I am pregnant for the first time in somewhat less than ideal circumstances. I am 41 and met a man from online dating a few months ago. I did a Clearblue test and it was showing as 3+ weeks. I also used a due date calculator based on when my LMP was and I'm 7 weeks pregnant according to that. We had sex for the first time in late February and I'm pretty sure that was when I conceived. The dates match up perfectly. There are a few things I want to clarify. When we had sex the first time, we both got carried away. I felt very attracted to him and he seemed to feel the same, which led to us having sex. Contraception wasn't on our minds at all. He didn't pressure me not to use a condom and I didn't pressure him. I also had problems conceiving in a previous relationship in my 30s. I didn't get pregnant once after actively trying for about 3 years in that relationship. Not that that is an excuse for not using contraception, but that is where I am currently.
I told him that I'm pregnant a few days ago, and so far he has been supportive about it. He said he is looking forward to being a parent. He is 34 and this will be his first child also. I don't know what the future holds though. I'm really happy to be pregnant but also quite anxious about the future. I am trying work out what the arrangement will be if we aren't in a relationship and not living together when the baby arrives. We were in the early stages of dating and getting to know each other, but not at the stage where you are actually in a relationship. I don't know if he will still be involved when the baby arrives. He has been saying the right things so far. I am wondering if there's anyone here who has been pregnant (or is currently pregnant) in a situation where they aren't actually in a relationship with the baby's father. I know it's a common situation but I also know it's stigmatised sometimes. I have friends who are pregnant (or have DCs already) and they are all in relationships with their DC's dads.