My bf has forgotten it’s my birthday today

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We work together away from home one night a week. We have been together for four years. He hasn’t wished me a happy birthday yet and I’m devastated. I keep dropping hints like ‘My daughter can’t wait until I get home tomorrow as she has bought me a present’ (daughter from previous relationship), nothing! Also, ‘Remind me what you bought your mum for her birthday last week’ 😏 Does this mean he doesn’t really love me? Am I overreacting? Just feel so sad.

Happy Birthday, hope you enjoy 2mrw with your daughter and the wk.end with your family...he really isn't worth it...arsehole!

He’s going to be no loss. When you confronted him, a decent person would absolutely own it, beg forgiveness and massively make it up to you. Him doubling down with ‘I just don’t rate birthdays’ in your fortieth, is a real dick move.

This. If there's a big weekend planned, he would have known and a milestone too. That's shit, and so is claiming not to care about birthdays. Its about caring about you.

Hope you have a lovely weekend celebrating with your family.

Good on you for getting rid! Happy birthday!!

Happy birthday ❤️

Happy 40th, looks like he didn't rate the relationship either, just been coasting lately maybe? Better to get it done before your weekend away, have a great time -and a good old batch about him - with family and friends. You've let him know you don't rate him, good on you.

'Bitch'

I think he’s just not that interested in you .
Wapecialy with the hints your dropping any man who cares at all would be like “oh not I forgot your birthday “ and apologise.

Is this the norm for him? What were previous birthdays like?
I wouldn’t be dropping someone of 4 years hints .If he cared he would have remembered

After 4 years he neds to be reminded of your birthday?

Doesn'the have a phone/ calendar/ diary/ memory?

XBF.

I hope you had a good drive home and have a lovely weekend. He sounds not only nasty and spiteful but really weird. Deliberately ignoring someone’s birthday is very strange behaviour and goes against all societal norms.

What absolutely shitty behaviour from him. I'm sorry OP you deserve better.

Assuming you normally celebrate birthdays this is totally shit. Stop beating around the bush and tell him you are hurt and upset that he hasn’t wished you a happy birthday. See what he says, assuming he doesn’t have a great surprise sorted for later and is just being crap then I’d ditch him. I put up with this shit from my XH for years and it never got better….. wanker!

Just saw your update. He’s a shit and you did the right thing. Hope your weekend plans go great.

what a shit! Glad you gave yourself the best present by binning him. Happy birthday!

D.eleted because I’ve just found the update. Well done OP. Doesn’t rate a 40th birthday?! Sounds like he’s not worth any more of your time.

Happy belated birthday OP!

it looks to me like he wanted to split up anyway. Just a coward way of manipulating you into thinking it was all your idea.

I thought this was shocking enough but for a fortieth! What a shithead. Love that you fucked him off, have an amazing celebration with your family. Xx

Making the effort last year but not this, means he's deliberately being hurtful. So well done for dumping him. I'm sorry to say, but I'd expect there to be another woman, somewhere on the scene.

Sorry it makes you sad @Peaceandquietandacuppa but we both have incredibly busy lives and he reminds me about things too. And does far more housework than me too!