Longest you’ve gone without sex?

[LilBus]

Since being an adult and sexually active obviously what’s the longest time you’ve gone without sex? I read another post where someone said they hadn’t had sex for 2 years and felt embarrassed by it and I was thinking that’s nothing 😂 it’s been 8 years for me (not through choice!) I imagine most people haven’t spent many years celibate? Am I wrong? What’s the longest period you’ve gone without sex? This is more aimed at single people rather than those in sexless relationships

The longest was almost 2 years, during pregnancy and after I had DC3, the morning sickness/ low lying placenta/ birth recovery/ breast feeding kept me free from it. I would have happily gone much much longer but felt I had to just give in to H after he kept going on about it.

I probably try to go about a year or 18 months as after a sexual assualt I absolutely hate it. I've just given in recently so hopefully have some months where I can relax a bit.

When I was single I think maybe a week would be the longest but like a pp I usually had a friend I could hook up with when I wanted. I always thought it seemed weird when people said having a relationship meant regular sex, I thought it was the opposite as you could only have sex with one person rather than just fancying a bit of sex and getting it.

I was young though, doubt I'd get away with it now if I was single.

Nope we are expecting him next month. The country where he is had a very tight lockdown and only last year they lifted all the restrictions.

just over 10 years between my two marriages. and now just over 4 years since my divorce... I will probably remain celibate for the rest of my life as I am quite content being single and have no wish to disrupt my peace. it was tougher when I was younger but I had an endometrial ablation and since then it all seems pointless. I don't even miss the cuddles and hand holding anymore really...

Years and I don't miss it at all.

Not sure if it is because I am going through the menopause or dated some rotten men but I have no desire to be intimate with anyone for the last 3 years. My body has changed and I no longer feel attractive so the thought of having sex with someone repulses me. I also find most men of my age are over weight and un attractive so have decided to leave it all behind in the past

""Same as me. I’m very sexual when I’m in a relationship but I can’t do casual sex and need a real connection to sleep with someone.
Having tried OLD last year I agree I’d rather stay single than date the men on offer out there.""

I'm the same. Really annoying as I enjoy sex and intimacy but I don't have the time or energy for a relationship, and I don't enjoy sex without a connection.
I'm scared I won't ever have good sex again as I'm late forties and with a very young child so not socialising much at the moment. Will be gutted if that's me done, so hoping fate will throw a decent guy with a nice cock my way sometime soon

I left my abusive ex a year ago, so I'd say just over a year or so.
Not embarrassed about it at all and thinking of it as the perfect form of contraception! Planning to have my contraceptive implant removed a year earlier than I'm due.
I get a bit aroused now and again thinking about some sex scenes in TVs or movies and wish I could just "relieve that itch". Never been one for masturbation but thinking of giving it a go now I'm single...

14 years. 11 of those I was married, most of it unhappily. Then single for a few years before I met my DP. I didn't really miss it in those 14 years, I was generally too busy with young kids, and then miserable, to think about it. Now I do miss it if I don't see DP for a while.

Probably around 9-10 months, at the end of my marriage to the exH.

Actually...scratch that! Longest stretch was about 2 and a half years after breaking up with my first boyfriend. I was 23 when we broke up (amicably) then I had a year of prep before my 2 year post grad. I got together with my (now ex) husband not long after finishing my post grad.
I wasn't really bothered by it to be honest!

Just over two years I think. I split up from my husband currently awaiting a divorce.
I'm afraid I do miss it and I'm probably ready to start dating now, though not just for that reason.

Currently coming up to 2.5 years and I’m married!

Just over two years. After an infertility diagnosis and finally conceiving our second child DH and I couldn't bare to touch each other. We had been married six years.

7 years at end of marriage that became sexless, then three years sexless singledom. Before 25 year marriage the longest was 6 months. I rediscovered sex at age 55. Six years later, I never go longer than 5 days without sex. The closeness is what my relationship with DP is built on. I do worry what will happen if he can't manage it any longer - he's 55 now.

About 5 months during pregnancy as I had placenta previa and was told not to!

14 years :( I miss it.

After my last relationship ended 11yrs ago I went just over 3yrs. I had some health issues which made dating difficult and I was very focused on my career at that time, so it was not a priority.

I'm still single now but have a lot of casual hookups. I rarely go more than a week.

Am currently at 14 months mostly because I have cancer/am undergoing chemotherapy and am single.

Am trying not to worry that there is a distinct possibility that I'll never have sex again 😔

4.5 years, since my last relationship.
I agree with a PP, I miss the intamacy... hugs and kisses. Just generally feeling loved.
I honestly worry that I've forgotten how to kiss someone at this point 🙈

Currently in the middle of my longest dry spell, it's been 6 weeks so far.

I wish you wellness and sex after you win your battle with cancer xx

This is for @doublec x

Can I ask how you go about the casual hookups? That's all what I want but kind of without the dating part/definitely don't want a relationship

Two years so far. But post menopausal so zero interest. 🙄🙄

I have friends who aren't married who haven't had sex in more than 15 years...they just don't bother dating.
For me about 8 months. I really enjoy sex but I can't do casual sex and I am very wary of being in another relationship ending in heartbreak..