Parents who don't respect their adult children?

[Cookiejar717]

I hope I'm not alone..I'm mid 30s and my mum and dad have always made me feel like a stupid teenager. They never seem to treat me how I'd expect to be treated and they don't seem to respect me how they should respect a woman in her 30s. I know parents will always worry. But they never seem to give me the credit I deserve. Especially my mum. She micro manages my dad too. I bought the family house aged 19 and 3 years ago I split from my kids dad. We've mutually agreed I'll move out and be bought out and he will continue to buy. We are both happy with this..I've spoken to all the right people and I've started viewing rentals. My mum has hidden it from my dad. But she waited until I viewed a house then started nit picking and saying she felt I hadn't been told the right stuff and if I went to visit they'd discuss it with me and look into it. What that means in English is we want to tell you what your doing is wrong, we are right and you have missed numerous things and are about to make the biggest mistake of your life. Her incapability to listen and ask respectful questions and be on my side is non existent. She's straight into expert mode.

Everything from my kids. My pregnancies. My house. My garden. The way I handle things. The plumbing. My friends. My jobs. There's always a comment. They think they can ask me what things cost I buy. They try make me feel I go over the top with Christmas and the kids gifts, I really don't!

Basically constant barking at me. The worst part is my mum sits on fb "hanging out" and "being funny" (or opinionated) and coming across totally different to how she is with me.

I am really struggling to have a life around them. I have a relationship with someone that I split from for 6 months. My mum will go crazy if she finds out. So I am avoiding my kids seeing her now as they will say something.

I'm so sick of dealing with them

I agree with alot of what was said here. I know I'm coming into this thread late but wanted to add it's also sons not just daughters. Although it seems females talk about it more than men.
I recently had a blowup with my mother after a silly comment she made after I came back from vacation. One thing led to another and the same arguments /blowups that we had from years ago resurfaced(I'm in my early 40s). I have basically given up on any respect from either parent, even though we've argued tooth and nail over that too not long ago.
Basically there are parents out there who dont care if your 20 or 60 . you are basically their kid and they dont ultimately respect you or would do it differently than you but feel YOU have to do everything exactly the same way/things they did. Some of it is our faults too because we tell them way too much information without even realizing it sometimes or overtrusting them too much. We talk to them like we would a coworker but that wont cut it. You cannot share anything with them. It's very frustrating.