Fuming at boyfriend ruined Christmas

[LydiaRebecca14]

So....
me and my partner don't live together. My house is council, he owns his own house. Neither house is big enough as I have 3 children etc so maybe in the future ...

We agreed I'd cook Xmas dinner at his house as he has a table, much bigger kitchen etc.

We was going to go Xmas food shopping last night together... we said we'd go late to miss the busyness. My baby sitter let me down for my 5 year old so we agreed to go this morning (he was annoyed)

This morning i rang him and said I'm leaving at 9.30 I wanna be at shop for 10 cus it will get busy... he said you'll have to wait or go alone cus I'm bleaching my floors!! I said u can bleach your floors later?

So I went alone with my 5 year old.
It was manic. I then drove 15 miles to his house to drop the Xmas food off that we'd be cooking at his house.
He helped get the stuff out the car, my son then got out the car and went to go in his house to see his cats and he flipped cus he was freshly hoovering and shouted at my son to get back in the car. He was horrible. I obviously told him not to speak to my son in that way and especially my 5 year old. We've been together some time now and he usually good.

I said how on earth can I bring 3 kids here for Xmas day with your OCD and mood like this? It's crazy. He is 46 lives alone.no kids.

Anyway... he's just turned up and dumped all the food at my door we was supposed to be cooking together. There's loads of it. I can't even fit it all in my fridge.
I'm so hurt. So now all the plans have changed. I'm doing Xmas dinner alone at my house with the kids. It's put a right spanner in the works for me.

When he was walking out the door he said happy fukin Xmas yeah.
I'm sat in total shock. And he slammed the door so hard.

What a gigantic baby. I would send him a text saying I hope he enjoys the shit, lonely day he's created for himself and then block on everything.

Bleach is bad for cats.

OP sorry this happened but you can still have a lovely day with the children.

I'm really sorry this happened to you.

It doesn't matter about the size of the kitchen, or about your pans, or even your awful ex.

The only thing that matter is that your children have a happy day. That is your only goal here, and the one you will feel best about by the end of the day. Even if you wave ham sandwiches.

He's obviously someone who doesn't handle stress and needs to make it so one else's fault rather than own it. That's not something you want for you and your children long term. Honestly.

Happy Christmas - this could be the start of a much happier life.

I'm on my own with kids today too, good luck. You can do this xxx

omg! Why did you say "maybe someday"?? You can't really be planning a someday with him. This is who he is. You should have had a cozy and festive time cooking together and he did that? Your kids witnessed it too. Even if just for the kids you can't let that go on.

Don’t spoil your kids Xmas over this loser, you don’t get many with them. Have a magical day with them at home, be happy and cheerful, if you can’t face cooking, don’t, order a takeaway. What doesn’t fit in the fridge put outside or in the car boot it’s probably cold enough to keep.

Make the best of the day OP, you have lots of lovely Christmas food, you have your children, you can celebrate with them in a peaceful home where they won’t be yelled at for being normal kids. That man is definitely on Santa’s naughty list - block his miserable arse forever!

You've dumped him I see, good.

Now stop crying and make a plan for getting a nice dinner cooked for you and your kids. If you can't do it all, do the important stuff. If some gets wasted, it's only once and its not your fault. Have a nice, family Christmas and plan your new life without that horrible man.

Well she's not with him now. That's the whole point of the thread.

You can leave drinks etc outside. It's cold enough.

He is 46 lives alone.no kids.

Bleaches his floors. Can't do that later in order to help you with the food shop like he agreed to, and that he'd be eating too

Goes mad if a child stands on his carpets.

How very surprising 🤔

He's not relationship material.

He's bachelor material.

That's why he's in the circumstances, he's in.

Get rid. He sounds awful.

He hasn't ruined Christmas, he's done you a massive favour in showing you what an arsehole he really is.

Start 2024 without him.

It’s cold enough outside for stuff that won’t fit in the fridge. You can turn this around!

Hey guys thanks for all of you giving me strength. Here's my Christmas dinner. All the kids have the same. I did it !! I know it looks dry... not put my gravy on yet lol.
Good riddance to shit xxxx

That looks amazing, your kids will be having a much better, peaceful Christmas Day without him. That's the best gift you can give them. Here's to the rest of your life free of his shit

Looks absolutely delicious well done you!!

Looks delicious OP! You are a great cook and a great mum.. don’t take him back you can do a lot better! Merry Christmas

That dinner looks amazing and I agree he has done you a favour in the long run.

@LydiaRebecca14 do NOT give in when he inevitably comes crawling back later tonight feeling sorry for himself and guilt tripping. Tell him to go bleach his eyeballs or something.

It's actually a great Xmas present from him. Vital information. Dear @LydiaRebecca14 I am a massive cunt and you shouldn't waste another second on me.
Xmas Dinner looks great BTW. 🎅

Eyeballs, or...

Well done you for making a great day out of the drama.

Enjoy your dinner and your evening with your DC and I hope grumpy nuts is sulking and eating a pot noodle alone

@LydiaRebecca14 well done to you. I'm so sorry you have had to deal with this but you deserve a massive hug for holding it together and showing up for yourself and your kids. Enjoy your day and I hope 2024 bring you only the good things you deserve.

Brilliant, OP. That meal looks lovely.

And you got a very special Christmas gift from the Universe - your freedom