What did you expect out of someone that you've always put above yourself and went out of your way to be a housekeeper and caterer to??
You intentionally did this to yourself because of low self esteem and you don't respect yourself...
Didn't you have these types of discussions beforehand?? Like sounds like he expected you to be a "traditional" homemaker and your job to primarily raise kids, while he provided financially. You didn't know this before intentionally marrying him and bringing an innocent person into this situation??
That was his first time telling you that he is only there to primarily provide financially??
Tbh, it seems although he said that, he is trying hard to help out, and bond with the baby but you keep nagging him and critizing him..you won't allow him because you feel the baby is unsafe...perhaps of different parenting styles. He's from a different country, maybe a lot of the women there raise their children like this.
He's a first time parent and is adjusting to having a kid and wife, and trying to support everyone..he is under stress and exhausted as well..
On his days off, you have a problem with how he choses to relax and unwind.. you have a problem with him sleeping, playing video games, hanging out with friends, etc....
Why don't you encourage him and show him how to better manage the child? Take parenting courses together, watch videos, teach him, etc... how do you expect him to get better experience if you don't allow him??
He's sick of you nagging him and trying to control him..also, he thought he was getting a "traditional" homemaker who could handle providing and caring for the home and children. He feels like he has no part in his child's life, no input.
I don't think it's just about meals..that he's leaving.. You don't make him feel wanted, needed, and appreciated, etc... You don't prioritize him anymore...hire a sitter sometimes, sometimes cook for him, go out together, etc...
If the relationship was terrible beforehand, or if deep down inside you knew you didn't want this for your life...there was no need to bring a child into this..
You're tired, he's tired, you want a break, so does he, you want help, so does he, you want him to pull more weight, he wants the same from you, you want a husband and partner, so does he, you want him to be more of a father, perhaps he does and you're preventing this, you want more, so does he, etc... little give from both ends..much taking or trying to from both ends.
Children changes relationships. A child does not fix an already terrible relationship, it makes things worse.
Just prepare to primarily be a single parent, look for jobs (if you havent..if have get another), apply for benefits and housing, child care, Co parenting possibly from a distance, etc...
Please be single for a few years. Primarily focus on your child..of course focus on yourself too..
Sorry this is happening. You both just seem incompatible, and the newest addition made things worse.
Perhaps therapy would be beneficial for you. Learn to raise your standards and expectations. Learn to love and respect yourself. Learn not to settle in or for relationships that don't suite you.