Omfg

[Lieslies]

I've got to tell someone and best mate is tied up this weekend.

Ex had an affair, I kicked him out just over a year ago, he went straight to live with OW. Fucked me up for a long time. Life is pretty good now.

Had a drunken message 11.30pm last night about something inane. Ignored it.

Had a message tonight sounding like he was crying asking me to call.

Thought about it, called.

Drunken, Oh he still loves me soooo much, it's really hard for him, am I seeing anyone, am I okay, he thinks about me all the time, he'd love to come back even though he knows I'd say no, but he loooooves me.

Jeez. Firm no. But it's left me understandably a bit discombobulated. But also, and I'm not proud of this, a bit satisfied that he's suffering the way he made me suffer.

Just had to get that off my chest!

Have things gone wrong with the OW and he’s now trying to crawl back to you? He obviously now realises what he lost when he left you! What a loser - well done on holding firm and not falling for his nonsense.

Good. Fuck him! Not literally 🤣

Hah! What a twat - he’ll be mortified tomorrow if he remembers.

Ha, yes that did cross my mind as well.

I actually felt a bit sorry for him in that he is stuck in a mess of his own making, whereas my life is really picking up. I do still miss him in some ways, but there's a lot more I'm really happy not to deal with any more.

Good for you that you didn't give into him. Glad you're happy now

He is jealous! Well done you for staying strong. He made his bed, he can literally lie in it! Stay strong and block him if needed. So happy you are feeling better about things x

He just texted sorry I phoned you.

What a knob.

But also, and I'm not proud of this, a bit satisfied that he's suffering the way he made me suffer.

You’re allowed that satisfaction OP.

Hahahaha! Don’t send a reply…he’s a loser.

defo something gone wrong with the OW!

Text back “you don’t have to apologise… you gave me a good laugh” 😂

Ah, just managed to translate bit of drunk talk I couldn't at the time. He was trying to subtlety (but drunkenly and very oddly and slightly insultingly) find out if I'd moved another man in 🤣

What a tosser, give him a wide birth if he calls or texts again.

He's looking for any reason to make contact and conversation.

What a nerve. It's all gone south in affair town, so he's soooooo in love with you.

OP, have a glass of wine and smile at the idiot.

I'd hazard a guess that he's had a falling out with OW!!! Well tough shit buttercup!

I think he's feeling nostalgic. Told me he came to our home town this afternoon and was waiting for the train back to where he lives with her.

I was probably supposed to say yes, please come home darling, and go pick him up 🤣

Classic crawling back.

So satisfying being nonplussed and saying “ok bye then”

It was all a bit weird. Definitely do not ever want him back, but still have some feelings for him I guess, they are taking a while to work through bit by bit. I'm pleased that I'm thinking about all this a lot more than feeling about it, if that makes sense. It might be quite a helpful step to know he wants to be here but I've said no without reservation.

I'm really proud that I didn't rise to any of the bait or get into an argument about the affair, I never got any answers at the time which I found extremely difficult, but I've made my peace with that.

His problem now, not mine.

Good for you OP. Onwards and upwards.

Exes are exes for a reason
poor him lol

'I'm not interested'

Him : Do you still love me?
Me: I just don't think about you.

Him: Are you okay though?
Me: That's not your concern any more.
Him: But I think it is, I'm so so sorry.
Me: No, I stopped being your concern when you started your affair.

I love this. Good on you OP

I had one like that.
I told him I was now engaged to someone else.

That was very satisfying.