Omfg

[Lieslies]

I've got to tell someone and best mate is tied up this weekend.

Ex had an affair, I kicked him out just over a year ago, he went straight to live with OW. Fucked me up for a long time. Life is pretty good now.

Had a drunken message 11.30pm last night about something inane. Ignored it.

Had a message tonight sounding like he was crying asking me to call.

Thought about it, called.

Drunken, Oh he still loves me soooo much, it's really hard for him, am I seeing anyone, am I okay, he thinks about me all the time, he'd love to come back even though he knows I'd say no, but he loooooves me.

Jeez. Firm no. But it's left me understandably a bit discombobulated. But also, and I'm not proud of this, a bit satisfied that he's suffering the way he made me suffer.

Just had to get that off my chest!

Send his messages to his partner? She needs to get out

OP you are awesome! Loving your replies to him.

It's a great feeling knowing he can't hurt you again. Be careful not to let him start to get under your skin with all his calls though.

So he misses his lifestyle and thinks he is a man so therefore amazing and how can you possibly not want him back.

Yes they are my friends cheating ex, we have lovely gathering in the garden when the weather holds. Need to get your own friends and garden then.

Nah, fuck her, she can live with this.

Good, glad he’s realised the grass isn’t greener and good for you not rising to it

Great. Last night I assumed this was a booty call to avoid having to get a late train home in the rain, but now it sounds like he has more serious regrets. Either way, I would just keep declining his calls. The more he does it, the more he's likely to get caught by the OW.

He knows he is facing a miserable old age cooped up in a flat with the OW who is probably not quite so appealing/sexy/exciting outside of the affair. No wonder he is drinking!
Something you might like to point out to him should he call again.

I'm really surprised he's 60 odd. Your description sounded of a mixed up younger man.

But well done for sticking to your boundaries!

I don't think it's uncommon for x losers to behave like this. There's no gallant behaviour going on there. He's still an arsehole. Just move on and forget it.

You are doing the right thing op, the honeymoon period has worn off in his new relationship and so he's probably feeling an element of regret. He will find someone else to cocklodge with I'm sure. Keeping your head held high and carry on as you were, but if you take a small bit of pleasure in seeing him suffer I wouldn't judge you 😁

If he ever calls again, I'm going to sing this 🤣

😁

If he calls again reply with a link to this thread.

(serves you right, OP’s ex. You were a fool to let her go, she’s fabulous)

Take care OP.
Sounds like maybe he’s getting thrown out of OW’s place soon and he’s looking for somewhere else to live.

Wouldn’t be surprised if next he’ll be asking to stay for a bit ‘until he gets himself sorted’.

Please consider blocking him so you don’t waste any more headspace on him. He will take the fact that you reply, even if it’s negative for now, as a good sign that eventually he’ll hit on a topic that pulls you in. Clearly the garden/mutual interest tactics haven’t worked but he’ll carry on trying.

Well done for being strong so far.
💐

He's never setting foot over this door again, don't worry.

If she kicks him out he can go live with his parents in a bungalow in the middle of a marsh, lol.

If things were working out with OW, you wouldn't be hearing a word from him.

You seem to have your head on right, but that's the thing to remember anyway.

It's only because his affair and jumping ship isn't working out for him that he's trying to jump back on your ship. If things had worked out for him on the new ship he jumped to, while leaving you alone on yours; he wouldn't care if yours had sunk/crashed into rocks ... Whatever metaphor comes to mind.

I agree with the poster who says he might be looking at being chucked out and need somewhere to stay, which is why he's asking the questions about whether you still live alone and don't have a new partner living there.

He wants somewhere to go

If his drinking was affecting you, to be blunt you shouldn't have stayed with him back then anyway. Maybe she's being affected by it now/has seen it and it getting rid

He'd be the same pita drinker if you ever had him back.

He's circulating trash.

Personally OP I think you should block his number. Whilst it is satisfying to know he's realised he fucked up, it drags you back to a place that isn't healthy for you.

He needs is ego boost once more and he thinks he can get it from you.

He doesn't love you any more now then he did went he chose to have an affair. This is all about him, his over exercised opinion of himself that he could get back at the drop of a hat because he's that special. Regardless of what's going on with OW - he believes you'd be grateful to have him back.

What a first class twat.

So I think you should block and delete. There is really nothing useful or helpful for you in these communications.

You're a year on... stay on that high ground, it suits you x

He needs is ego boost once more and he thinks he can get it from you.

Worse than that, it sounds like he needs/wants somewhere to stay from op.

He'd leaking his true intent out all over the place.. mentioning missing living there, missing the garden, asking if she's living alone (is the spot still open/available as partner and co habiter in your house? ..is what that really means).

Wouldn’t have guessed the idiot is 60 yrs old - no fool like an old fool and all that 🥺.

You can block him now as he’s made a royal ass of himself - don’t let him derail your progress - not even for a minute.

And no need to forward the messages. Madam will find out who he is in her own time.

What a twat!

Good

may his suffering continue 😬

but for safety delete his message and stay very low key for a few days and don’t be tempted

Block his number, there's no need for any more communication between the two of you now

I agree it’s the first part of this. Be careful.

I do find it amusing at times when people don't find the grass is any greener over the proverbial fence. Especially when they deserve their fate like your ex.

Once the novelty of hearing him suffer etc wears off please block him. You’d be surprised how ex’s can weasel their way back in a vulnerable moment.