DH has been stealing my ADHD meds

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Up until this point I have trusted him utterly.
I found my meds and he denied over and over again that he had taken them, that I was mistaken, he didn't know what I was talking about etc etc until he eventually admitted it.

It's the lying that has bothered me. I naively thought that he wasn't really capable of lying. I've never known him to be dishonest. He's said this was the first and only time but of course I don't believe him.

How bad is this?

Was he using them for himself or to stop you having them, why did he take them, it's a terrible thing to do especially when he lied.

That sort of lying suggests a drug problem.
Has he had substance abuse issues in the past?

He doesn't have a drug problem. He doesn't even drink. It's the lying I am bothered about.

It's bad, especially in the light of recent shortages. If he doesn't have a drug problem then why did he take them?

But why is he taking them? Do you mean taking them from you and hiding them. Or swallowing them

How bad? Very, very very bad I would say. He's really crossed a line here by leaving you short of a medication you need. The lying makes it worse

What meds were they, what was his excuse, bizarre behaviour.

He has a lot of work at the moment and says he took them to see if they would help him be more productive.

If he doesn't have a drug problem, what's the issue then? Does he think you shouldn't be taking the medication for some reason? Why did he take them?

Did they work in his opinion? Let's hope not, as that will lead to other issues.
That kind of lying is unforgivable IMO, I think you should look into living separately asap. Taking meds that someone else needs, then lying about it is very low behavior for anyone, and from a partner, it's unacceptable.

It’s very bad and could have a very serious impact on you if you were to run out.

out of interest, how did he respond to them? I’ve read many times that stimulant medication doesn’t have a positive effect for people who don’t have ADHD

He does have a drug problem. You’ve just created a thread dedicated to it.

So he lied because he stole them and didn't want to own up. He knew he was in the wrong but is ashamed of what he did.
Is he struggling at work? It seems a bit extreme to steal your medication, sounds a bit desperate tbh.
It needs a longer discussion with him, and maybe a visit to the doctor re. his stress levels, if you think he is now telling the truth.

Well, he does now. He's stealing your prescription medication - and a controlled substance at that.

Think back - how many times have you thought 'I'm sure I haven't taken my meds/thought I had another week in there/swear that I put them back in the cupboard on the middle shelf'?

Seriously, it's a divorce level event. And of course he'd say that he only tried it once/twice/didn't like it. The truth is that he's probably been doing it for ages.

He 'didn't' have a drug problem.

He apparently does now. Keep them hidden and find out his motivation so you can help him moving forward.

Jesus you divorce easily....

He has a drug problem.

Wake up!

Jesus you divorce easily....

Speaking
Committing a crime
Lying
Gaslighting
Risking health

Yeah, I'd be taking that pretty seriously.

Stealing prescription adhd medication to take unsupervised is the very definition of having a drug problem.

you need to be realistic about your situation. If you want to save your marriage, your husband needs to address his issues. You also need to keep your medication locked and inventory it regularly.

I guess he has a drug problem if he's been taking them for a while, which he says he hasn't. He says he didn't take them in the end. But I don't know whether to believe him or not!

so where are they?

Ok . Unpacking this .. have you noticed you are running short of meds .

Assuming your meds are controlled meds.. they amount you are prescribed is very controlled .

Does he suspect he has adhd struggling to focus or as they are stimulants hoping to give him energy to work through.

obviously not ok . However I would want to do some more digging as to what is going on .

why is he lying . You have never known him lie .. not the same

How many are missing?

And where are they if he didn't take them?

I randomly found a couple and thought they looked familiar. He's given them back now and says it was only two.

Lock them away.