Is this guy going to be dead in the bed?

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I found a guy in a dating app and he seems lovely via messages. A little bit of flirty sexualised comments but playful not pervy.

In person he was also lovely and we had a couple of cuddles and he kissed me twice but they were pecks… which felt tame. They weren’t even lingering.

Generally speaking he confesses to being shy and a bit backward at initiating anything with women. He said he’d be too shy to ask for what he liked.

The final thing is that he said that his two previous long term partners cheated on him and that his recent short term one went running back to her ex.

He’s got children so I know he knows where to put it and I’m thinking he could be good for me but I’m a little bit worried about sleeping with him in case it’s awful / hardwork / dull.

I’m not naive about having super high expectations of immediately transcendent sex but I haven’t dated in a very long time, not had sex in a long time and don’t want to get into a spiral of trying one disappointing man after another. I don’t want to be sleeping my way through everyone in bumble.

Has anyone already slept with ’this guy’ and could comment how it turned out?

He's shy, it could be fun teaching him what you like and then encouraging him to do the same. If you don't try you don't know, if it doesn't work out move on but have fun in the meantime.

Transcendent sex

Ick

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He’s got children so I know he knows where to put it

I don’t want to be sleeping my way through everyone in bumble

Pmsl

You won't be sleeping your way through Bumble

You can't know unless you try them.

I used to think I should limit my partners and wait to have sex. I just got men who were shit in bed but who I was attached to and invested in by the time I fully realised.

There’s only one way to find out
JFDI

“Has anyone already slept with ’this guy’ and could comment how it turned out?”
I don’t know OP, you would have to give us his name and age, then someone might say “yes I slept with Dave and he was a bit of a go’er or, no he was a bit tame” 😂

Try and get in contact with one of his exes and ask them what he was like in bed.

I saw the thread title in active and only clicked to find out why you thought there would be a dead bloke in a bed.

The final thing is that he said that his two previous long term partners cheated on him and that his recent short term one went running back to her ex.

To be fair, a guy I cheated on - and I know subsequent gf's cheated on him too - was not remotely the worst I e had sex with. In fact he was probably one of the better.

It was his personality/vibe/attitude that was the turn off (unassertive, a bit silly, unambitious, gullible etc).

I wondered about that 😁

I think you need to get to first base first! It’s in his kiss…! Wouldn’t write him off just yet

Let us know op

It’s all about the guy. I have limited experience but it’s the same, I think, as comparing big to small? Bigger isn’t necessarily better - it’s what they do that counts. He could be shy with little peck kisses and then a firecracker, I’ve had a few lovers in my life, not many, but amazing lingering romantic kisses don’t always mean they’re passionate people. If you feel a connection- that’s important and I’d say at least try it, be yourself and be open, and see what happens?

Definitely do this. In fact, everyone should get all their ex's to prepare written references ready for future partners. It's amazing the dating apps haven't incorporated this into them so people can leave reviews for each other. A bit like Trip Advisor, but Dick Advisor.

I thought you were going to say you met an unhealthy guy you were afraid would die in your bed!! Anyway yes, I've slept with a guy like that, he had been in a longterm relationship which had sexual difficulties, his ex had vaginismus which meant they'd never managed intercourse despite almost 20 years together, they'd split up and he'd only dated two women very short term when we met (not online, not that it matters but this was over 20 years ago), he was so polite and just nice, we'd become friends before he asked me out and I practically jumped on him in the car at the end of our date, he seemed terrified and while I definitely fancied him I thought that was the end of it but we went out again and he was less uptight, first rime we had sex it wasn't great, I'd had better but something still had me stick around and am I glad I did, damn sure I am!! 20+ years later he gives me goosebumps by kissing my neck while I'm cooking, sex is bloody fantastic (it quickly became really good, he just needed to relax and not be afraid), we're 16 years married and now thanks to HRT I'm up for it more than I have been for a few years, he's a good confident generous lover who is more interested in my pleasure than his and I'm so glad his first few fumbles didn't put me off him. Go for it, you won't know til you know.

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Just dump him if you're already feeling this way

Well, the man might be dead in your bed if you scare him too much, sexually. 😂

Dick Advisor 😄

I'd say you need to take things a bit further with him and see whether he turns you on before you dump him.

A bit like Trip Advisor, but Dick Advisor.

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Omfg

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I second this opinion..,

Christ, I thought you were talking about a dodgy ticker with that thread title.

Nobody can tell you what he's going to be like - you'll have to DTD if you want to find out.

Or, yeah, message his ex on Facebook.

Does he give you Fanny gallops?