OLD - Hello as a first message - instant unmatch?

[Vegandiva]

That’s it really, I’m wondering if anyone has ever had a decent relationship with someone whose first message on OLD after matching is a zero effort Hello, Hi, How are you, Hey, etc. 🙂

Im a bloke and met my wife via OLD about 15 years ago. She initially sent me a 'hi' only message. When I checked out her profile it was a lengthy, thoughtful, witty write up detailing her general outlook on life, hobbies, interests, ambitions etc. Along with lots of nice photos it was clear she had put a lot of effort into it which was absent on many other profiles which often just had a pithy 'email me if you want to find out more' one liner. Im glad i did not delete her message on the basis of just saying 'hi' to me. We swapped half a dozen emails, chatted on the phone and then met for lunch a few days later.

As others have alluded to OLD is a numbers game and there are still lots of women out there who still expect the guy to make first contact. It can be pretty demoralising taking the time to write a thoughtful carefully crafted emails that engages with someone's profile only to get radio silence back. Nobody is entitled to get a response to every message they send of course but you can see how some folk end up pairing back their messages to more simple introductions.

Who wouldn't enjoy an afternoon teaching their mum?!

Don’t blame you. I’m single for first time since early 90’s and it’s pretty grim out there

my hubby is dyslexic so, getting to chat to him off the app, made me understand why he'd just sent 'hi'. hes a lovely good man, who's also quite shy and i wouldnt have realised that if id dismissed the 'hi'

Just thought I would update that the man I gave a chance to who just said ‘Hello’ ended up being incapable of carrying on a conversation, he would ignore almost anything I said and then a few hours later would write again and say ‘hi, how are you, what are you doing’. I gave him two more chances after I said something about it and nothing changed, so I unmatched. He is out of town a lot for his job so it would be important to me that he could communicate effectively when he was away, so it seemed like a non starter.

I think maybe for some of us this sort of thing is important, and others not so much 🙂