DH has been stealing my ADHD meds

[fantom]

Up until this point I have trusted him utterly.
I found my meds and he denied over and over again that he had taken them, that I was mistaken, he didn't know what I was talking about etc etc until he eventually admitted it.

It's the lying that has bothered me. I naively thought that he wasn't really capable of lying. I've never known him to be dishonest. He's said this was the first and only time but of course I don't believe him.

How bad is this?

Ok, so he was curious about whether a drug known to improve focus would help him be more productive. That’s an understandable curiosity, and I know people who’ve tried adhd drugs for that reason but don’t use any other drugs.

But he stole your medicine, that you need in order to be able to function properly in day to day life. Then he lied to you about it.

So he put his curiosity ahead of your basic wellbeing, and then lied about it to your face.

Both of those are massive massive potential divorce kind of issues.

The only way I could get past this is if I realised that he was under enormous work stress, had acted out of character and would take steps to resolve the work issue? Then it’s maybe forgivable but still very shitty.

My DH has ADHD, one of most severe cases the MHT have seen apparently. The meds have been absolutely life changing for us as a family. I can’t imagine ever stealing his meds for my own pleasure and leaving him without. That would be my main issue in your scenario. Does he not care about your wellbeing?

I think it's obviously extremely different if it's one of the most severe cases ever seen and leaving him without.

OP said she doesn't believe him that this time was the one and only time but also that she doesn't have spare, but she's never said that any were missing before either so it doesn't really make sense to think he might have taken them before if she only ever has enough for herself and has to take them every day.