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Partner's 'thing' about heels

102 replies

Leanne185 · 19/12/2023 10:02

My partner seems to have an excessive interest in high heels and is desperate for me to wear them during our intimate moments as a turn on for him. Is this common amongst guys and should I just agree and embrace this or a flat out no-no ?

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Daftolive · 19/12/2023 11:45

But I would observe that sharp stiletto heels and fine bed linen do not mix!

I love MN Grin

Confused118 · 19/12/2023 11:51

Be happy he's comfortable to tell you this - wear them often!

Cas112 · 19/12/2023 11:51

Why you asking us?

If you want to do it, do it. If not, then dont

FuckingHellAdele · 19/12/2023 11:51

Back in the day, whenever I bought a new pair of shoes, me and DH used to 'christen' them by me wearing them whilst we shagged. A jokey thing really, not a fetish.

Doesn't happen so much now <looks at Birkenstocks and Skechers Go Walks>

Newsenmum · 19/12/2023 12:02

Oh yeah in that case then yeah I thought it it was well known heels were seen as sexy. That’s why women used to wear them I thought. They’re not comfy are they.

Wallywobbles · 19/12/2023 12:08

Exh had a thing for stockings. To be honest I found it so grim that I've blocked it out. So much wrong with sex with him.

MyLadyTheKingsMother · 19/12/2023 12:22

I personally love to play up to my husbands fetishes. It's fun have him like a drooling dog all the time 😂

MyLadyTheKingsMother · 19/12/2023 12:23

Wallywobbles · 19/12/2023 12:08

Exh had a thing for stockings. To be honest I found it so grim that I've blocked it out. So much wrong with sex with him.

You sound fun

GrumpyPanda · 19/12/2023 12:26

He wants them, he can wear 'em. I'd give him his very own pair for Christmas along with a physio voucher to deal with the resulting sprain.

hellsBells246 · 19/12/2023 13:06

Totally normal!!

Aikko · 19/12/2023 13:25

Yup, that's a normal fetish.

waterSpider · 19/12/2023 13:27

Two types of reactions -- your call.

  1. Wear the heels. [men are simple creatures]
  2. Why does he want me to wear heels? What's wrong with me without the heels? Will he leave me if I don't wear the heels? Aren't I enough for him without the heels? What might it lead on to? Where does this desire come from? ...
StrawberryWater · 19/12/2023 13:30

Pretty common. Pretty normal.

Unless of course he's Jerry Brudos.

hellsBells246 · 19/12/2023 13:37

FuckingHellAdele · 19/12/2023 11:51

Back in the day, whenever I bought a new pair of shoes, me and DH used to 'christen' them by me wearing them whilst we shagged. A jokey thing really, not a fetish.

Doesn't happen so much now <looks at Birkenstocks and Skechers Go Walks>

😂😂😂

Same here!

Wallywobbles · 19/12/2023 13:41

MyLadyTheKingsMother · 19/12/2023 12:23

You sound fun

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Unfortunately Exh idea of fun lead up to anal rape, and this was the tip of the iceberg. But I used to be fun and adventurous. Now vanilla is absolutely fine thanks.

FantasyDic · 19/12/2023 14:02

Ugh, not for me I despise feet and foot fetishists but I don't understand how you haven't heard of this fetish and what is there to ask? Because it boils down to you. Your op sounds like you want stories? 🤮🤢

IsThePopeCatholic · 19/12/2023 14:07

Nothing wrong, just another stupid idea about women.

pickledandpuzzled · 19/12/2023 14:09

I dislike the idea that intimacy is about the shoes, not the people.

And I don’t like the way fetish can tend to escalate.

Artesia · 19/12/2023 14:32

Topseyt123 · 19/12/2023 11:06

If you are OK with it then I guess it is fine. I don't suppose it is unusual but I absolutely wouldn't be OK with it.

I totally hate high heels and never wear them at all. It would be a flat no from me. I don't even own any as I simply can't walk in them. So uncomfortable.

Am not sure being able to walk in them is a pre-requisite in this situation. He's not asking her to do laps of the bedroom wearing them.

threecupsofteaminimum · 19/12/2023 14:36

Nothing wrong with it. Unless he's like one of my exes as a 20 something who was very posh, he wanted me to walk on his back and kick him in the bollocks in them.Confused

Bobbotgegrinch · 19/12/2023 14:36

Not the exact same thing but I've got a thing for tights / stockings.

I couldn't logically explain why I have a thing for them, or where it came from, but I just know that I'm more likely to notice an attractive woman if she's got a pair of tights on, or that DP wearing a pair of tights is pretty much guaranteed to get me in the mood.

I don't think there's anything wrong with it, there's a lot of women on here who say that a man in a smart shirt with the sleeves rolled up makes them weak at the knees, it's the same thing really.

However, it veers into creepy when it starts interfering in your sex life. If I started dictating that I wanted DP to wear stockings every time we slept together, or if I couldn't get aroused without that stimulus, then somethings gone seriously aroused.

For a start it'd probably be a bit of a mood killer for DP, and I'd much rather have a DP without stockings and really up for sex than the reverse.

DGConsultant · 19/12/2023 14:41

Just from a practical standpoint, balance and comfort are certainly considerations here, and your partner should think about both.

Redrose23 · 19/12/2023 14:42

Blimey…..wearing all sorts of get up in the bedroom is normal. For such a “liberal” site (and I’m not a liberal by any stretch” a lot of ladies in here are acting like she’s been asked to dress up as a hotdog or something. Heels are sexy, so are numerous other costumes and types of underwear, how is it remotely weird? It’s no news is it that many men are very visual. I delighted in dress up, I was the one getting the outfits, outfits turned to role play, makes things a bit more naughty and exciting when you mix it up a bit. Don’t stop at the heels, ask him more, does he like your sexy office getup, or maybe stockings and nice underwear, or was he envisaging more just the heels? Ask questions and make it fun

Fraaahnces · 19/12/2023 14:46

Buy him some of his own for Christmas @Leanne185 Insist that he schlepp around in them for 48hrs - in public, taking the dog for a walk, uo and down stairs, supermarket, etc. You might discover which way his kink goes

Casimira · 19/12/2023 14:46

Blimey. I'd say it's a fairly common turn-on, so as long as you're comfortable with it, give it a try. I certainly wouldn't class it as weird.

I did however once have a sexual partner ask me to stamp on his balls whilst wearing stilettos. That was met with a firm no.