I got contacted by my fiancée’s ex a few days ago. She made a lot of horrible allegations, and I’m really struggling with this. I haven’t told him yet as I’m unsure what to do.
I know that they had a bad breakup so I’m inclined to take things with a pinch of salt but it’s really hard to see things clearly. She basically told me that he cheated continuously throughout their relationship and gaslit her all the while, and that she only realised when another woman contacted her who he had treated abysmally. That woman was a colleague that he had hooked up with while working abroad.
The thing is that he does travel regularly for work, and often to the same places. I never even thought about it or had any reason to doubt him but now I’m rethinking and questioning so much, and I feel horrible doing this. He left today for a 3 day work event and I feel sick to my stomach because I don’t know what to believe, and I also feel a bit repulsed. I don’t feel like I can talk to someone about this because I feel embarrassed at the same time.
Has anyone else been in this position and what did you do to get clarity? I’m feeling quite insecure right now and I don’t want to ruin everything because of someone’s word.