How many times did a boyfriend tell you "my ex is crazy"....

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Just out of interest
Have you ever had a partner who claimed his ex was "crazy" and then you meet the ex or get to know the ex and his stories don't match up? And he turns out to be the crazy one?

My current situation with exdp. Share your experiences please give me some insight

I dated a guy for a year when I was much much younger who had lots of crazy exs. Turns out, he was still with the one before me when we got together, and cheated on me with the next one……

I’ve avoided anyone who drops that phrase since

Very ironically a guy I dated who had several crazy exes...and who turned out to be the problem (possessive, controlling, temper tantrums etc) told me one of the best lines...from his cousin .... Re "crazy" women.

A man they knew who'd been caught cheating while working away and who was criticising his wife/stbex wife, was responded to by his cousin with;

" If my other half was down the country shagging other men, I doubt you'd be seeing my best side either".

Anyway there are a lot of men who somehow expect women to be calm, chilled, tolerating, forgiving, cheerful, committed and accommodating....while they are cheaters, flirts, porn addicts, "sex" addicts, brothel crawlers, strip club crawlers, gamblers, gamers, drinkers, sleazes, shit with money, unreliable, inconsiderate, selfish, boorish, shit parents, don't pull their weight etc etc etc.

If the women are not Mother Theresa in the face of this, they're "crazy" women.

One of my ex's favourite soundbites about his crazy ex was that she banged her head repeatedly off a door architrave in his home.

After a few months of listening to him rant and rave every month or so about my sins and offences (like going out for a drink with friends - which meant I "didn't care about the relationship/was not committed to the relationship") or that I spoke to my male ex colleague in the street outside a hotel while attending a concert with friends. Which was apparently inappropriate and another offence against him ....... I fully understood why she banged her head off something.

I felt like banging my head off something. He would get into these berating rants where every offence - all totally unreasonable - was touched on, and also exaggerated and sometimes outright lied about - while you tried to defend yourself. I am not physical and so just ended up screaming at him - whereupon I was declared a "psycho" ... But I understood how other women could have hit him (as he claimed she did too) or hurt themselves, especially if drinking.as they often were.

I am in the total same boat with this....ex dp claimed his ex was crazy and jealous and would loose her temper. If it was true she wasn't crazy, she was jealous because he did things on purpose to make her feel like thar and it she did ever loose her temper I fully fucking understand why after 18 months together I felt the god damn same

The wife was a psycho
The girlfriend after the wife cheated
The 2nd girlfriend hes remained friends with and other than grumbling about her phone use and lack of attention he wont trash her although he did once or twice call her a tart!

Turns out he was the cheat and she left him.

Yep. My ex said that his ex-wife was abusive.... I believed him. I don't now. She probably escaped the same madness that I did.

My ex has been awful, both in the relationship and afterwards.

He keeps picking Mums as girlfriends with children in the same class as our child, so I guess that I am now 'the crazy ex,' as well as the unfortunate lady after me. The current one must be blind. X