When we got together, my ex told me that his ex-wife was super controlling and gas lit him and that she was emotionally abusive. I had nothing but sympathy!!
I was a fool, clearly. He was nice to me until I was pregnant. He has, in our relationship, and afterwards, been a complete menace since then. He's shockingly awful, and has caused a lot of pain to a lot of people.
He repeated the behaviour with another school Mum with a child in the same class. I wanted to warn her but my counsellor told me not to, as I would be seen as the crazy, jealous ex. Luckily, this lady was smart and figured out that it was him, not me, who was the issue. He was horrible to her and she could see that I was being reasonable.
When he went with Mum 3 at the school (yes!)......, she was very vulnerable so both of us warned her (me and school Mum two). It was completely pointless. Mum 3 actually used it to attack me and was a real bitch, getting her friends to also point and laugh at me at school. She has been very mean in other ways too.
It's like watching a slow motion car crash now, but at least our conscience is clear. He won't change.