I want my partner to leave the house after stealing from me

[Sandbaby]

I’ve been a victim of long term financial abuse. The details and extent of this have only come to light recently.
I have asked him to move out for the sake of my emotional/mental wellbeing, but he has refused.
I am the sole owner of the house (title deeds) and we are not married or in a civil partnership.
What are my rights?
Thanks

what did the police say op?

Hope you get the bastard out. Stay strong.

@Sandbaby I'm so sorry OP. He's a total shit. Just explain to utility and council tax on the phone- as the house is in your name it should be easy to sort

He has no rights whether he has contributed or not.
The police will say its a civil matter and you'd have to pay court costs to get him evicted.
I suggest wait until he goes somewhere, change all the locks and dump his stuff outside in bin bags.
He is entitled to nothing by law.

I don’t want to go into details until it’s sorted.

Change the password for your WiFi, and fit a ring doorbell front and back of property. Change the locks. Hire a storage unit for a week, get friends round and pack his bags when you know he's going to be out for a few hours and pay a "man and van" to deliver his stuff to the storage unit.

Go in person to a local police station, tell them the situation then they can put a note on your address in case he returns and kicks off, they'll have some background when they arrive should that be needed. Don't hang back on calling them if you need them.

Re the utility bills don't panic, get in touch with Octopus, good customer service, and ask them if they can transfer them from the existing provider, you will be able to give them the meter numbers etc and explain the situation. They will be glad to take the business on more than likely, and he won't want to continue paying for power for a house he's no longer living in.

There's only one way out of this and that is through, don't fear, do it.

No advice, just to say so sorry this happened but well done for taking action and good luck

Glad you've
Got the police on board -
Good luck

Are you going to allow him see his kids?

Thanks all for sound advice and support. It does help. I will update the post when able to……but it’s going to be a long haul xxxx

Any update with you're problem op

Given your previous comments on and reaction to my earlier post at a point when I was in genuine despair, it beggars belief that you would expest me to answe any questions from you.

I’ll be providing an update for all the thoughtful people who took time to give advice and express support just as soon as I can .

No. I’m going to forbid him seeing his 45 and 42 year old sons. 🙄

@Bullyfree Did you have your superman costume ready to go and hang off her downpipe?
Well done OP I hope you get a peaceful solution and you can get on with your life bringing up your 42 and 45yo. X

Has it occurred to you that people's situations might be different to the exact situation your brother finds himself in? Projecting the events that happened in your family onto strangers with no evidence that any similarities exist is really weird behaviour. Maybe pipe down as you have no reason to make such randomly critical and irrelevant comments.

Call the utility companies with current meter readings and explain you own the property and are sole occupier, start an account from now.

I'm so sorry OP- you don't expect this with an older guy.

Well...what can I say? Thanks all 99% of you for your advice and messages of support.( And appreciation to those who stood up to the ironically named "bullyfree") They really helped me in my darkest hour.
I can now speak more freely as today, my ex-partner was arrested today for fraud and misrepresentation. The conditions of bail mean that he will not be allowed back in the house. This follows an intense and very stressful period of gathering evidence, bank visits, police interviews etc while still holding down a full time job. I have had to cancel my long awaited retirement as I have large debts that were run up in my name, not to mention the theft of all my savings and the money left me by my parents.
I want to reach out with a huge hug to other victims of domestic abuse. It's a very surreal and painful experience. I'm a long,long way off getting justice / closure, but at least he is out of the house.
@Bullyfree I really hope you might learn something about posting comments at someone of whom you know nothing, and who may well be in a very vulnerable place. However I fear the stupidity and insensitivity of your comments suggest that you will learn nothing from this.
Huge thanks all and sorry I couldn't answer each and every one of you individually!
❤️

Xxxx

Sounds utterly horrific, I hope you get to recover at least some funds and there is a successful prosecution.

@Sandbaby oh blimey- that's totally terrible.

It's YOUR house, therefore he has absolutely no legal right to be there! Next time he goes out, change the locks and call the police if he gives you grief, the cheeky fucker!

You can select OP's posts only, if you don't feel like reading the whole thread. It will stop you posting late to a thread and missing the important updates.

When you said the age of your ' children ' I realised you are my age / my age + a little / my age - a little :)

Then when I read your latest update, well done I bet that was hard going gathering all the evidence and keeping your cards close to your chest but you have done it !

However - the bastard has wiped you out financially ! I hope he rots in hell but he won't !

I hope your ' children ' are supporting you.

xx - un mums netty kisses

@Sandbaby can't help but wonder if he made sure he was on the utilities to give him 'proof of address' - I'm gobsmacked by what an arsehole he is. Were there no red flags at all along the way??