How many times did a boyfriend tell you "my ex is crazy"....

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Just out of interest
Have you ever had a partner who claimed his ex was "crazy" and then you meet the ex or get to know the ex and his stories don't match up? And he turns out to be the crazy one?

My current situation with exdp. Share your experiences please give me some insight

I wish stbxh had warned me how batshit crazy his ex was. Would've saved me 13years of hurt and drama.

Never had a man say this tbh. And why would you meet his ex anyway? I have no interest in meeting bfs exes or exes exes!

I never met the crazy ex but it became clear he was the problem.

I have been tempted to reach out to her for my own validation... but I decided it would be re traumatizing for both of us and set to healing in other ways (therapy,
Exercise, boundary setting), rather than giving him more airtime

I think only once. And he ended up mad as a box of frogs.

Yea last one, I raised an eyebrow and had my guard up from then on. Pretty soon realised he was the nutter. No loss, was less than 3 months out of my life and was already piecing stuff together. I stayed calm while he ranted, then drove away, never to see him again. Quite glad to learn I'd stuck to zero tolerance.
Now I'd never date anyone who's got tales of dodgy childhood experiences- he had those too.

I think my current ex blame me for everything even for the global warming. Fair enough, I'm so powerful that I can change the weather.

DH has said this about his ex. In his defence, she has major mental health issues and has been sectioned repeatedly,

An ex (who has the same name as DH) also said his ex was crazy. If she was, I reckon he made her that way. He was good at gaslighting. But apparently I was a demanding bitch because I could see through it (most of the time).

Yeah my ex said this about his ex. He wasn't taking his own behaviour into account though, he treated her badly. I ended relationship with him and he moved on very quickly, despite chasing me and I think an overlap with her. She looks lovely, I feel so sorry for her, she probably has no idea how he's behaved. I'm probably now the crazy ex , who knows. Dodged a bullet

Yep and she now talks to Aliens so he pretty much was right lol.

All these men able to medically diagnose women as crazy, unstable etc. What marvels of science they are.

2 exes told me their exes were crazy. I didnt believe them and asked if they'd displayed behaviour that upset their exes? & if they were upset, how did that make them 'crazy?'
Of course not..they were saints of men.

Except they werent. Took me about 1 month to get rid of one, 6 months the other. 1st one has been single for years now after a string of failed relationships and it is always, without fail, the 'crazy' woman's fault. He's a good looking well dressed man so no trouble at all getting women. He just cant keep them. Must have a list of 10+ crazy women by now.

No different to all the women that claim their exes are “narcissists” when reality is it’s very rare to be diagnosed with NPD

Never. It would be a massive red flag. I trust men who respect their exes and remain on cordial terms. We are friendly with two of DP's exes; great women.

If a date mentions his crazy ex on a first date, he doesn't get a second date! So I've never had any actual experience of a boyfriend saying this.

Yes I had one of those. Unfortunately by the time I realised, I was pregnant. I'm now the crazy ex too, except he struggles to say much against me because I've brought up our son without him and done a bloody good job if I do say so myself. He couldn't say much about what a terrible parent I was so instead he told people I beat him up. Said that about the ex before me too. I soon learned the shoe was on the other foot.

My nephew''s ex genuinely is crazy. I have witnessed her behavior on occasion myself. She is genuinely very disturbed although she initially presents well and seems a lovely person. When he broke things off, she actually lied about him and got him arrested. He was in the cells for hours before his parents bailed him and got a lawyer. Then she started stalking him. Luckily nothing stuck but he was absolutely traumatised and lived in fear of running into her and her making up more allegations. He was staying with us and was whitefaced when he came in after he'd seen her across a crowded gathering.

He didn't tell people she was crazy though because he knew people make these assumptions. I understand she has made other allegations about men subsequently. Nobody believes her any more though.

I've never had them outright say "she's crazy" but I have had dates who have hinted along those lines while painting themselves as saints. That was enough for me to not bother with them any more. Whatever the ins and outs there's something not right with a person who goes into all that a couple of dates in.

I've also had dates who called their exes "bitches" - again, not interested in hearing anything further from you, angry man.

My ex said it, and he was actually right. Soon as I caught her driving past my house every day and taking photos of my car on the drive and sending them to him with “the bitch is in shall I say hello?”. Not forgetting when I saw her circling outside in the car park at work too. Fucking psychopath.

DH’s ex is crazy. Sometimes they actually are.

My DH has never called his ex crazy but I wish he bloody had because she's batshit and some warning might have been nice.

They're too busy telling me I'm crazy. They regret leaving their ex

Wow. Wtf

Yes this, it’s the reddest of red flags to me.

Had a friend’s new partner, upon first meeting him, start telling me how crazy his ex wife was (I’d not asked anything about her by the way). He turned out to be the worst thing that’s ever happened to my friend, and because she had a child with him he’s still making her life hard every chance he gets.

I’m sure there are some men out there with genuinely difficult or ‘crazy’ exes but in general I think slagging off previous partners with no reflection on your own part in things is a bad sign. I also find it incredible how many of these poor victims are content to leave their children to be raised by such evil harpies.

I have had one partner say this, but his ex actually was quite mentally unwell and harassed/ stalked both of us.

I've not had anyone say it who I felt wasn't telling the truth.

Also I would like to add that this isn't just a male thing - plenty of women claim that their exes are crazy, too.

I think it's just a relationship thing. There is often a lot of bitterness/ jealousy/ emotions generally around relationships ending which become unpleasant, on both sides!