Adultwork, i need as much information as possible

[NavySloth]

Hello,

i will try to cut this story short. I recently found my husband activity with adultwork. I was able to login and acces emails saying about lasts logins and also his username for the website. Its came as a complete shock. After more digging i found out about more of the website. Later on when i confronted him about this, he was just lying to my face as never happened, total denial. I have some screenshots of things i found, i was also able to login to the app. If anyone know more then me please let me know. I found 2 bookings with escorts, just really wanna know if these booking were actually went ahead because he said he did not meet them. I also saw a hot list, there were many girls but i also saw saying’’recently interacted with’’ what does it mean? I do beleive he deleted maybe some of his bookings before handed the phone to me but i also know by others, many people making bookings by phone calls. Any information would be much appreciated.
and sorry for any misspelling English isn’t my first language. Thank you for the answers in advance.

I think the fact that he has an actual one hour booking tells you all you need to know

Yes he deffo met them by the looks of it he’s lying through his teeth and won’t ever tell you the full truth they rarely do
what do you want to do OP?

Also, as the meet up was over two years ago, it would have been very easy for him to get rid of any evidence between then and now. But given that he's been using these websites regardless, I'd say that is reason enough to get rid of him?

Its definitely an end of relationship. The sad thing when he made this booking I was pregnant with our child. And make me sick to the stomach. I would never ever think anything like this. I will go and get checked by the GP just in case hoping i did not get any infection. Luckily i did not get anything through my pregnancy, he obviously did not give a shit about.

as he said he made the booking but he did not went, i just wanted to know if someone makes a booking like this its 100% going ahaed? For example if either party cancellong the meeting thats should be visible?

I've got to be honest, even if he didn't go through with it I'd still never trust him again. The intention was there.

He made a booking to visit a prostitute. Does it really matter if he went ahead with it?

Hi OP, no it isn't certain that any booking went ahead and in fact looks like this one didn't, as the status says "Meeting date passed". Usually if the booking had gone ahead the status would say either "Scheduled" or "Confirmed" - which means the escort has accepted the booking and then confirmed that it happened.

The status however doesn't necessarily mean that it definitely didn't happen - I've regularly had booking requests put through that I've either forgotten to confirm or have left unconfirmed as I haven't wanted feedback from that individual. (This is the main purpose of booking forms - they are there so both parties can leave feedback. Arrangements are almost always made through phone/text.)

It's highly unlikely that he got that far and didn't go through with it. Sorry, OP. But why do you need to know 100%? He has broken your trust and connected with a prostitute while you were pregnant. He then had sex with you I'm sure, thus putting you AND YOUR CHILD at risk. STIs acquired during pregnancy can cause premature labour, low birth weight and female babies can be BORN WITH THE INFECTION!

He is a selfish monster for doing what he did.

It COULD have been more of a fantasy on his part and he didn't see her - a gay friend of mine says that on a site he is on (not escorting) there are a lot of people who agree to meet and don't, fantasists he calls them.

But while it's one thing to masturbate to some porn (others may disagree), actively engaging with a prostitute will cross the line for most. As a guy it is not something that has happened to me so no idea if worse than a normal affair or not (I did forgive my wife after her affair, would I have done the same is she had seen an escort, quite possibly).

He’s made two bookings, you can’t book without paying a deposit or the full fee upfront. He’s not made and paid for two 1 hour bookings and not gone to them

Yeh I’ve just gone onto the website and you prepay by bank deposit. No fucking way has he done that twice and changed his mind both times, complete wishful thinking people suggesting it’s a fantasy to book prostitutes and not turn up. He’s met them

No you absolutely do not book like that. Adultwork specifically forbid taking deposits via their platform for legal reasons.

Thank you for the answers everyone. Obviously i know what he did its too obvious, but i am just so down i wanted to beleive otherwise. He is denying it to the core, unbelievable and thats makes me even more cray and frustrated. Even if he would say and admit what he did i would feel better a bit, but lying to my face thats just the lowest.

Except you ‘absolutely do’ as I’ve just gone to book and thats what it says to do? Have a look yourself. Depending on the profile you click on you have to bank transfer a minimum of 25% deposit.

Why do you think that? It’s normal to pay a deposit upfront? How else do you think someone is going to book as no one is turning up with no guarantee of being paid?

Hi Op

I'm so sorry for what you're going through. I also discovered my now ex BF was on Adultwork.com. I remember that next to his username was a number which related to feedback that the prossies had left for him! If you click on this number there may be feedback, which proves he met them or had a camming session with them.

Again, so sorry. X

I’ve just gone on the page, clicked on escorts, clicked on a profile, clicked on book. And it came up with a page of her list of services with prices and bank transfer details for payment to book

I’m literally on their website 😂 there’s a lot of girls just doing phone and cam work. But if you’re meeting for sex or services then you pay a deposit first, of course you do. He’s paid £100 for hour long sessions. Thats sex services, and also cheap af btw so he’s picked the lowest quality (I don’t know how to put it nicer) girls on the entire website

It does not matter whether he met them or not. The intention was there enough to book and pay at least once whilst you were pregnant with his child. Game over for most of us.

No I'm sorry that simply isn't true. That is not how Adultwork functions on either the mobile or desktop version. You're welcome to post a screenshot - it's possible you've clicked on "instant bookings" which is a paid video call. When you click on "make booking" you'll be asked for time and date of booking, contact details and comments - as per OP's screenshots. There is no option to pay and Adultwork actually ban service providers who try to take deposits using Adultwork credits.

The two bookings mean that bookings for sex workers were definitely made (the 2019 and April 2024 ones) - if their profiles are still active, there used to be a review section on the sex worker's pages, you could go through the reviews and see if your husband has left one which will confirm that they definitely went through with the booking. If it's easier, your husband's profile should also have a review section which you can look at as well (if they still have this review system). From the looks of things and 'Meeting date past' for the 2024 booking, it might have not gone through or the SW/your husband just hasn't confirmed the status or made a review of the booking yet if they did go through with it.

Lots of people are saying it could be telephone/webcam, which could be true, but the type of message and booking system for calls/webcam used to be different and it looks like a services meet up to me

Sorry I need to correct myself, *2022 not 2024!

I did saw some credit thing as well he had like 3.65 something. I did not know what it means but probably he topped up with some money i guess, which he used towards these bookings.

I did saw some credit thing as well he had like 3.65 something. I did not know what it means but probably he topped up with some money i guess, which he used towards these bookings, then videos maybe?