans, just jaw dropping.

Have had some sulks and silent treatment from wife on days out, during holiday, etc over minor things, but not quite on scale of some of the examples here.

Mine sulked on a 3-hour drive to San Francisco International Airport.
Then he sulked from SFO to Sydney.
Then he sulked around at Sydney airport.
HAHAHA then he missed the flight to Perth.
Sydney to Perth was the best flight of my life!

@Confusedandemotional .
Was his name Chris?

Every Christmas for at least some of it
Most of the nice weekends away especially if it had been my idea or I'd paid for it
Many long car journeys I'd been looking forward to chatting together all the way
Most of a family festival over multiple days, incorporating various different activities and things that were 'wrong' that he sulked about
At another festival people a tall person stood in front of us
At the same other festival/event over another issue which he made last all week
At another holiday camping together
Basically all out holidays together and nice days away
Every time I turned down sex

An ex of mine thought that we couldn't possibly holiday separately as it was "wrong".

So he huffed until I agreed to pay for him to come with me, on a liveaboard scuba diving trip. He doesn't scuba dive, and doesn't want to. So he sulked the entire 5 days, spent the entire trip alone in the room on the boat. I had a fab time, everyone on the trip thought he was a dick head, which opened my eyes somewhat and we split up a few months later when he mentioned that "if I behaved he was considering proposing" I thought fuck that and left him.

Shame it took 6 years to see the light

Every time I turned down sex.

Whenever I cut my toenails (he liked feet and liked longer toenails 🤢).

Father’s day because I ordered some baked stuff as a present and also ordered some for my own father.

His birthday because he had to make his own breakfast (I was making an entire picnic for lunch for our day out).

When we went to a concert and someone was a tad over excited and kept bumping into him.

When we went to the circus and I wouldn’t wear the padded plunge bra he’d bought me a while back for Christmas, it was a family day out fgs! I didn’t want to look overdone which I undoubtedly would have.

I've got one of those, followed by a sulk though. Most recent was going out to meet up with family. He threw a tantrum before we left saying I had to drive, fine. He then tantrummed because I stuck to the speed limit, apparently no-one else does. He was sulking for a time after we arrived. Family knew the signs. It's awkward when you're sitting with a 73 year old toddler

Oh I've thought of more:

While helping me move house as promised because it was 'more work than he thought it would be'. Even after I'd hired some removal people as I felt him doing the lot as he'd suggested would be too much of an ask. He sulked so much he refused to eat dinner and said he just wanted to go to bed, because things had taken too long and it was 'too late to eat'.

He also sulked and then when challenged on it, broke up with me the night of a really important essay deadline. I wrote it crying silently after he dumped me, so I didn't fail. This kind of thing happened regularly during my whole degree.

Also, the night before the ashes of a dear relative were interred.