His devious plan - can someone help me overcome it please?

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Partner has gone ahead without my permission to renovate my garden. I know it's a plan to set up a beneficial interest in my home.

I am very vulnerable at the moment due to illness, so fighting against the browbeating and just ignoring me and going ahead with what he wants is not an option.

Is there a clever solicitor out there that can help me word an email to him that basically tells him that if he is doing this work, that he has no interest in my home etc. It is worrying me sick and I will be splitting with him but I can't at the moment.

I have sent texts etc pointing out that he ripped up my decking without my permission but he doesn't acknowledge it. He is doing this on purpose.

If you have recordings of the threats, it's time to involve the police. You cannot continue to live in fear.

If you have evidence of his threats, the police should take it really seriously. I hope you get through to Women's Aid soon.

Agree with pp, if you have recordings then involve the police. Tell them he's also threatened to stalk you so they can set up a non-mol(?).

If you can't get through to Women's Aid on the phone then try emailing them, they might be able to tell you of any local support groups who can help

Ask your GP surgery if they have social proscribers, they can go with you if you feel mentally overwhelmed.

Yes, I've had enough.

I've just got home and he's been putting on his charming face to the older neighbour next door and talking to her for "ages" about the garden. Then he said something that made me tell that he was saying things like I'm moaning at him to hurry up and do the garden and "you girls don't know how long it takes." I filled in the blanks about what he was saying about me. I just said oh so you're bad mouthing me to the neighbours.

Why doesn't the lady ever speak to me. I just have no confidence at all, it like he's taking over. I feel so isolated.

Im so mad Im going to get the solicitor's appointment too, I was just looking in the car for it.

You need to do whatever it takes to get him out of your life. He's a horrible bastard and clearly enjoys making your life a misery. Good luck x

OP why do you think he'd take any notice at all of a solicitor?

Your best and only recourse is the Police. Tell them about the threats to you. Tell them you have threats recorded.

This won't stop unless he is made to by the police.

Ring them every single time he appears at your door or rings you. Ring them if he stalks you.

Tell your neighbours that he is threatening you and Police are aware. Ask them to ring Police if they see him hanging around your home.

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Sounds so abusive

Op please be strong

Op if this real then forget about not leaving him until after your operation leave him now I was in a dv relationship for many years I'm sorry but you ever watch to many programs about stalkers or your a nervous wreck this is bad for you mental health ever way

You're dragging your feet.
You need the Police.
Stop wasting time, it's not safe.