Longest you’ve gone without sex?

[LilBus]

Since being an adult and sexually active obviously what’s the longest time you’ve gone without sex? I read another post where someone said they hadn’t had sex for 2 years and felt embarrassed by it and I was thinking that’s nothing 😂 it’s been 8 years for me (not through choice!) I imagine most people haven’t spent many years celibate? Am I wrong? What’s the longest period you’ve gone without sex? This is more aimed at single people rather than those in sexless relationships

I’m single and it’s been 4 years for me. I’m early 30s now if it makes a difference.

It’s been really nice actually but I’m ready to get back into the saddle (🤣)

23 happy years and counting.

Years. Got divorced at 34, had lots of flings but nothing serious by choice. Used to love sex and very happy with ONS but since having a hysterectomy, I'm not remotely interested. Feel a bit like a born again virgin, not sure I ever want a bloke sullying my lady bits again.

I am single. It's being single that has meant I went a decade without sex. I can't tell you why men aren't keen on me, but so it seems to be.

a couple of months

A few months when I was single at university. I'm now 48 and the most I've ever been without in my relationship (25 years) is maybe 3 weeks during hard child-rearing times. In a relationship, with kids, for me, having sex is so restorative. It's a kind of mindfulness - all about the present moment. It kind of resets the relationship and reminds you why you are together. The animal pheromonal bit.
My teenage daughter is in the grip of anorexia at the moment and life is so stressful. Every night we fall into bed and sleeeep. Hardly any sex happening, maybe once a week/10 days, and it makes me a bit scared because I know how important it is. But my drive has withered and all my energy is going on her.

10 years and now has been 3 years again... I had a blip and fully intend to take this streak to my grave now

Have had periods of deliberate celibacy lasting up to 18 months where I’ve wanted some clarity but it’s always been touch I’ve craved in the end

Im 37 Ive had sex twice in 19 year bloody hated it.
I stayed single and love it.
Do i win.

I’m single. Last time was March 27 2017.

it was a shit show and the first bloke after I found out my ex of 2.5 years was in fact married and lying to me and had been since day one.

anyway, met this dude. We clicked. Conversation was great. A few dates. We had sex for the first time. Sort of. PIV but no one got off because he freaked the fuck out.
Later come to find out he was also seriously dating another woman whilst trying to ‘date’ me.
He keeps messaging me via Instagram about how much he misses me (I ignore it, they go to requests and I spot them every now and again) clicked his profile after yet another message and decided to do a rudimentary stalk to see he got married last year. So all that time he was attempting to reel me back in He was planning his engagement and wedding.

then there was the dude who I really liked thought it was going somewhere so waited instead. We were friends first and that developed into dating hence knowing him for a long time and not rushing it. We never had sex.

For some reason 18 months after we met and just a couple of months after starting dating. He did a massive 180 in behaviour towards me I’m talking regular contact in various forms being cut cold, being at groups events and him ‘forgetting’ in there too, not calling or replying to texts, stopping things we used to do. All overnight. I walked. He’s been trying to reconnect. we have mutual friends, my shunning skills are 👌🏽

since those last 3 men. I’ve pretty much given up trying to date at all.

my knob head radar is off kilter so it’s not really a choice to be sexless but at the same time it is. It’s safer for me this way.

This...i miss intimacy, hugs, kisses etc..but tbh i initiated all that in the 25 year relationship i had. 4 years ive not had sex, i do want it..i dont need it.

I think about 4 months? I was grumpy

9 years 8 months and counting - i'm another one in a sexless marriage. i really miss the sex, it drives me crazy fantasising about the love life i wish i had. i stay because i think its nicer for the kids, but its terrible for me. it has destroyed my self-esteem and i can only assume i am so undesirable that no-one else would want me anyway. Sex toys are my intimate relationship now!

That’s the thing I’m single and never for one moment thought I would be going 8 years without sex so it’s really not always the answer!

It’s unusual in my circle none of my single friends have gone more than a year or two!

I can understand if you hate it I don’t blame you!

Im very sexual person but not had sex for 4 years...slim pickings out there it seems. Im happy on my own if what i can see is all thats left of the men that are on OLD. If i meet someone i do if i dont i don't. I just sort myself out lol

23 years and don’t intend on doing it again for the rest of my days.

Can't remember the exact timeframe, around 8 months I think between becoming single (mid 40s) and finding a FWB because I was missing sex so much.

After a long and loving relationship ended, I had 2.5 years of sex-starved drought followed by 6 years of crap relationships. Then, at last, I met my lovely DH and we rescued each other.

I wish love and sizzling sex to everyone who’s missing it xx

I went 4 years without when I was seperated and too busy with young kids… making up for it now with my DP of 4 years … hugs, long conversations and laughs as important as sex in our relationship though I do love the sex tbh ..

Sex is a really important thing for me so in my single days, I always had a handful of fuck buddies.
It may sound awful to many but I always practiced safe sex and tested regularly.
So when single, it would've been a few weeks.

The longest in a relationship was 9 months. I couldn't stand the thought of sex while I was pregnant so abstained until a few weeks after baby was born.

About 4 years. I miss sex but my rabbit far outways the hassle of a bloke

12.5 miserable years in my case. It was soul destroying.

About 18 months and it was soul destroying.

It was after a long term break up and a phase where casual did absolutely nothing for me. I wanted good sex or none at all and anything casual just seemed beyond pointless at the time.