His devious plan - can someone help me overcome it please?

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Partner has gone ahead without my permission to renovate my garden. I know it's a plan to set up a beneficial interest in my home.

I am very vulnerable at the moment due to illness, so fighting against the browbeating and just ignoring me and going ahead with what he wants is not an option.

Is there a clever solicitor out there that can help me word an email to him that basically tells him that if he is doing this work, that he has no interest in my home etc. It is worrying me sick and I will be splitting with him but I can't at the moment.

I have sent texts etc pointing out that he ripped up my decking without my permission but he doesn't acknowledge it. He is doing this on purpose.

Errr dump him. Do it now. Just get it done with. Email him too saying in no uncertain terms he is not to do the work.

Also just so you know, the ‘postal rule’ applies to emails. That means even if he doesn’t acknowledge it, it can be presumed that he has received it as long as you got the email address right. Follow up with a text message reiterating it.

End the relationship
Get him to leave
Ring police if he refuses

Surely having text/emails stating you asking him not to do it would be evidence enough?

Tell him to leave. Get a locksmith to change the locks. Call the police if he won't leave or tries to get back into the house.

I agree, end it and ask him to go. Do you think he will leave though if he has already gone against your wishes re the garden?

You’re focusing your attention in the wrong place.

Dump him, police if he refuses to leave.

Also if he continues to do it without your permission, it’s criminal damage. Make sure you include that too.

If he will do this against your wishes and whilst you are sick he is showing you his true colours! As pps have said police if he refuses.

Its criminal damage.

If you are vulnerable and he persist with his gaslighting involve the police and end this madness. While you stay with him, he will destroy your property further and you in the process.

Dump him and change your locks already.

But send something like this anyway.

Dear [Partner's Name],
I am writing to express my extreme displeasure about the unauthorised renovations you have started in my garden, including the removal of my materials. I explicitly did not consent to these changes, and your actions show a disregard for my wishes and my property rights.

I understand that you may have intentions regarding the house. However, I must be unequivocally clear: these renovations grant you absolutely no claim or beneficial interest in my home. This property is mine alone and any work done without my express permission will hereby be considered criminal damage.

Due to my current health situation, I am unable to engage in disputes with you about this matter however please know that I expect an immediate halt to all renovation work and I am taking note of your actions and will consult with legal counsel to ensure my property and my rights are fully protected.

Sincerely,
[Your Name]

Has the renovations started?
Cancel all of it.

Tell them you're the owner and they don't have your permission.

If it's your house, OP, you don't need any clever letters. Or any strength. Just book a locksmith, tell him it's over, and change the locks.

I wouldn’t use the word “renovations” in any correspondence. Just plain “work”, or perhaps “alterations”. You don’t want to acknowledge any utility to you in what he’s doing.

What illness do you have? Where are your parents and siblings get them round there ?

Get a solicitor to do this/ write a letter? It might cost you £300-£500 depending on where you live and maybe get him out at the same time. He’s a dangerous menace. BUT from solicitors it will have further legal clarity. It may save you £££ down the line in the long run. As well as hassle. And maybe you will be taken seriously by your ex if legal back up? He’s not really your partner he’s your ex partner.

I literally just asked him to stop (he's got a chainsaw out now) he said "oh so you can say I have not done any work in the house." So he definitely knows what he is doing. I didn't press play on my video camera in time and missed the conversation.

Thank you for devising the email I think I have got a solicitor who I think I will email for an appointment. I have no idea what this will cost but I'm worried sick.

I can't get him to leave/call the police etc yet.

I come from an abusive family do they won't be of any help and I have been isolated and alone.

Oh OP, so sorry you are dealing with this wanker. Do you have a local friend who could support you?

And he is also pretending that I knew he was going to rip the decking up.

@OVienna I used to have friends until he came along. He has taken and destroyed everything in my life and now he's coming for my home. I am very scared of him and what he will do.

I need to reply to the comment about so you can say I have done nothing in the house to show I know his game.

OP if it's your house, then of course you can call the police, get a locksmith and make him leave. Why wouldn't you? You don't want him there, tell the police you feel "unsafe" as he's waving a chainsaw around, just get him gone!

Call the Police OP. He’s got a chainsaw out and you are saying No and he’s ignoring you.

I would use the word ‘damage’

Send him a solicitor letter about trespass and damage to your property... He leaves today...

Call the police- say you feel threatened and unsafe.

they will come round and remove him from the premises.