Dh has text me from a different number.

[Sickandanxious]

Please be kind. I'm sitting here feeling sick to my stomach and feeling panicky. I'm hoping that I'm mistaken and that there is an explanation for this happening.
I sent DH 2 texts one after the other with different questions. He answered the second question but not the first which I thought strange but maybe he was just busy with work.
Later he text me with a question to which I answered. A bit later just as I got home another text appeared in answer to the first question I asked.
This is what's weird. The text was from a different number!
He has recently bought new phone and changed his provider but has kept his number so how is this possible?
I didn't mention keeping my cards close to my chest MN style and hoped it would all become apparent and that it's something to do with his new phone etc.
I've had to look on his phone, the second msg he sent me isn't there so I think he may have royally fucked up and maybe he has a second sim or phone?
I know I shouldn't have looked on his phone but it's making me feel so ill.
What an I do to check? If I put the number in my phone and there's a WhatsApp attached will a photo come up and will my number then show on that phone?
I'm not at all tech savvy.
I don't think I'll sleep tonight.

Sounds like a tech/transition issue.

This is common with a new phone/number change. Sometimes it happens with my husband's phone, despite him changing the number ages ago (like well over a year ago), it's just a technical issue. Nothing to worry about!

Why on earth would you say that you didn't mind? There are clearly bigger issues here.

Just say you dialled it as you thought it was his new number!

He texted you from it, after all!

I would presume a technical issue rather than some great conspiracy unless you omitted to mention his 20 previous affairs?

What new phone did he get?

My phone takes 2 sim cards.

Happened with a friend of mine, when she texts now it comes through twice. One off her original number and one of the new one. Strange

Sorry didn't make that clear. I meant that I said the answer was no, that I wouldnt be happy for him to do that!!

No previous affairs! Just my insecurities I'm now thinking in view of all these replies.

Good idea. Will do that tomorrow.

I want to give a "its probably a tech" issue answer, but I cant.
Its probably (given your comments about him wanting to see other people etc) his burner and he got in a muddle with it.

I will get shot down for saying this but I would say that on the basis of probabilities....is he more likely to have a sim that coincidentally has two numbers or that he is having an affair?

I am so sorry. I was you and thought myself through hoops to make "this not be happening" but it was.

Normally I'd think yes he's a cheat. But I am so hoping it's a technical issue.

Hoping it's the former but as you can see I'm not able to sleep and I've got an early start🙁. It's going to be a long day.....
Did you just ask about it outright or wait until you had evidence? I had a bf cheat on me years ago, no proof but my mh took a battering. The thought of goin through all that again is doing my head in.

I can't get over the name in the favourites. It's the only name in there.

But why would he not notice your message wasn't there when he went to reply to it? When was his switch-over date?

As someone who has switched networks only last week, there was a period where both numbers were active until the old account was closed and the number fully ported to the new SIM.

Dual sim?
I have one and can select the sim I text or call from.
It doesn’t work for WhatsApp.
If it’s an iPhone open the dial a phone number screen. At the top there may be a selector of which number to call from. It’s a self chosen name. Click it, and you’ll know.
Otherwise if an iPhone, go to settings > mobile data and in there it lists the ‘Sims’.
Rule out a dual sim.

Just fyi, if it's an iPhone there is a "phone" setting in his settings. It should then show "my number" this is probably still stuck as the number which came with the new sim. You can manually change it on there :)

Maybe I haven't made it clear. It's like this.... (made up convo)
Me/first msg:Did you come across my jumper?
Me/second msg straight after: Did the dog eat all her food this morning?
Dh/old number: yes she did.
Later.... Dh/old number: Has Greg got back you with the quote yet?
Me: Yes it's all as he said.
A bit later...
Dh/other number: Yes it was in the boot.

He later asked me at home if I'd received the reply about the dog.

The text that he sent me from the new number wasn't on his phone so it doesn't look as long it's come from that phone if you look on there. But as others have said it could be a technical glitch.

🤔

Yes. I understood. It still doesn't make sense that he would read that message on one phone, then get out another phone later, open up your contact where there is zero chat history, then send you a reply to a message that he doesn't see.

The new SIM will be in his new phone. That SIM will originally have had a different number.

Is there a reason why you won't say when the switch-over date was?

Check if it’s a phone that takes 2 sims.
My DH has his work sim and personal sim in the same phone so he doesn’t have to carry two phones.
He has to select which number to call/text from. It sounds like your DH has messed up..

No reason I just can't remember. Maybe a couple of days ago. I think Wednesday. Does that make a difference?

He's let you look through his phone which is normally a good sign.

Thank you but unfortunately he doesn't know that I have. I only checked (and I'm not proud of myself) because it all seemed odd and now I know why people snoop and others don't. 😞 I'm tying myself up in knots. He knows I'm not techy and could hide things from me though. I feel such a fool. I haven't slept.

Did you recognise the name in favourites? I'm assuming that's favourites in his regular phone?