DH has controlled everything and made absolutely no effort to do anything with me. He has become so controlling, when I’ve confronted him he says it’s because if he doesn’t do it it will never get done! I’m just more laid-back than him.
So this weekend Friday night 9pm I said do you want to watch an episode of the box set we’ve been watching together “no it’s too late and I don’t want to watch all the episodes too close together” ok so we will just watch an episode when you want then. So he goes off to bed at 10 to 10 on a Friday night. I have difficulties with sleeping so I finally get to sleep at 1am but I was back up at 3am for a bit. 7am he’s up clattering about as he’s going to the gym, then he informs me off his day, he’s taking DS out, then watching the football, the Grand Prix, going for a run then he’s going out with his friend at night. He emptied the dishwasher and took in the online shop as well ( I’m not allowed to do the online shop as I miss things off and go over budget). whilst he was out in his run I went out and bought loads of nice things for me and the DCs to have a nice night in. He got back at 12 midnight I was still up. Today he was hungover which meant we couldn’t have went anywhere as a family, he watched more football and the actual Grand Prix race, did some ironing and made the dinner. So he is doing some housework things but as much as I am.
I said to him yesterday you are so controlling, you control what we eat, the temperature of the house (he hates it being warm he wears shorts and t-shirt all year round) if I put the heating on he’ll turn it off in 10 minutes and say he’s melting. Or open the front door. What we watch. Where we go. ( I hate driving large distances on the motorway so he usually drives). He’s also very tight with money. If we go out he will want to go very early in the morning so we are back 1-2ish so we don’t need to buy lunch out or he will take snacks. We are very comfortable money wise. I work and get to keep most of my wages so I’m not short of money or he keeps it from me but he’s just obsessed about his own money. If we go on holiday he would rather eat a pot noodle in the hotel room than go out for dinner (I kid you not). I will get annoyed and book dinner and pay for it.
So back to the weekend, I could have taken the DC out myself today I suppose or found my own entertainment. I think I’ll be doing that next weekend. I just can’t believe his selfishness. I actually really enjoy when he’s out the house and not complaining about something and I think that tells you something. The DCs and I had a lovely night, the house was toasty warm, I had scented candles on (he blows them out says they stink) I watched what I wanted and I had peace.
if I prefer it when he’s not here it’s telling me a lot isn’t it?