My bf has forgotten it’s my birthday today

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We work together away from home one night a week. We have been together for four years. He hasn’t wished me a happy birthday yet and I’m devastated. I keep dropping hints like ‘My daughter can’t wait until I get home tomorrow as she has bought me a present’ (daughter from previous relationship), nothing! Also, ‘Remind me what you bought your mum for her birthday last week’ 😏 Does this mean he doesn’t really love me? Am I overreacting? Just feel so sad.

Yeah he's a cock.

Happy birthday. Life begins at 40!

I'd always have a 'what shall we do for my/your birthday' discussion, you should do that in future.

What an arsehole! Well done for ending it! And hope you still celebrate in style with your family friends, who truly care about you

Sorry OP. I hope you can have a good weekend.

I’m always like ‘family, what are we doing on my birthday next Tuesday?’ Then nag them about what they’re getting me. I don’t give anyone the opportunity to forget about it.

He meant to be nasty this time then. Totally being disrespectful.

What a lovely birthday present you have given yourself as now you are free to find someone who will cherish you.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!! 🍾

That’s weird. I was just about to ask what about previous birthdays.

Well if you can end it over something like this then you weren’t suited to each other.

I’m not big on birthdays either but wishing someone happy birthday doesn’t take much effort.

If you’ve dropped no hints at all in advance it seems a bit harsh to expect him to remember unless he’s usually extremely organised around all dates and events

Fuck me - the bar really couldn’t be any lower could it? You don’t have to be at all organised to remember birthdays (let alone your partner’s milestone one). You just have to give a toss enough to take 10 seconds to set/write a reminder in whatever medium works for you.

OP - Happy Birthday. Safe trip home and well done for having boundaries and following through.

He could just be saying that because he doesn’t want to admit to forgetting. Either way it’s twatty.

It sounds like he wanted to split up with you then. It sounds deliberate.

Jesus OP, I’ve just seen the update that it’s your 40th. Glad you’ve chucked him!
Happy birthday, I hope you have a lovely time celebrating with your family when you’re home.

Imagine he was proposing to you this weekend and he was doing this to throw you off 🤣

Happy birthday OP!

Safe journey home

What an arse! The fact that he had remembered and still didn’t mention anything is full twat behaviour, especially when it’s a significant one.

Enjoy your birthday weekend - life begins at 40 remember!!!

He must have wanted you to dump him. A bit shitty on your 40th. What a knob.

He's a twat. Well done for finishing it

Oh and all these, "did you remind him/men aren't mind readers" comments are ridiculous 🙄

maybe he was feeling the pressure to show more commitment at the 4 year mark so has purposely done this? How has he reacted ?

I hope he wasn't planning a surprise engagement at the weekend trip!

I never understand these posts where women say their partners forgot their birthdays. My DH doesn't get a chance to forget!! In the run up to my birthday I'll mention it several times, give suggestions for presents, say what birthday breakfast I'd like, talk about the plans for the day. It would be impossible for poor DH to forget! Do people just never mention their birthdays when they're just about to happen?! It almost feels like they're trying to catch their partners out or testing them.

Haven't you discussed this birthday in the last couple of weeks, like what you're doing for it, going out, a meal etc.?

Is he a forgetful person in general? I couldn't get worked up about it. My husband forgot my birthday last year, I gave him an hour then asked him where my birthday breakfast was. He felt like a dick but would have felt worse if I hadn't told him all day! Also happy birthday ❤ let him know and enjoy your evening

Edited- so sorry just seen your updates. He sounds like a nob in that case. Shitty birthday for you but better to be rid of him now than later down the line. It will get better

Of course I did, I asked on the day even as got more and more upset by it all. He has never offered an explanation, that was 8 years ago. Still annoys me 😰

That’s awful, you are best off without him. Not a nice way to find out though 💐. Celebrate without him later in the year.

Oh no!!! I find that awful and actually impossible to do!!

Could he of been doing something big as a surprise?

I had a feeling it was going to be something like this but that doesn't fit with his previous behaviour.

Anyway, now he's dumped, let's redesignate tomorrow as your birthday! I hope you have a lovely time with your family and friends at the weekend.

Happy Birthday OP 🎂