Would you be hurt by this or am I overreacting?

[Esther12]

I have been with my boyfriend almost 1 year, we are early 30s.
from I met he has always referenced how good a kisser he is, everyone has commented on it etc. to be fair I really do enjoy kissing him.
last night we were talking about our first date and first kiss and I asked if he thought I was a good kisser after our first kiss and he said no and laughed. He obviously seen my face and then followed it up with saying that he loves kissing me now but he didn’t know me back then and he did come away from the kiss and thought “I’m definitely a better kisser than her”. It’s really hurt my feelings (and ego too probably) and I just feel it was an unnecessary comment to make but maybe I shouldn’t have asked?. would you be hurt by this?

He sounds like a dick.

Yuck. I couldn’t come back from that tbh, it’s really hurtful.

Thank you

In the grand scheme of things this is very minor.
If this is something you couldn't come back from... god help you

You shouldn't have asked but he sounds weird about his kissing! Who goes on about themselves like that??

I’d not be too bothered but I don’t take stuff like that to heart.

I’d find someone bragging about being a great kisser a lot more of a turn off than actually being an average kisser though. I mean, ewww, is he fourteen?

You both sound about 14

You did ask him Op...

What a bizarre conversation ... what is the rest of your relationship like or do you focus on your kissing skills ?

When my children were teenagers they would talk just like this

He sounds thick and totally up himself.

Hang on, who is the ‘everyone’ who has commented on what a good kisser he is? Are you all about 12, and he’s snogged his way through all the girls in your class behind the bike shed?

Hmm they do say don’t ask a question you don’t want the truthful answer to. But yes a dick response.

You asked .. and he also laughed and said some nice things.
You need to lighten up.

I think he likes the title of greatest kisser. hahaha

Don't ask if you don't want an honest answer. Sorry but it's true. Why ask questions if he's only allowed to give answers that paint you on the best light?

So yes, I'd get over it. Accept that first kisses are awkward and he clearly enjoys it now.

What an immature little prat.

What kind of an embarrassing twerp tells his new girlfriend that 'everyone' says he's a good kisser?

How utterly cringeworthy and pathetic.

I couldn't be with someone like that.

I only asked really because he has said so much about how good a kisser he is. We were talking about our first date and he said “best kiss of your life right?” And I said yeah it was a really good kiss and good end to the date. So then I asked him “did you think I was a good kisser too?” All seems very immature right when I think of it but I honestly was a bit hurt

She asked a question. He was honest.

You want a partner who'll lie to your face any time he thinks the truth will hurt? Good reason to not tell you about a hell of a lot of stuff.

Another one who thinks you sound like a pair of school kids.

And any man who asked if it was the best kiss of my life would make my teeth itch - grim 🤢

Thanks for all the school kids comments. Genuinely just asking if you’d be hurt if your partner said you weren’t a good kisser

You asked him.

If you can't get past it just leave him.

It doesn't matter if we'd be upset or not. You are.

'he has always referenced how good a kisser he is, everyone has commented on it etc.'

He's either been kissed by many women hoping to find a prince but found a frog, otherwise they would still be with him or he's bigging himself up because he once snogged two girls on a night out when he was 17 and his mates thought he was a 'legend'.

I'd love to meet him so he can tell me what a good kisser he is and I can fall about laughing AT him.

Tbh if he said to me "that's was the best kiss of your life, right?" I would have probably told him I'd had better 🤣

Sounds to me like he has latched onto someone saying he's a good kisser and used it to boost his ego, and it doesn't matter who he steps on along the way as long as he gets his confidence boost.

The comment itself probably wouldn't bother me too much, but him going on and on about being such a good kisser would be a total turn off.

Personally I wouldn't care, my self worth is so much more than whether I am a good kisser or not.

I've never really heard people talk much about being a good kisser since my teens, I thought most people were more interested in the other stuff as you get older tbh.