He bought a women home

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My husband and I (both 31) have been married for 8 years, together 10.
He works in a male dominated industry, there are 3 women in his department, the other 15 are men. One of the females colleagues has been working on a project with him for a month and a half.

Two weeks ago he invited her back to our home without telling me. They were in the house for half an hour and he tells me she was just waiting whilst he got ready.

I think I'm overreacting and need others to tell me so. But I'm so upset about it that I haven't told anyone, not my best girl friends or family.

I just think if the shoe was on the other foot and it was me that had done that he'd be so jealous.

To help with context our relationship doesn't usually have jealousy like this, we both have our own hobbies, neither been jealous of others flirting with us, no abuse from either side of relationship. We function well and communicate well. Both have had therapy, due to individual problems not relationship ones.

What’s your problem? Stop trying to gaslight OP, because that’s what you’re doing. I know how many men and women work with my DH…I’m not jealous. Just because you couldn’t care less doesn’t mean we all need to be like you. As for the ‘are you ok op, you don’t sound ok’ top level gaslighting going on there, absolutely horrible what you were trying to do with your replies.

Thought I would slip that one in

Thought I would slip that one in

The worry is that the gas engineer would have the same thought.

Maybe he should sit down very very carefully

Positioning is very important, especially with such a delicate job.

Feed what back? To whom?

Maybe it’s because the same thing happened to me with my ex. The relationship was normalised because it was his sisters best friend so nobody batted an eyelid !

My ex would do this sort of thing then tell me to triangulate me with the 'other woman'. He was a very manipulative abuser and a subtle liar.

@C2197 I'm sorry that happened to you, what a scumbag. Many of us have been the victim of cheating husbands but it's not healthy to project that into suspicion of other people. Nobody should be having a relationship with somebody they don't trust.