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Husband doesn’t want me to to post anything on socials

111 replies

NewMeNewUs · 22/12/2023 22:53

My husband has an instagram profile and a Facebook profile but he hasn’t been active on their or posted anything for approx a year now.

Today he asked me not to post any pictures of the kids on socials anymore as it makes him uncomfortable and now they are getting older he doesn’t think we should put pictures up of them without their permission.

and then tells me he doesn’t want any pics of him on there either!! It’s got my back up…..feels very weird to me! Would you be worried something else is going on…..?

OP posts:

ChateauDuMont · 23/12/2023 12:24

I agree with your husband.

If you want to show family who are far away, photos of your children then send photos by email rather than putting them on social media.

Twinklewonderkins · 23/12/2023 12:26

My partner has a very old FB he doesn’t use and no other SM. I don’t put any pictures of him on SM as he doesn’t want this. It’s fairly common.

yarnwitch · 23/12/2023 12:34

Wetweatherandmud · 23/12/2023 09:05

You sound suspicious of him OP and I'll go against most posters and agree that it might be. Has he given you reasons to think that he's hiding his family life? Has his behaviour changed in other ways. I'd certainly be alert if so.

I agree with this.
However I think his thoughts regarding photos of your children are sensible.

Mouse82 · 23/12/2023 12:48

Privacy and your child | eSafety Commissioner
Associate Professor Amanda Third
Involving your child in taking and sharing photos of them can be a great learning experience as well as demonstrating what respectful behaviour looks like.

tomatoontoast · 23/12/2023 12:53

gamerchick · 23/12/2023 12:11

yhk · Today 10:33
I don't have any social media accounts

apart from Mumsnet?

People can say there's a difference all they want but it's still SM

It's not though.

It's an anonymous forum. What about it is social when you don't know the posters identities?

ChateauDuMont · 23/12/2023 12:56

Mumsnet isn't social media.

It's an anonymous forum.

BurbageBrook · 23/12/2023 14:43

I think as long as your profile is private it's up to you whether you post your kids or not. Just as it's up to him whether he posts the kids on his.

Womencanlift · 23/12/2023 15:09

ChateauDuMont · 23/12/2023 12:56

Mumsnet isn't social media.

It's an anonymous forum.

This! I always think people are losing the argument when they say a discussion forum is the same as a social network such as FB or IG

Echobelly · 23/12/2023 15:13

Seems reasonable to me, bit unsual not wanting pictures of himself either, but he's in his rights to ask. That's not asking you not to post anything on social media - I could manage mine without having pics of DH or kids if they didn't want, and we never name our kids on it.

GodDammitCecil · 23/12/2023 17:41

onlyoneoftheregimentinstep · 23/12/2023 07:22

This is Mumsnet - so many posters who disdain social media. Oh the irony!

Are you being obtuse?

Or do you genuinely not see the difference between an anonymous discussion forum and social media….?

Easipeelerie · 23/12/2023 17:43

It sounds a reasonable request.
If the request is in the context of him being a bit controlling in various ways, I’d be worried. If he’s kind and loving and this is a stand-alone request, sounds fine.

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