Would you be hurt by this or am I overreacting?

[Esther12]

I have been with my boyfriend almost 1 year, we are early 30s.
from I met he has always referenced how good a kisser he is, everyone has commented on it etc. to be fair I really do enjoy kissing him.
last night we were talking about our first date and first kiss and I asked if he thought I was a good kisser after our first kiss and he said no and laughed. He obviously seen my face and then followed it up with saying that he loves kissing me now but he didn’t know me back then and he did come away from the kiss and thought “I’m definitely a better kisser than her”. It’s really hurt my feelings (and ego too probably) and I just feel it was an unnecessary comment to make but maybe I shouldn’t have asked?. would you be hurt by this?

Agree. This is such a non-issue.

Yes, I'd be hurt.

But also, boasting about what a great kisser he is would be a huge turn-off for me. So juvenile. And don't even start on how I'd react if he started patronisingly telling me I had improved since then. Or even worse, offered to teach how to do it better!

First kiss is meant to be amazing regardless of if it physically is ? I would be doing a retake with someone else

does he have any other claim to fame other than 'world's best kisser'? He sounds like a plonker, and a show off, I can't imagine a man in his 30s going on about this. what a bore.

Get rid, he sounds seriously insecure

and now he's making YOU Insecure with all his boasting

Time to take the blinders off because, 1. He's not that into you, and 2. He's an insufferable fuckwit.

Not read all the thread but he really thinks he's "it", doesn't he. Who the heck thinks like this and actually admits it? That is where it's odd.

he did come away from the kiss and thought “I’m definitely a better kisser than her"

I'd not say insecure. I'd say...controlling.

Insecurity is when we try to change ourselves because deep down we don't believe we are good enough.

Controlling is when people try to make others feel insecure because they enjoy feeling powerful over them and kicking them down.

I suppose you could argue that insecurity is one driver of controlling behaviour, in rotten people, tbf. But sometimes it's just because they enjoy pushing people's buttons and making them feel bad.

Don't ask a question unless you're prepared for any possible answer. Otherwise, you are making your boyfriend choose between lying to you and upsetting you. It is wrong to do that.

I definitely would have commented that I had had much better co**s thank his.

Anyway, ICK

Who says " I am the best at kissing" ffs