Page 10 | Top places exH sulked - can anyone top these! (semi-lighthearted!)

heliosoftroy · 2024-05-09T11:00:47+00:00

Currently going through a divorce from my super sulker ex, and often find myself thinking, with incredulity, at some of the sulks soon-to-be-exH pulled in the most inopportune moments! Top sulk moments - - On a beach in the Florida Keys. Also a beach in Miami (separate occasion) - Sitting in the 3rd row of the stalls at Hamilton on Broadway - At my birthday dinner out in a fancy restaurant - All the way on a 3hr train journey to a romantic weekend away I planned for his birthday - The first Christmas I went to stay with his family - At Peppa Pig World in the very long queue for a ride - DC's birthday party - On a cruise in the middle of the Caribbean - Looking round wedding venues... I'm sure there are more, but anyone got any crackers from sulking partners to make me feel better?!

SarahAndQuack · 10/05/2024 17:01

For some reason, the one that sticks in my mind: my new boss had invited us over to a walk/ family dinner at Christmas, because he'd found out we weren't going to see family over the holiday and obviously wanted to be welcoming. My then DP sulked all morning, and I ended up very awkwardly getting in touch to say we'd still love to come but could we just come for dinner as DP wasn't up the the walk. Once we got there, DP repeatedly commented on how the (home cooked, delicious, clearly a lot of effort) food included the same dish I'd cooked the day before, was generally chippy and/or silent.

Everyone there was extremely polite, but I wanted to sink through the floor! I'm still struggling with it TBH - who does that?! Not just sulking conspicuously in front of my new boss, not just sulking when someone has invited two relative strangers to theirs at Christmas ... but both. And she still thinks there was absolutely nothing wrong with it.

BirthdayRainbow · 10/05/2024 17:04

Newestname002 · 10/05/2024 16:21

Yes to this! Value yourself better than be with someone so bereft of maturity or empathy. If you're currently financially stuck, research how you can get your ducks in a row to escape.

Shackling yourself to someone like this will destroy your mental health. I actually did a flit from the person who treated me like an object, rather than a person he was supposed to love. Left him one day without a word and all my possessions in a suitcase and plastic bags to live with a supportive friend at a location he knew nothing about. He also didn't know my place of work (he had no interest) so I was able to recuperate without him anywhere near me physically, verbally or emotionally. One of the best things I ever did. 🌹

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Wonderful revenge but more wonderful self worth for you!

Newestname002 · 10/05/2024 17:12

Abeona · 10/05/2024 14:03

There seems to be a clear link from the accounts here between sulking and holidays.

Reading these responses has reminded me of a dear friend who used to be married to a man who ruined every single holiday they ever went on. At one point in their late 30s they were both able to take two months off work and together planned the holiday of a lifetime travelling in South America. It was planned nearly a year in advance and she learned basic Spanish and Portuguese in order to make it easier for them.

She researched the flights and they discussed their route and where they wanted to stay. He seemed to be completely on-side. With six months to go she wanted to book flights and their first few hotels in advance. He kept putting it off — not this month, maybe next month. Prices began to rise as the departure date approached. He still kept putting it off. She booked for herself and gave him the details, her seat number and so on. He didn't book. The week before they were due to go and she started packing, he became unhelpful: she couldn't find some of the clothing she needed and suspected he'd hidden it. He showed no sign of preparation and then with 24 hours to go announced that he'd decided to come — but by that point flights were really expensive. So he followed a week behind and was then sulky when he finally arrived in Buenos Aires to find she'd made friends and had had a lovely week without him. He sulked and moaned for the rest of the holiday: on the return journey he was vile to everyone they encountered and refused to talk to her. She announced her intention to leave him as soon as they got home and he was gobsmacked.

Are there any psychologists around who can explain why holidays and travel are such a catalyst for the bad behaviour?

Good for her in going on her own and making friends on arrival. Thank goodness her travel posters/money/passport etc weren't amongst the things which went "missing".

It's a shame he arrived at all as she'd probably have had a better holiday. Glad she gave him his marching orders on the way back. Life is too exhausting having to take the vile habits of people like this into account. 🌹

Newestname002 · 10/05/2024 17:15

AuntieJoyce · 10/05/2024 14:15

I think this thread should be in classics.

I remember XH’s first sulk when we had not been going out very long. We were in a Little Chef and his toasted tea cake was insufficiently warm and the butter wouldn’t melt into it.

I agree and have suggested to MNHQ. 🌹

SoSo99 · 10/05/2024 17:20

This thread should be in the classics. Though it's tragic that so many adults have not learnt how, as @honeylulu said, to own and deal with their feelings.

SoSo99 · 10/05/2024 17:28

A question about sulking: is it worse to experience somone's sulk, or to experience a person losing their temper and blowing up in rage? Personally, I think they are equally as bad. Sulking might seem benign in comparison, but I think that a sulk is just a more silent form of temper tantrum or attempt to control another person.

Newestname002 · 10/05/2024 17:33

SoSo99 · 10/05/2024 17:28

A question about sulking: is it worse to experience somone's sulk, or to experience a person losing their temper and blowing up in rage? Personally, I think they are equally as bad. Sulking might seem benign in comparison, but I think that a sulk is just a more silent form of temper tantrum or attempt to control another person.

I've experienced both, including physical violence, and it's all frightening in different ways. Actions and emotions I want to stay well clear of and still affected by years afterwards. 🌹

SamW98 · 10/05/2024 17:38

In the VIP area of a sold out festival because there were too many young people, he right know why of the DJ’s or artists personally and basically he wasn’t centre of attention. He stood right at the back with his arms folded refusing to enjoy himself.

He then asked if we could go to one of the other tents for an hour. Then latched onto a group of blokes he knew and wanted to stay there the rest of the day. I said we’ve paid for the VIP tickets so let’s not waste them plus one of my favourite djs was on soon. He acted like Kevin the teenager. Very reluctantly came back to the VIP bit with me and stood there with a face like a smacked arse while I danced. The minute the dj set was over he went ‘let’s go now it’s shit’ and barely said a word the whole way home. Soon as we got in he said ‘I’m going to bed’ - it was about 9.30!!! Then got the hump because I stayed up and had a couple of drinks - I’d driven to the festival!

I only dated him a few weeks after that - he was an absolute child despite being in his 50’s

Mookie81 · 10/05/2024 18:36

OneThreadOnly · 09/05/2024 18:14

I sulked briefly (5 mins?) at my wedding because my brand new DH had disappeared into a side room with his two best women and everyone kept coming up to me saying oh where is DH. These are people on his side of the family and I had never met them.

What was he doing with them?!

ThreeImaginaryBoys · 10/05/2024 19:12

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@Confusedandemotional I've had a horrible week and that made me laugh out loud. I'm sure it was infuriating for you at the time, but thank you for cheering me up!

merrywidow · 10/05/2024 19:58

I've remembered another sulk my ex threw.

We were on holiday and had an argument about something, he stomped off out of the apartment leaving me with my two DCs, 5 & 12. It was evening so I stayed with them.

He sulked when he finally returned and I found out later it was because I didn't come to find him. No mention of my DCs potentially being left alone in an apartment in a holiday resort had I'd gone searching for the manchild

I should of dumped him then. I wasted another 10 years on him.

RosieIs44 · 10/05/2024 21:18

In Taormina on a beautiful holiday, because I wanted to buy €2 conditioner for my straw-like hair. He was holding all our cash, wouldn’t give it to me (he was very wealthy too). Walked in front of me and barely spoke to me for the rest of the holiday

Different ex (yes I stupidly had a pattern. HAD), blew up and then sulked for days as I replied to his text late at night that he was home after being out with “nice”. Really insulting apparently.

WW3 ensued when I asked him to lower his voice while publicly slagging off a (rival) business. He denied it, said I was the problem and tried to get me to apologise to him for making him feel bad?! Obviously.

That ended 2 years of blow-ups/rants/sulks.

My dad never sulked. I don’t know WTAF is going on with these emotional brats. It’s control, it’s abuse. My 5 year old handles themselves WAY better and wouldn’t do it!

Sharontheodopolodous · 10/05/2024 22:11

I fell pregnant to my ex-hellish pregnancy (I was carrying twins,lost one and the 'lost baby' formed into a blood clot that could have killed us)

He sulked because I started bleeding (ruined his plans for that night,getting pissed with his mate),I refused sex when we got back home after scans and tests showed what had happened,sulked because I'd smiled at him while having a vaginal swab (I looked like I was 'enjoying' it,male doctor did the tests) and I refused to buy him beer to make up for his 'lost' night out (he was a cocklodger on a massive scale)

He sulked at every appointment (high risk pregnancy)

And he sulked all the way through my labour as he didn't feel I supported him properly,we had a male midwife (like that was my choice) he was hungry-i should have packed food for him,plus he was pissed off I'd woken him at half 6 in the morning-he wasn't an early bird

Sulked when we got home because he couldn't play on his x-box due to having to help with baby

I left him

Crampulet · 10/05/2024 22:31

Eggmoobean · 09/05/2024 13:07

My ex (many years ago) got sulky over everything. The best one was in a nightclub when a man said “excuse me love” when walking past on the stairs. He proceeded to go into mental overdrive and started zipping and unzipping his coat and throwing his head back like a toddler. I couldn’t contain how hilarious it was and neither could my friends. I ended it about a month later.

@Eggmoobean This is the funniest thing I have ever heard, I bet you still laugh at this, however many years later. 😂

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TimWhoretons · 11/05/2024 09:11

Mine sulked in the hospital the day after I'd given birth. He turned up stoned out of his mind having spent all our money on weed, then sulked because I wouldn't give him my last pounds to buy a coffee from Costa. I look back in amazement at what I put up with back then. Thankfully, me and the dc are in a better place now. He's still unemployed, homeless, and stoned.

Hoppinggreen · 11/05/2024 09:56

SoSo99 · 10/05/2024 17:28

A question about sulking: is it worse to experience somone's sulk, or to experience a person losing their temper and blowing up in rage? Personally, I think they are equally as bad. Sulking might seem benign in comparison, but I think that a sulk is just a more silent form of temper tantrum or attempt to control another person.

In some ways sulking is worse because its a lot more subtle and while very few people would think you were over reacting for leaving someone who shouted and raved at you its harder to explain/justify leaving someone because they didnt speak to you

IBegYourBiggestPardon · 11/05/2024 11:13

@Newestname002 much calmer now, thank you. I've met my soulmate. He is the complete opposite of my exh and treats me with the most utmost respect. Anything that makes me feel uncomfortable he stops immediately. Doesn't push it just because it suits him. He also tells me many times a day how much he loves me and that I mean the world to him. He never makes me feel self conscious about my body and also tells me regularly he thinks I'm beautiful. I often tell him he needs to go get his eyes retested and get some stronger glasses if he thinks that 😅 my exh never complimented me and always made me feel shit about my body. One time he'd gone out drinking with some mates. On the way home he got us both a takeaway. As I was sat eating mine. He told me I shouldn't be eating that because I had embarrassed him in front of one of the guys he was out with. Apparently he'd noticed I'd put some weight on around my stomach and asked him if I was pregnant. What my exh failed to tell him was no I wasn't and the weight gain was due to my PCOS the whole thing would've laughable had he himself been about 8 stone thinner. Ex mil was just as bad though. Obsessed with me having a baby, but if anyone asked the first thing she'd say was you're joking aren't you. She's far too fat to have a baby. At the time I was probably around about a stone maybe a bit more overweight. What she also failed to tell people was that in order for me to fall pregnant there was a high chance I would need ivf. Her son refused point blank to do a sperm sample and her and my ex fil told me it was me that had the issues and to forget about having any tests done at all because my exh wasn't the issue at all. Turns out it wasn't me at all. The guy I'm with now I've fallen Pregnant 5 times. All ended in losses but at least I now know I can fall Pregnant. It's probably a massive blessing I never did fall Pregnant with my exh. Having to do shared parenting. No thanks although his drinking and golf would've come first anyway

BeBrightViper · 11/05/2024 12:15

Sulked when I asked him to bring my ds to hospital when my dad was put onto end of life care due to cancer. Sat in hospital room with my family yawning saying he had an early start in morning. Sulked on way to car park after visit as couldn’t find where he had parked his car and marched on ahead of me. Kept walking ahead and not waiting for me despite fact my dad was literally days away from passing away.

Newestname002 · 11/05/2024 12:16

@IBegYourBiggestPardon

I'm so sorry for your losses, but so pleased you are now sharing your present and future life with a good person. 🌹

LondonFox · 11/05/2024 12:44

Ex from long time ago.
Sulked if we went out with friends and I wanted to stay but he was "bored" and wanted to go home.
If I was at home studying for uni he had no issues going out and staying untill morning with same people in the same places.
Killjoy cunt.

Eliza779 · 11/05/2024 14:35

Is there any ex husband who plays golf that isn’t a complete loser?!

Itisallgoingtobeok · 11/05/2024 17:02

I've just remembered another one. He got very upset and sulked for an entire day because his Mum said hello to me when went to her house for lunch. I genuinely could not think of a response when I finally got out of him what was wrong.

Eliza779 · 11/05/2024 18:36

Going on holiday, early twenties, my mum had kindly offered to drive us to the airport. Ex and I were putting luggage in car and mum was last out so locked the door behind her and gave him the key.
He was furious for three days. I could tell as soon as we all sat in the car - that something was off. He wanted to lock the door.

Crampulet · 11/05/2024 20:08

Eliza779 · 11/05/2024 18:36

Going on holiday, early twenties, my mum had kindly offered to drive us to the airport. Ex and I were putting luggage in car and mum was last out so locked the door behind her and gave him the key.
He was furious for three days. I could tell as soon as we all sat in the car - that something was off. He wanted to lock the door.

@Eliza779 Haha, this is another gem! 😂