Husband cheated with men

[NimbleCat]

I (35F) have been married to my husband (35M) for 6 years. We have two young children together. I recently found out that he cheated on me when my eldest was a baby. He used gay hookup sites to meet men for sex (He always told me he was 100% straight, even acted homophobic if anything). He has admitted to three separate occasions the same month. He says he had always been curious about his sexuality and felt it was something he had to explore as he couldn’t stop thinking about it. He denies any further episodes since this time. I feel absolutely devastated and as if our whole marriage has been a lie. Is there any getting through this?

@ThirtyThrillionThreeTrees that's exactly it- it's not the fact he's gay or bi- it's the fact he is a cheat within the relationship

If you look again at my original post, I said 'Homosexuals are often more promiscuous is true.'

If you look again at MY original post, I was responding to someone who said, "Homosexuals are promiscuous," thereby defining all gay people by their supposed promiscuity. Me, Sandi Toksvig, Richard Coles- all promiscuous, according to that poster. That is homophobic, and if you can't see that, then I cannot help you. * *

Of course one can say that certain behaviours in any particular grouping are prevalent. That is fact in many cases, proven by data. Nothing wrong in telling the truth is there?

I have no issue with someone saying that gay men tend to have had more sexual partners than straight men (if that is true, I really don't know). That is describing a trend and is not making a judgement. Why shouldn't people have multiple sexual partners if they are practising safe sex and are not cheating on anyone? It's the value-judgement of the word 'promiscuous' and the lumping all gay people in together (and ignoring the fact that around 50% of 'homosexuals' are women- when the poster said that homosexuals are promiscuous, I doubt she was thinking of Miriam Margolyes) that is homophobic.

And finally, thanks for clarifying you are not gay- I would never have guessed.

@2mummies1baby
And finally, thanks for clarifying you are not gay- I would never have guessed.

I was merely trying to indicate the proportions of women to men who were prepared to offer their free time to work in what was a very unpopular topic at that time.

How have people found out their husband s were cheating with other men, I'm sure my friends husband is but can't prove it

I think they normally see the apps or emails on their phones. Maybe some who suspect it make a fake account but then you'd have to know what sites they're using if you're trying to find them.

My ex friends husband inadvertently posted on Twitter. He hadn't realised that all of his phone contacts would be alerted about his new account and would be able to view the pictures he'd posted....