Mid-life break ups - do men find it easier to find new partners?

[Whatsgoingonwithmyhead]

The men I know of who have become single again in mid-life (late 30s onwards) all seem to have found it easy to find new female partners (including both new flings & new long term relationships), irrespective of objective attractiveness.

Whereas women have found it harder, even if attractive.

Is this a thing?

Indeed. The 'high value' mature men are connecting with younger women.

@Aikko and @nameForThis99
Yes you are correct. The more attractive and normal men aged 44-55 are dating younger women largely because they can.
This has several outcomes (in general)
Reasonably sorted and attractive women in the 45-55 age group are choosing to stay single rather than date men who are in their 60s and beyond.
There are therefore a lot of somewhat reluctantly single women (44-55ish) and men (60+) who are even more reluctantly single.
It's the women who tend to do better though because they are self sufficient and usually have strong friendships.
The 20s/30s women who get together with the 45+ middle aged divorced men are then going to be faced with a much older partner just as they themselves are hitting their prime.

Oh I didn't realise it was a "make old men feel like they will get younger women" thread 🙄
If it makes you feel better guys!

They will up to a point, but then it stops (I feel) when women hit their 45+ years.
There comes a point when an dating an older man ceases to become an attractive prospect. In fact it becomes ick.

Probably didn’t help that Stevie Nicks spent years addicted to cocaine and alcohol during the height of the FM fame , that might have put Buckingham off a bit

My dm's summing up of that was that 'men just look for sex, a chair, a fridge and a tv.' 😀

Maybe she was a little unfair but I think she meant that men are not fussy.

Yes I agree - I don’t think it’s a good thing, but it’s definitely a thing.

just look at the comments on this thread basically say that middle aged men are an unwashed, emotionally illiterate waste of space, I don’t think that’s a good thing either, but there must be some truth in that also

why do you post it like it's some kind of gorcha! Yes, I hope that poster's FWB is very happy with the arrangement, otherwise it won't last if one partner wants something else.

For sure.
The 10%-20% of men that have their shit together, are well adjusted, emotionally available, attractive - get snapped up fast and date similarly attractive women who are in their prime years 20s and 30s, because they can,… this leaves a large proportion of the great unwashed for everyone else- and those are the men that most of us end up interacting with as we get older, particularly through dating websites and apps.

The 10%-20% of men that have their shit together, are well adjusted, emotionally available, attractive - get snapped up fast and date similarly attractive women who are in their prime years 20s and 30s, because they can,… this leaves a large proportion of the great unwashed for everyone else- and those are the men that most of us end up interacting with as we get older, particularly through dating websites and apps.

FAR too much of a generalisation.

Many of the 20% of men who 'have got their shit together' end up single later in life through no fault of their own (just like women can.)

And I don't agree that only 10-20% of men are 'shit-free'.

If they are, what kind of sons are women raising? That's the real question!

Most men who are 'on the market' in their 40s or older have been married, or in a long term relationship.

They aren't all dickheads. Some have been left by their wives, some are widowed, some have never found the right person and prefer to stay single rather than compromise.

Too much cynicism here.

Bingo, dont think women are as needy.

But why not ?
looks at all the negative on this thread about men , and here a poster using a man for sex and vice versa , maybe this the new normal and middle aged just men aren’t interested in relationships anymore 🤷‍♀️

maybe this the new normal and middle aged just men aren’t interested in relationships anymore 🤷‍♀️

Some. But most of the people on this thread agree that middle aged men seem to jump into a new relationship before the ink on divorce papers is dry, they seem to be quite interested in that. Whereas women are more likely to stay single.

So if you go onto Tinder I would say about 50 per cent are after short term fun or "still figuring it out" - and fair enough for being honest. But those same men are on other apps or other men in the same mindset and aren't saying what they are after because of how the app works, or just aren't saying.

The biggest problem I find is meeting men who are interested in a serious relationship and are emotionally available. They just seem to burn through women. I get it, if you are a guy in your 50s have left a long marriage, your kids resent you and see their mum as abandoned, leaving a woman you have met on OLD after 18 months because it's getting a bit hard just isn't a big deal.