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Partner's 'thing' about heels

102 replies

Leanne185 · 19/12/2023 10:02

My partner seems to have an excessive interest in high heels and is desperate for me to wear them during our intimate moments as a turn on for him. Is this common amongst guys and should I just agree and embrace this or a flat out no-no ?

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Coconutter24 · 19/12/2023 18:35

I’d much rather stick on a pair of heels than have him interested in my bare feet 😂😂
That being said it doesn’t matter if people think it’s normal or not, all that matter’s is wether you feel comfortable or not to wear them

AnonyLonnymouse · 19/12/2023 18:39

LifeofBrienne · 19/12/2023 11:16

Love the MN promotions appearing on this thread - ‘foot warmers’, ‘best white trainers’ and ‘comfortable shoes’. Not sure any of those would quite match his fantasy!

Some of them could be er, adapted?

One could consider taking it from behind while enjoying wonderfully cosy feet! 😂

RH1234 · 19/12/2023 18:52

Blokes opinion again…

I love my wife’s legs, but when she wears heels (I.e when wearing a dress out etc), I can’t stop looking at them and she knows it too.

I wouldn’t necessarily request them in the bedroom, but they certainly are a good sign from her for later that night..

I personally think they make her feel great too, but the key is she wants to wear them too.

Daleksatemyshed · 19/12/2023 19:55

As @GarlicGiftsAndGlitter says it's not a problem unless his interest in high heels is too excessive. Anything where a man is too focussed on one thing can make you feel like anyone would do as long as their fetish object was present.

BCBird · 19/12/2023 20:02

My ex asked me if I had any heels. I didn't. Was happy to get a pair- cheap from.New Look. I only did it because I was happy to do so. Did not.wear them.every time had sex. Apparently they make your legs look sexy? Made the bunions invisible 😂

VolvoFan · 19/12/2023 20:03

RH1234 · 19/12/2023 18:52

Blokes opinion again…

I love my wife’s legs, but when she wears heels (I.e when wearing a dress out etc), I can’t stop looking at them and she knows it too.

I wouldn’t necessarily request them in the bedroom, but they certainly are a good sign from her for later that night..

I personally think they make her feel great too, but the key is she wants to wear them too.

You sound like my DH. He's a leg man. Just so you know, we, or at least the vast majority of us have no issue with it. We love that there is something that turns you on so easily.

crumpet · 19/12/2023 20:05

Would it enhance your pleasure? If not then don’t. Sex which is only good for one person is crap sex

RH1234 · 19/12/2023 20:10

VolvoFan · 19/12/2023 20:03

You sound like my DH. He's a leg man. Just so you know, we, or at least the vast majority of us have no issue with it. We love that there is something that turns you on so easily.

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Haha I know, my wife tells me how easy it is, but that she loves it.

On a side note, my wife has asked me to wear something before and I didn’t bat an eyelid.

Sex is meant to be fun, exciting and not taboo. As long as both parties are consenting and happy that’s the main thing. What feels right for one couple (or throuple or more.. depends what floats your boat), isn’t going to be right for others, but if you’re not hurting anyone/isn’t illegal etc. it’s your own choice.

OP do what’s right for you.

PieAndLattes · 19/12/2023 20:10

I’d be fine with heels and some risqué underwear, but if he asked to dress as a furry or wanted to wear the heels and stockings I’d be out of there!

BashfulClam · 19/12/2023 20:13

My DH is a leg man. He’s not really into heels but stocking or tights are something that really turn him on (like a pp sheer tights are his favourite). Occasionally I wear stockings under a dress if we are going out and let him find out as he usually runs a hand up my leg. He can’t get me home fast enough when I do that. I wear them often during sex. I have things I like him to do so it’s definitely a 2 way street and he makes me feel really sexy if I’m wearing tights/stockings with how he reacts.

VolvoFan · 19/12/2023 20:17

BashfulClam · 19/12/2023 20:13

My DH is a leg man. He’s not really into heels but stocking or tights are something that really turn him on (like a pp sheer tights are his favourite). Occasionally I wear stockings under a dress if we are going out and let him find out as he usually runs a hand up my leg. He can’t get me home fast enough when I do that. I wear them often during sex. I have things I like him to do so it’s definitely a 2 way street and he makes me feel really sexy if I’m wearing tights/stockings with how he reacts.

Oh that is so sweet! 😍I'm a puddle of 'D'aaaw!' right now 😁I love relationships like this so much!

I'll pull myself together now. Sorry about that. clears throat

BashfulClam · 19/12/2023 20:27

@VolvoFan it works for us. I’ve also lost a shit ton of weight and he keeps saying how amazing my legs look (he said that when I was tubby too tbh).

VolvoFan · 19/12/2023 20:30

@BashfulClam and long may it continue. The love you have is true and will stand the test of time.

category12 · 19/12/2023 20:48

If the guy is only interested when you wear heels, then yeah, it would be a bore and a problem, but as an extra turn on occasionally, it seems like no big deal. Also, if he wasn't prepared to try anything that you wanted to try in the bedroom and it was a one-way street, then it would be shit.

It's whether you're being expected to "perform" for the guy and getting nothing out of it or whether it's about mutual adventures/pleasures, isn't it really?

I'm not recommending anyone does anything they don't want to do, but if you think something might be fun or you're not off-put by the very idea, why not give it a go. If you don't like it, stop and don't do it again.

LifeofBrienne · 19/12/2023 22:27

AnonyLonnymouse · 19/12/2023 18:39

Some of them could be er, adapted?

One could consider taking it from behind while enjoying wonderfully cosy feet! 😂

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Now you’re talking 😄

TheMarzipanDildo · 19/12/2023 22:35

threecupsofteaminimum · 19/12/2023 14:36

Nothing wrong with it. Unless he's like one of my exes as a 20 something who was very posh, he wanted me to walk on his back and kick him in the bollocks in them.Confused

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MrsSkylerWhite · 19/12/2023 22:56

DixonD · Today 17:58

MrsSkylerWhite · Today 10:37

If he’s so keen, he can wear them.
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But why? It’s nice to indulge our partner’s fantasies sometimes - isn’t that what sex is all about? Provided of course that everyone is happy and consenting. On the grand scale of things, wearing heels is extremely “

Because they’re bloody uncomfortable! I was once able to run for a bus in them. As a result, I have nasty old gnarly feet now. Sorry mate, but I’m not putting them back on again for even 10 minutes, however much I love him (which is a lot, still, after 35 years). It would be akin to me asking him to don a mankini, comfort wise 😁

gannett · 19/12/2023 23:42

This is one of those things that doesn't get me going at all, but I'd be happy to do for a man because it's not a turn-off either. And it is a turn-on knowing how much you're turning someone on, if that's not too meta.

In practice this has rarely happened because I don't wear heels, so I don't own heels, so any man who's wanted to see me in them has been disappointed at the first hurdle.

As far as mild kinks go it barely raises my eyebrow but if you feel uncomfortable or turned off then you shouldn't do it.

DinoDays · 20/12/2023 00:02

Never met a middle aged man who doesn't like heels!

As long as you're comfortable, go for it!

Yellowroseblooms · 15/03/2024 05:16

I'm about to donate a pristine pair of expensive stilettos to the local op shop because I just can't face the thought of forcing my feet into them under any circumstances. I suppose it would depend on on whether he expected you to walk in them.

Yellowroseblooms · 15/03/2024 05:16

Oops sorry, an old thread.

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M74 · 25/08/2024 08:50

Another bloke here...

I love a woman in heels, but I like feet too, so maybe there's a connection. It really is quite common for men to like women in heels and, given the way a lot of women obsess over shoes, you can't really blame men for thinking it's acceptable.

For anyone who can't walk in heels - don't worry, you don't do much walking in the bedroom! A previous girlfriend of mine couldn't walk in anything higher than two inches but she had some bright red four inch stilettos and some stripper shoes for the bedroom.

Box24L · 25/08/2024 11:16

Topseyt123 · 19/12/2023 11:06

If you are OK with it then I guess it is fine. I don't suppose it is unusual but I absolutely wouldn't be OK with it.

I totally hate high heels and never wear them at all. It would be a flat no from me. I don't even own any as I simply can't walk in them. So uncomfortable.

I don’t think he’s expecting her to walk in them 😂

I never wear heels. Never have and don’t even own a pair. But I would be happy to give this a go. My husband being turned on turns me on, and heels are harmless (and painless if not walking in them).

There are so many worse things he could ask for!

Have fun OP, if you decide to give it a go.

Box24L · 25/08/2024 11:24

Bloody old threads 😂

Read the whole thing too.