If you had a conversation like the below, how would you feel? I am seriously questioning things. DBF is quite stressed with work but I don't feel that excuses this kind of attitude, but maybe I'm being too sensitive?
I play an instrument, I really enjoy it (and I'm decent) but I'm shy about performing, bf knows this. He has never heard me play because I'm too shy to do it in front of him. I am due to do a small group performance in front of the public soon which is a big deal for the musicians, and partners or friends usually come to watch.
I asked if he was going to come, at first he said no because he'd rather work, then said he'd maybe come but asked if it's a problem if he laughs at us. As it's a serious performance I said yes that really wouldn't be nice. He asked what face I make when I play and he did some silly impressions. He then said maybe he'd come but asked if it's bad if he just doesn't want to.
I just don't feel like giving up 20 minutes to see your partner perform something they love is really a big deal in a warm, caring relationship. I want to support and cheer my friends/family/partners on when they do something that requires effort and/or talent. I feel like this is really telling of his general attitude and has given me a peek "below the surface" into what's in store for the future