Did you want a rich man? How did it work out?

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Growing up and still today there’s lyrics in songs about bagging a rich man and it’s still a comment that I hear occasionally.

I’ve always found the idea of a v rich man a turn off I don’t know why.

Did you grow up wanting a v rich man? Did you get one? How did it work out?

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Most rich men marry rich women who are already in their social set.

I didn't marry a rich man, but a few years into our marriage, DH got a highly paid job. I had to move a lot to support him, and had to compromise my own career. Not entirely sure it was worth it sometimes, but at other times I think it was. I earn much less as a consequence.

However, we have a joint account, he is not mean, and he never makes me feel less for earning less. Otherwise, I would have left.

I married a man who earned less than me. After having kids I stayed at home which enabled him to dedicate himself fully to his career and he disappeared into work. Ended up earning very good money but our marriage dissolved due to him not being present in our relationship.
we ended up divorced with him very, very comfortable and me with no career and earning very little.
I wouldnt swap the children for the world, but wish I had kept my career.

songs seem to be seeking men with mansions and yachts when defining rich.

i just wanted my equal. Someone who believed in getting a good education and then who took his job seriously. It has worked out very well for both of us.

I did when I was young and then I realised it didn't matter as long as he was independent (I didn't want to support him) and a good and nice person. I ended up meeting a super wealthy man but I actually don't care, I have my career and I wouldn't give it up even if I was a billionaire so all's well. We have nice holidays etc but I definitely don't scrounge off him and I think we contribute to stuff equally. We don't live together and he lives in a mega mansion while I'm in a terraced house but it's totally fine. Honestly if you want money try to make your own

No. I have turned down wealthy men as the circles they move in and places they frequent really wouldn’t be for me.

I wouldn't marry someone with no ambition as I had loads when younger .. earning at the time means little as people don't end up where they start.
But would I have married someone on the dole , no but again I wouldn't have moved in those circles
Money generally makes life so much easier.

I married someone who came from poverty, is incredibly ambitious, and has made all his money from scratch, which I respect.

But there are downsides. He is an absolute workaholic.

Well, I married for love. He was a broke 19-year-old when I met him, but he's come good. We are very happy but if anything happened I would definitely marry for money next time.🤑😉

He wasn't rich then and isn't now. Well not even breaking even. He works 80 hours a week.

I was with a rich man for 4 years. He bought a £2million farm to try and get me to stay. He was the most horrible, controlling man I have ever been with and he made me miserable. I'd rather be poor!

What's the definition of rich? Over 200k,150k?

He got quite a bit richer since I married him. Choosing someone with drive, work ethic and strong family values might be better advice but it doesn’t scan as well in a catchy lyric.

Same here

I would rather be with my equal who I loved shared values with and had fun with than someone incompatible but enormously wealthy. I actually made this choice (Dh said I was mad to turn down the very wealthy man who asked me out the same week he did - turns out I’m a really rubbish gold digger!)

The guy i'm currently dating is a millionaire.

He pays for our meals out, buys me the occasional gift etc. but he is in no way flash with his cash. I like him very much but not because of his wealth. He's just a really nice kind person who I enjoy spending time with.

Did you get to keep the farm?

No I married someone poor from my own background who went on to become a high earner, it worked out well as we are on the same page in most things.

From my experience, super-rich men have rules, harems and a sense of entitlement.

I married a rich man, not for the money though.

He is a workaholic and abusive in several ways - I’m not v happy. He’s not really a bad man but is very focused only on himself/the things that interest him (work!) he has no outside interests. He is emotionally unavailable/redundant.

The financial finagling that will be involved in a divorce is the main thing that stops me leaving but I’ve got to an age where I just want different things - even if it means a reduced level of lifestyle.

No matter how rich you partner is, never give up a way of being able to earn your own income. Keep your skills and networks up to date, invest, do a bit of charity work in your field, sit on a few committees, anything to keep your hand in, even if you think you will never need it, because things can change very, very, quickly.

No @DecafOatMilkCappucino I left with my daughter (not his) and the clothes on my back, and count myself lucky to have never married him or had a child with him.

I never wanted a rich man or any man when I was younger I wanted to be rich myself (doing the minimum effort, therefore wining the lottery) became millionaire through very hard work is not for me and I consider some stuff very hard work.

I'd have loved a rich man. Sadly, growing up in a steelworks family in Scunthorpe I didn't hang out in the right circles to meet one. Neither was I beautiful and glamorous. I've married a working man that I love. And had a career of my own.

It's a bit like 'wanting to be a princess' when you are little, isn't it? It sounds wonderful on the surface with no downsides at all. I'm pretty sure it's not.