Would this concern you?

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So DH goes to a gym class 2/3 a week, same instructor, they are around the same age, (45) I've seen photos of the instructor and my DD said she's attractive you'll have to watch her lol!
He came back last week with a birthday card from her stating it was from all of them at the gym, when I read it it's just from her not everyone at all just from her....with love X.
He always manages to get to the class way earlier than necessary as well.
Seems a bit odd she'd go to this trouble or am I overthinking here?

Possibly over thinking. Doubt he'd bring it home if anything nefarious was happening?

It’s probably nothing, but I would be suspicious for exactly all the reasons you state.

My approach would be to jokingly say something like…ah teachers pet haha etc so he knows you’re aware.

Do you ever go the gym, and could you join the class to sound her out.

No I got to a different gym, it just makes me slightly uncomfortable and I just wanted to hear if it was me or if others would feel the same...

Also....why did he say it's from all of them, when clearly it wasn't?

I wonder I she gives everyone in her class a birthday card ?

How do you know he gets to class early ?

That's the thing I wouldn't like. I wouldn't be worrying about what time he arrives to a gym class - that seems a bit intrusive.

Could you not both go to the same gym? It would give you more time together.

Because he knew you’d be upset if you saw it was just from her.

If he had something to hide, he wouldn’t have let you see it.

I think they are possibly closer than he’s let on. I don’t think he’d bring anything home If there was a full blown affair but did he show the card to you or hide it?

I know the class time and how long it takes to get there, literally 5 minutes

It's on display..

Yes, but it sounds a bit too cosy and just because it's not an affair yet doesn't mean it won't be.

He clearly fancies her and I think there's quite a few bad signs here, OP.

How do you know he clearly fancies her?

How much earlier does he get to class?

I'm positive he does but there's not a lot I can do about it really.

25 minutes

Sometimes I go early to the gym because I workout a bit on the machines ( row machines, elliptical bikes etc) before my favourite class. Maybe your DH does the same.

No he can't stand any of that stuff, just the classes

She’ll be used to clients having crushes on her. Is your DH hot?

Yes it would concern me. He finds her attractive, goes out of his way to extend the time he spends in her presence, lies to you about who the card was from. How much more do you need before you trust your judgement?
How open-minded would he be if you raised your concerns with him? Would he take it on board or would he try to minimise?

Its a bit odd. Ive never been that close to a gym class instructor that they know my birthday and would go to the trouble of buying me a card. Yes perhaps if it was a PT one on one…idk what does your gut say?

I wouldn't say hot but he has charisma...

Exactly....we don't stop thinking other people are attractive just because we're in a relationship. But even if he does, there are a million steps between that and him cheating...(which im guessing is what you are worried about)....like his love and respect for you

I’d be off with this too. It’s difficult as you can’t really do much but it would upset me.

There's a difference between fancying someone at the gym, and, fancying someone at the gym and actively changing your behaviour as a result of fancying them.