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Heartbroken. I left the love of my life.

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yewtreetheboneless · 27/04/2024 15:16

Yesterday I left my husband of 5 years. He was a family friend and I knew him my entire life, he was the love of my life. After our first child was born we slowly started to drift apart. More and more arguing, less and less affection. Not on my part mind you, I always made sure we kissed and hugged every day and wouldn't go to sleep unless I said "i love you" our daughter is 3 and has recently been diagnosed with type 1 diabetes. This has been extremely difficult on both of us, we also have a 4 month old ds. We were on a small break away for the weekend and upon arriving at our hotel we got into an argument about sleeping arrangements with the dc. He proceeded to punch he very hard in the shoulder when my back was turned. I obviously packed our things and left. I'm back home with the dc and husband is still at the hotel. I cannot tolerate abusers and in all our lives I never imagined he would do such a thing. I know my marriage now can't be repaired and im absolutely devastated. I don't have any family or friends who live near me and do go out much. I feel so horribly alone and heartbroken.

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theworldie · 28/04/2024 11:16

Hope you’re doing ok OP - do you have RL support?

Did you tell the police exactly what happened at the hotel? This is v important because if you want a non molestation order to get him out of your house (even if you let him back and something else happens later on) every detail will help - so tell them everything whilst it’s still fresh in your mind and make an official record of assault.

You are so strong OP - you’ve got strong boundaries and are a fierce mother protecting herself her cubs. You know you don’t deserve this and it isn’t normal - my dh has never once raised a hand to me in 20 years, even during very heated arguments.
Keep posting if you want to as you will get good advice here - obvs ignore the people who seem to have some kind of agenda to get women to stay in abusive relationships. It is becoming worryingly frequent to see these types of posters on MN, almost like it’s some kind of incel movement 🤔

Crazycrazylady · 28/04/2024 11:17

I'm sorry op. Awful that you can be with someone for so long and they can do this to you and your family . Terrifying really that some men can change their spots( or hide) them for so long.

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