How often do you have sex?

[Mothersmith89]

I want some honest answers here. because me and my husband have been together 15 years and for the past 6 years have had sex probably roughly 4 times a year. Im still young (34) I’m really struggling but I don’t want it with him anymore. Apart from that our relationship is good. Please help : (

ps - we openly talk about it. We know it’s a problem. Or is it?

Never really, he's not that interested. Which is a bit sad.

DP is always in the mood and it's me that just cba a lot of the time. It a difficult subject in our house.

Been together 6 years, late 30s with a toddler. Something happens mostly 3 times a week, however isn't always full sex, that's maybe once a fortnight sometimes more often. I think it goes down in winter when it feels so late so soon in the dark.

Mid 40s with a teen and pre teen at home. Once a week at least but when we get a sneaky long weekend away daily. Definitely affected by stress and tiredness, also if I feel desirable or not - this is totally on me though as to whether I've put on weight for example.

I'm the same age as you, we have been together 20 years. Sex about 2/3 times per week (only exception when I'm on my period and if one of us is poorly)
Sometimes I don't feel that is enough when it's only 2 times per week.
Everyone is different, how much do you feel comfortable with?

We are mid 50s been married 15 years. Sex is once a week now, I’m struggling with vaginal atrophy thanks to breast cancer drugs, penetration is often not possible.

43 here and we just had a half row about it, I’m a morning person and he’s a night one and this year we just haven’t been able to sync and somehow it’s world out as roughly once a month (tbf kids have been sick since October and we all had Covid). Neither of us can believe we’ve got here but saying that I am loving getting sleep …

We're the same, we both have low sex drives and always say we need to make more of an effort then don't. We've been together 13 years and I'm 32

Late 50s/early 60s; once a week or so, occasionally more, occasionally less. Not too bad for 2 post-menopausal old bats!

once a quarter haha that made me laugh, so formal : )

How did you get it back on the cards? Sounds like what I am going through

Middle aged and recently divorced. When married had it once a week. My ex would have wanted more and I would have wanted less, so settled on once a week.

Married, three kids, about same age as you. Twice a month, we try every week but it's hard to keep up. I actually put it in the diary lol

About once a week/fortnight now, which I would like to change to being more regularly now that a stressful work situation has ended.

I think a lot of what we as a couple need to do is to almost ‘schedule’ times when it can happen. DP tends to leave for work early in the mornings 6 days a week and doesn’t like to wake me, and he’s naturally more keen in the morning. That then means it’s a Sunday or next week scenario, which can feel like a bit of a pressure.

I think we have compatible sex drives, but different body clock/lifestyles. I like sitting on the sofa and having a cuddle after a dog walk or an evening, which I think would instigate some action, but he just will not sit still! It’s hard to create natural intimacy when he absolutely must hoover the boot of the car or some other task.

52 & 51. Probably a few times a month, mainly at weekends. So tired in the week with work. Definitely my desire has dipped after menopause but it was quite high so hasn’t gone too low.

I’m struggling massively, my husband has ED and we haven’t had sex for 7 months. I’m seriously considering leaving, when you say another outlet, you mean affair?

I'm out 50s, married 5 years, sec on average once a week

Late 30s, together nearly 20 years, 2dc.

3-4 times a week usually. Every other day on average. It’s a very important part of our relationship.

Yup, this. For us it was Fridays.

Mid-30s, kids 3 and 6, two extremely demanding jobs and a horrible couple of years during which we spent a huge amount of time apart due to his work, and he dealt with it really poorly leaving me feeling resentful, abandoned and taken for granted…. About 1-2x a year?! We have SO much work to do on our relationship, but it doesn’t feel like all is lost. We’ve been through difficult stages before and got things back on track, so I’m not hugely worried.

Every other day, generally. Rarely less than once every 3 days. We tend to discuss and plan it in if it's been longer for any reason. That discussion is more appealing than it sounds

I genuinely notice the difference overall if the intimacy slips. I wouldn't compromise again on this.

I'm 31. My partner is 46 and we're at it twice a day lol
Absolute rabbits. We've got 3 kids but we fit it in. Sex isn't a chore in my house, we just can't leave each other alone x

Once a week, both in our early 20s. Sometimes more, sometimes less. We have matched libidos but very different sleeping patterns, I think we’d do it more if it wasn’t for that! Both happy with how things are though which is the main thing

Forst Husband, once a week or so. Less towards the end, due to separate bed because of his snoring. Husband 2, once a fortnight dwindling to once every month or so, then two years without. Husband 3, twice a day if we could, or as often as life allows.

There is a myth sold to women that physical attraction is not important. I suspect this myth started due to the low number of attractive men past the age of 30 and the fact that a large proportion of men will fuck anything.

Can sometimes go 2/3months without, other times (but rarely) it's 3 times in a week. We are late 30's, together 15 years. Still fancy each other, just tired with young children.