What have I done for ex to hate me like he does?

[turnitonon]

Me and my ex had a bad breakup 4 years ago.
He did the bad things to me,I did him no wrong.
After we broke up,stupidly we started speaking even tho we knew to stay away.
Eventually we cut ties,I deleted him off social media except for Facebook -I just deleted my account.
It's been 4 years now and I'm engaged and live with my fiance and we have just bought a house.
I'm in a good place and I reactivated my Facebook.
Uploaded some recent pics of us and started using my Facebook.
My ex was still on my fb and after 4 years all my upset was gone and I didn't feel the need to remove him.
A week he viewed my fb stories
I posted Nothing exciting ,just me and fiance,our weekend away,a few pics of our house.
Anyway it took a week I noticed my friends went down ,had a feeling it was him and it was -he deleted me.
Now bare in mind his fb is full of ex's (when we were together he told me he didn't delete them as no point )
We have Facebook mutual friends with another of his ex,women he slept with (he wishes them happy birthday)

I don't understand how he did me wrong,ruined any chance of happiness with us,yet he is the one deleting me.
I thought after 4 years and our memories ,maybe we could of just been civil (well not civil but not hate enough to have to remove each other off fb )
Why ?
I don't get it

Somebody may have said this already but maybe it's cos you deleted him from all your other social media and he was put out by that.

@turnitonon I think you’ve been given a hard time here. Most of us have an ex who can get under your skin and there are unresolved feelings around, even if you don’t want them back. It’s particularly hard if you’ve been poorly treated in a relationship - I honestly would recommend a couple of sessions with a counsellor to talk it all through so that you can let go. I’ve had to do that before, there’s no shame in it. It doesn’t mean you don’t love you fiancé, just that you’ve been damaged by that relationship.

Regarding why he deleted you, probably one of 2 reasons… 1) it hurt to see you with someone else so he opted out of that (and it doesn’t hurt to see other exes, past flings etc because he doesn’t care) or 2) he’s pissed off that you’re happy and he has no control over you now, so he did the only thing he could to try and get in your head / hurt you. Which has been successful.

As to WHY he’d want to hurt you, honestly you could go round in circles forever wondering. If he was abusive to you mentally then he’s a damaged person and it’s his own issue, not yours. Try to stop wondering and just accept that you deserve better. That’s where counselling can really help.

Only if you click 'delete account'. Deactivating it stays dormant indefinitely

I know it's something I've just got to let go of.
I've got a total different life now to what I had back then

P.s I've name changed it's still my original post incase anyone is confused

I haven't read all replies @turnitonon so I'm sorry if I missed anything.
Kindly, why do you care if you lost Facebook friends? Are any of them that you would miss as a friend on there?
You've moved on from a toxic relationship, presumably you're happy with your partner and new house! That's amazing and not something a lot of people can do. I think its good that you/he have severed the last ties 💐

You wrote that you deleted him on social media. He then sees you on his Facebook after you reactivated it and he decides to delete you too. It's probably just a case of Tit for Tat. Don't overthink it.

He spent a week viewing my stories then deleted me
I know I'm over thinking and let him get inside my head

He’s not trying to get in your head, that’s all you.

Does your fiancé know about this?

@usedtobeasizeten why would it be relevant?
I don't have to tell him every thought that enters my head

The issue with him is he doesn’t like the taste of his own medicine.

Congratulations on your engagement and new home 💐

Maybe he just found your stories really, really dull.

@ElevenSeven that must be it 👌

It's Facebook don't be so silly.

Wow. You really shouldn't marry your fiancé, for his sake.

Just thought he might like to know you’re still hankering after your ex….showing him how supposedly great your life is now, hoping he’s really jealous, wishing he hadn’t let you go….instead he didn’t care and deleted you, that’s all 🤷‍♀️

You are engaged to someone else and this bs is bothering you. It sounds like you aren’t as ‘over him’ as you should be/ thought you were. I’m glad he deleted you, no good would come of him still being there in the background.

It sounds like you’re upset that he won’t get to see how well you are doing.