Omfg

[Lieslies]

I've got to tell someone and best mate is tied up this weekend.

Ex had an affair, I kicked him out just over a year ago, he went straight to live with OW. Fucked me up for a long time. Life is pretty good now.

Had a drunken message 11.30pm last night about something inane. Ignored it.

Had a message tonight sounding like he was crying asking me to call.

Thought about it, called.

Drunken, Oh he still loves me soooo much, it's really hard for him, am I seeing anyone, am I okay, he thinks about me all the time, he'd love to come back even though he knows I'd say no, but he loooooves me.

Jeez. Firm no. But it's left me understandably a bit discombobulated. But also, and I'm not proud of this, a bit satisfied that he's suffering the way he made me suffer.

Just had to get that off my chest!

Yeah he’ll stop crawling back as soon as he’s made up with the OW

Good girl!

Be proud of yourself

Yeah.

She's probably getting pissed off with his drinking and crappy drunk behaviour. I know exactly what's coming in her door tonight, good, let them both reap what they sowed. That's something I will never endure again as long as I live.

Sounds like the karma bus rolled into town!

And ran him over!

I know! I suspected he wasn't happy and now it's confirmed it serves him right.

I know it's not the right thing to be happy that he's unhappy, but fuck him.

Love it, ha. It's totally went wrong with him and OW. Good for you lovely, stand back and admire the view.

Oh bloody hell he just rang again, declined the call. I know I should block him but I don't mind hearing his 'suffering', makes me feel powerful after he took away all my power for a while.

And again. I'm turning my phone off.

I've been divorced now for 27 years. I heard a quote long ago that I've never forgotten
" You can miss someone without needing to have them back".
Well done for being strong.

Ignore him now OP
youre one up on him
he’ll eventually drop you or say something that will upset you
block him now and move on now
You’ve been through enough suffering I would imagine

I’m pleased he’s suffering too!

@AngelinaFibres there’s a beautiful song by Bob Dylan with that sentiment ‘mama you’ve been on my mind’ (Jeff Buckley’s version is wonderful).

That's the spirit.

It’s not perfect with OW like he hoped
he wants to come back or make you the OW, so he’s got options.
It’s recently occurred to him that you may move on too and that would be a nightmare for his ego, And also for his options should it not work out with ow, so he wants to keep you on the hook.

take the satisfaction that he’s not changed, he’ll never change, and now he’s stuck being an idiot and she’s stuck with him, whilst things are getting better for you. Then don’t reply to him or answer his calls again.

He knows you're moving on and can't bear that he doesn't have any say in your life anymore. He knows he hasn't got any control over you and doesn't like it, that's all this is.

Respect 👏💪@Lieslies

Forward her the texts..

@AngelinaFibres
A brilliant quote. I shall remember that.

OP you’re pretty amazing.

How long were you married for? Do you have children?

@Lieslies oh please dont turn your phone off!! I want to know every word he says!! lol what a crawler! you had a lucky escape x

I too, am delighted he’s suffering. And I hope she trawls his phone while he’s passed out and sees he called and messaged you.

@LucyvanderPelt is that Bob Dylan song not about his mother? (It's a really lovely song, especially the last line)

What a creep.
Things went sour with OW and he wants to crawl back or have an affair with you.
What an offer!

I'd respond to his asking if you moved anyone in with yes, 3 of them. 😂

But seriously, block him.

I know someone whose ex also did the crying voicemail thing. She replied with a recording of a really long burp!

So there was more along the same lines plus how wonderful, intelligent, amazing I am, how much he misses the garden (they live in a block of flats), he's ruined everything, he misses taking part in something we used to do (it's been my thing for decades and I still go), he misses my friends but they must hate him, and how everyone he meets now are all idiots (presumably her friends).

His best friend died a few months ago so I think he's taking stock a bit. And the grass has turned out not to be greener after all.

Oh dear, how sad, never mind.

We were together 10 years but middle aged so no kids. I think the affair started a few months before he turned 60, the thought of which he found very scary. Such a cliche, threw everything away for an ego-boost and now regrets it.