OLD- what is sex positivity? And is it yet another excuse for men to push women’s boundaries

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Recently went back on OLD after a few years absence. I’ve recently seen an increase of men talking about being into ‘sex positivity’

I looked it up and it sounds like it can basically mean what you want it to mean!

call me an old cynic, but is it just code for ‘I want to treat you like a blow up sex doll, and you’ll be portrayed as a prude if you don’t go along with whatever I want’ ?

Technically, it’s about enjoying sex and not thinking it’s anything to be ashamed of, but I thought we were all on board with that in the 21st century anyway??

Think the issue here is since Bumble introduced Sex Positivity as a generic drop down more and more men are using it on their profile without a clue what it means. They just see the word sex and that’s enough for them.

Theres always been people who put non vanilla in their bio and I think the fact they’ve actually been clear on that rather than a generic drop down means they’re far more likely to know what they’re looking for compared to the ones who just think ‘no strings shag’ without really having a clue.

Ah that makes sense! I wondered why it became a thing. Didn’t realise that bumble had added it.

Theres always been people who put non vanilla in their bio and I think the fact they’ve actually been clear on that rather than a generic drop down means they’re far more likely to know what they’re looking for compared to the ones who just think ‘no strings shag’ without really having a clue.

I quite like Feeld because people are more open about what they actually want.

I was thinking of asking a man about what sex postivity actually meant to them too but then I didn’t want to take that red flag away from them