Did you want a rich man? How did it work out?

[Cakelollipop]

Growing up and still today there’s lyrics in songs about bagging a rich man and it’s still a comment that I hear occasionally.

I’ve always found the idea of a v rich man a turn off I don’t know why.

Did you grow up wanting a v rich man? Did you get one? How did it work out?

Rich men can still be stingy AF. For me it's always been guys who work hard and have less that are the most generous.

He was just a regular guy when we met and married.

Then became wealthy.

Then he passed away.

What is rich? I got with DH he had £5 million.
Then due to market conditions, us buying two homes (not outright, still mortgaged) he is now worth £0.8 million.

We are working on a couple of businesses but not sure yet if they'll be successful.

So I feel like we're not poor but we're in a permanent state of some sort of stress. Not sure if that counts as marrying a rich man hence I was asking.

I guess he is wealthy but not mega rich, as someone said here earlier.

I'll be brutally honestly and say if we still have some sort of money by the time our child marries, I want him to find a wife from similar circles. 🫢

I married someone richer than me. Got divorced but I did keep the house which I could never of bought off me average salary.

@determinedtomakethiswork Military

I don't remember wanting to marry someone rich but I was very focused on marrying someone intelligent with a profession, which I did. I was determined not to marry anyone without a secure income as my childhood was wracked with financial insecurity, which still affects me. I pursued a professional career myself so that I'd always be able to support myself. I don't crave riches, just the absence of poverty anxiety.

I’m married to a rich man, although he wasn’t rich when I married him. He had good prospects though, as did I, and in his case actually made good on them.

Cinderella is very rare, i agree that rich men marry rich women or he marrys poorish then gets rich with her

I'm marrying for money next time. I don't really want to work any more, and I would love a housekeeper

I agree what pp said about men getting rich with a poorer woman and rarely being rich and marrying poor. People move within similar circles. I met hubby online during LD and he's on his way to be very successful in his field. I however am not bothered about wealth, personality is what keeps me interested.

Also interested in this. Not sure if it counts as rich but my DH earns over 100k. Either way, I didn't marry for money as we go together when we were both 18 year old students.

I also earn similarly, so not sure if that counts as "marrying someone rich". Feel like it would be the case if I didn't work or earnt v little and met him now, on a high salary. But that would feel like quite an unequal relationship to me.

Love that video!! She has star quality.

I'm dating a millionaire. He's kind, fun and a good guy. We met online. He wasn't a millionaire when we met a few years ago.

He grew up with money, I grew up living hand to mouth, so he doesn't understand my take on things like shopping in Aldi. It's tricky when he wants to spaff the cash and I can't afford to.

I always wanted to be taken care of because I hate working and hated school, but wasn't really committed to finding a rich man. Ended up with a well off man without knowing, we were friends for 4 years and bonded over caring for our mothers with cancer together, then ended up forming a relationship where he would always pay for things together because I was quite broke. Then when we talked about where we'd like to live, I was looking at houses in the under 250 cost and he would always show me much higher. Turned out he had a trust fund and was quite set for life and now neither of us actively work and spend all day together, it's wonderful. He spoils me terribly but doesn't really like to spend much on himself, I'll be fine if anything goes wrong as I have a large sum coming from my dad which will be invested.

What's the definition of rich? I didn't want to marry anyone who didn't have a very good job and own their own house

The guy I’m seeing now is very wealthy. Sold a healthcare business for multiple tens of millions and is now a venture capitalist.

He’s entirely self made and grew up with very little, so I have huge respect for him. He’s generous but not stupid or flash. Buys what he likes but not to show off or because it’s the most expensive. Mostly I appreciate that he is just all round very masculine, organises things, takes charge, communicates well, makes sure I’m looked after, just generally competent and consistent, and kind.

So I think for me, it’s not so much the money itself, as the qualities and skills it requires to make, and maintain the money. I wouldn’t be attracted to someone who just got lucky on Euromillions, for example.

I agree with that, it’s the positivity and can do attitude which is attractive. It is really life enhancing to spend your life with someone who is enthusiastic and lacking in self pity.